You need to get out of this funk your in. Focus on you. Go out and meet other people. Learn that new hobby that you always wanted to do. Start working out. Don’t get me wrong, breaking up sucks ass. Seeing people you dated or almost married before happily married when your not can get to you also. But do you remember why all this gets to you? It is because your wallowing in the past.
Think about it like this. What if you were a policemen and your partner got killed while you and he/she were on a call? What would the psychologist recommend the department do with you? Kick you off the force? Give you a year off? Hell No! They would have your ass taking the toughest calls soon after the funeral so you would be too busy saving your own life and the life of your new partner to wallow in self doubt and regret about would haves and should haves.
Other parts of life are no different except that there is no one to force you to do what is best for you. Most people don’t have that tough ass friend to push them in the right direction. They are unfortunately left to do this for themselves.
You know what you have to do. You know what is best for you. You have to pick yourself back up out of the trough of self doubt and get back in the game with full force. You don’t have to date right away, but do all the other things that you know you need or want to do. Work out with a vengeance, fix up your place, get your life in order, call your friends back and get new friends as well. As soon as you think you need just one more week before you are ready to date again then just get back in there and date date date.
Your not alone, we all have to do this. Remember that self doubt, and misery never helps you get what you want and need. Buck up and take full charge of your life and happiness, it is the only way.
Good luck
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