HEEEEEEEEEEELP ME, I can't stop thinking about that woman

[Jog]

I don't know i'm crazy or what, I just can't stop thinking of her...she's driving me crazy

OK, so i'm 18 and I finally decided to get a driving licence. So now, i'm studying in the driving school and there's that girl who's driving me crazy, I mean it's love at the first sight or what ? I had girlfriends before, but I never felt anything like that to them...

At the start I didn't pay much attention to her, because I thought that she is much older than me, I thought she is like 23 or 24, but about a week ago I accidentally found out that she is 18 too, and now I'm thinking about her all the time and we are drivng home on the same bus. I want to talk to her, but I can't because she is allways with her friends there (exept when we're in the bus) and I'm a little bit shy, because of her friends. I'm kindda shy person...

The only time I can talk to her is on the bus, but what should I say ? Something like "Hey, we're learning in the same driving school" imho that sounds a little bit stupid. I had two girlfriends in my life and with both of them my friends introduced me and the we went on. But what shoud I say to totally unfamiliar person ???

And the worst thing is that I have only a week !!! After a week I have an exam and I most probably won't ever see her again after that...What should I do ? HEEEEEEEEEEEEELP maybe I should just forget her, after all I don't even know her. Or maybe I should try something...but what...

[Lloyd95]

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Originally Posted by Jog

And the worst thing is that I have only a week !!! After a week I have an exam and I most probably won't ever see her again after that...What should I do ? HEEEEEEEEEEEEELP

Man Up boy! Unless you want to live with the "what if's" for the rest of your live.

There is no way we can make you grow a set, so you're on your own. I was/am always shy too; don't go thru life thinking "if only....".

[Tone]

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Originally Posted by Jog

OK, so i'm 18 and I finally decided to get a driving licence.

Hey those things ARE pretty handy, aren't they?

And listen to Lloyd. This is your last chance - you have to do something. Just go up to her, introduce yourself, and say to her, "Listen - I'd hate to think this is the last time I ever get to see you - so would it be possible I could give you a call sometime so we can get to know each other a little better?"

Somethin along those lines. She either says yes or no. Yes and you're good, call her a couple days later and setup goin for lunch or coffee or something. She says no, no problem. Just means it wasn't meant to be. Move on and keep your eye open for the next girl.

Both those options are VERY much more desirable than the alternative, which is what will happen if you do nothing - you spend the next, however long your mind holds onto the image of her, always wondering "What if" and always wishing you had just said something to her.

We only live once. Make it count.

[Jog]

DAAAAAAAAAAMN HER !!! I live in Europe and I'm trying to get myself to sleep for 3 hours, but I can't because of her, she's in my head all the time. I guess I have no other choise but to ask her out because I won't be able to get her out of my head so easly, I'm gonna ask her out on monday. Damn those women, they are like weapons of mass destruction OK now I sound a little bit crazy, but i'm not I just want to sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep, but I can't

[shh!]

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Originally Posted by Lloyd95

Man Up boy! Unless you want to live with the "what if's" for the rest of your live.

There is no way we can make you grow a set, so you're on your own. I was/am always shy too; don't go thru life thinking "if only....".

Is that true? I never would have guessed.

[Only-virgins]

Walk up to her and say "your in my head biatch! get out!", no really, you either talk to her and see the out come or you know the outcome other wise.

[Late_vamp]

goes go up to her and tell her " hey my name is (wtv) i noticed you at the drivers school ... so whats your name? so how do find it so far ? blahblahblah ...

so when are you doing your exam ?
blablah blah
(take subject from what shes talking about)

ohh really ...so your birthday is coming up soon thats why you want your drivers liscense , so your parents can buy you a car ... so what are you doing for your b-day ? heading to the club ... thats cool , hey why dont you give me your # so we can meet up and do something after your b-day (or before) ...

just thinking real quickly how it could be ... its not hard ... just have to know how to have a convo .

[dan_ford]

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Originally Posted by Jog

I don't know i'm crazy or what, I just can't stop thinking of her...she's driving me crazy

OK, so i'm 18 and I finally decided to get a driving licence. So now, i'm studying in the driving school and there's that girl who's driving me crazy, I mean it's love at the first sight or what ? I had girlfriends before, but I never felt anything like that to them...

At the start I didn't pay much attention to her, because I thought that she is much older than me, I thought she is like 23 or 24, but about a week ago I accidentally found out that she is 18 too, and now I'm thinking about her all the time and we are drivng home on the same bus. I want to talk to her, but I can't because she is allways with her friends there (exept when we're in the bus) and I'm a little bit shy, because of her friends. I'm kindda shy person...

The only time I can talk to her is on the bus, but what should I say ? Something like "Hey, we're learning in the same driving school" imho that sounds a little bit stupid. I had two girlfriends in my life and with both of them my friends introduced me and the we went on. But what shoud I say to totally unfamiliar person ???

And the worst thing is that I have only a week !!! After a week I have an exam and I most probably won't ever see her again after that...What should I do ? HEEEEEEEEEEEEELP maybe I should just forget her, after all I don't even know her. Or maybe I should try something...but what...

I just spent the last hour typing up nearly two pages and I lost it because the system logged me out or something Here it is again but in a nutshell......


