Over it - Love Forum

TenorTwo · #1 (**permalink**) 20-12-05, 11:51 AM

So,

How long is long enough? My ex-girlfriend dumped me over a year ago, not before cheating on me and lying about it for somehwere around a month. That stopped hurting a while ago. I wouldn't go back to her for anything. The way she lives disgusts me.

However, what bothers me is that whenever she is brought up, whenever a friend of mine mentiones her, I'm miserable. I'm reminded of the pain she caused and the months that followed that night of horrid truth, of all that usual feeling of being lost and meaningless. Alll that isolation and pain. The memories of trying to find my place again when no one listened to me or took me seriously.

Does this sound irrational? Should that pain have been long-forgotten by now? Or am I sane?

I'd like some outside opinion.

Late_vamp · #2 (**permalink**) 20-12-05, 12:29 PM

you just need a new girl or to be keept very busy ... get away from being bored and lonely

no it kind of normal but i would say a year is too much ... maybe a couple of months is understandable but a whole year ... get over it .

#3 (**permalink**) 20-12-05, 10:50 PM

I think it's normal. It took me about a year too to get over my last relationship, and there were and still are times that creep up on me - blindside me - and I'll be takin back to that time and remember what it felt like...

But I just use it as a motivating factor - to remember I never want to feel that way again, and as a reminder of how far I've come, and how strong I am.

But like LV said, the best way to get over someone is with someone else.. so keep your eyes open and don't let any opportunities pass you by.

Lloyd95 · #4 (**permalink**) 20-12-05, 10:59 PM

Hey TenorTwo, I went to Muhlenberg College!

TenorTwo · #5 (**permalink**) 21-12-05, 05:11 AM

Oh, I haven't let any opportunities pass by. I have a girlfriend of two months now and the relationship is flawless. More solid than the ones preceding it.

The only thing that bugs me is the thoughts of all the cheating and lying and how badly she handled it. Just gets me all... blech.

But, yeah. I couldn't really care less about her or if I ever talk to her again, so that's not the case.

Lloyd95 · #6 (**permalink**) 21-12-05, 09:23 AM

Did you hear me? Muhlenberg College. It's in Allentown....that's where you're from......get it?

TenorTwo · #7 (**permalink**) 21-12-05, 11:24 AM

WOO for A-town. Represent!