The best advise I saw so far is from Lloyd95, "Man up." I would take his advise. I will respond to some of your comments and throw some wisdom your way. Just out of cerousity, how did you accidently find out her age? Secondly, what did you say to the other two women when you were intruduced? Those two girls were unfamiliar, of course you know what to say. You can't talk to her at school because she is with her friends? Wrong! Your kinda a shy person? Wrong again! your not shy, you had girlfriends in the past. You have whats known as a fear. Everytime you see her, these questions are going through you head, "what if she has a boyfriend" "what if she laughs at me" and etc. One of the best ways to overcome your fears is to do what you fear. This is not the only way to overcome fear but its very efficent and it works. Try it! I assume she is a geogrous woman with a perfect body?

" maybe I should just forget her, after all I don't even know her."

lol your making me laugh, you gonna give up on something before you even start. I know you have more "Man" in you, correct me if im wrong? Now for the wisdom. Single beautiful women will wear rings to ward off "wussies" but a "Man" will know better then that and approach her and possibly get a hot date. Women will also often lie about having a boyfriend when they are single to weave out the "wussies". Whats my point? Glad you asked. Guys will have ressistance to approaching women because he might see a ring on her, she might be a perfect 10, she may be lying about a boyfriend and etc. You have to overcome all of the obstacles(including good looks and body) that she is throwing at you and be able to speak to her. This is what seperates the "Men" from the "wussies." A man will get past the obstacles and a wussie will trip and fall on his ass many times over, not even try and run as far away from her as he can to his Mommas house for blueberry muffin and ask her to put ice on his red ass. Follow me? You may be wondering how to get past the obsticles. Simple. Change the mind set that your in. When I get email addresses from beautiful women strangers, this is whats going through my head, There are alot of obstacles that are in my way but shes going to try harder then that to stop me from approaching her. I'm a "Man" and I know better then that. I also try to avoid looking at a womans hair if its nice and her figure because that will make it harder to talk to her. Pretend your talking to a guy if that helps, do anything that helps! It might be hard talking to her on the bus with all those other people around. Your best bet is at the school. Think of a way to get her away from her friends and alone with you. Be creative, the sky is the limit! You can probably say something like, "excuse me mam, can you come over here for a second and help me with something?" or anything else to that extent. Have a serous face on so that nothing looks suspicious. Once the two of you are alone, drop your "game" on her. Get her email and phone number and ride back home together on the bus after school. Obviously its not gonna be that easy. PM me or post on this forum before you do anything. Most likely your gonna screw everything up. GOOD LUCK!

[Blazin Trav]

Just talk to her.

Get her to talk about herself, and be an active listener.

That's my approach, at least.

[dan_ford]

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Originally Posted by Blazin Trav

Just talk to her.

Get her to talk about herself, and be an active listener.

That's my approach, at least.

Easier said then done sir. If you never walked up to a attractive woman in your life, would you be able to approach Paris Hilton and "just talk to her" honestly?!?!? He needs some practice first. My suggestion would be just to go to the mall one day and walk up to as many women as he can and start talking. Maybe start with the average or below average looking women which will be easier and work yourself up to the hotties. It can be as simple as asking for some advice on some cloth. Talk to adult women strangers twice his age at first if this helps. The key is to start!!!! Once you start, the hard part is over and all you need to do is practice and get better at it.

“According to the ancient Chinese proverb, "A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step” John F.Kennedy

[Jog]

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Just out of cerousity, how did you accidently find out her age?

Well, that was accidentally, teacher gave us a paper where we had to write our names and date of birth. I was the last who got it so I could see what everybody had written and she was the first one who got it, so I saw her date of birth.

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Secondly, what did you say to the other two women when you were intruduced?

Well actually nothing, my friends inroduced us and it seemed like we had something in common so we just started talking and so it just went on...

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"what if she has a boyfriend"

Actually I don't care about that, if she has then she'll say no and game's over What am I worrying about ? About myself because I have NOOOOOO idea how to start a conversation with totally unfamiliar woman without sounding stupid because I have never done that .

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Your best bet is at the school.

well the lesson is only lasting 1 hour and without any breaks, so I think my best chance is on the street between driving school and bus stop. Or it's not ?

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He needs some practice first. My suggestion would be just to go to the mall one day and walk up to as many women as he can and start talking.

That sounds kinnda stupid, do peapole really do that ?


So I don't know. I can try it tomorrow on I can do it on friday or on monday, then it's over and I won't have any chances. Well so you have a few days to help me.

[Jog]

So I have a plan to talk to her on friday at the bus stop or catch her on the way to the bus stop. Well, but how should I start ? Like saying who I am and that we are learning in the same driving school and start a conversation about something or just say it the way it is, that I noticed her in the school and would like to ask her out some time or something like that. If everything goes well enough I will call her on sunday and ask her if she wants to go for a lunch or a cup of coffie (I think that's good enough for a first date) on monday before or after driving school. Well actually i'm worrying only about this starting part because if she is a good person and if i'll like her everything will go on as it should be. The hardest part for me is just to get her number or e-mail from her, because I have no idea what to say

[Tired]

okay so you have wednesday, friday, and monday?

take others advice but just try to be friendly with her wednesday and friday, get a little communication going on, make sure she takes notice to you and then on monday when the class is done ask for the number or email or whatver....

its gonna be easier to ask her for her number if you've already talked to her atleast a little bit....you don't want your first words to be "hey whatever your name is, your hot can i have your number?" Play it cool for two of the three days and make your progress then get the number monday...

and a benefit of that is if you ask and she says no on monday, you'll never have to see her again, so you shouldn't have much to worry about

if your a wussie as the guy said...u may wanan try the friendly thing tomorrow and then ask for her number on friday just incase you chicken out you'll have one more day

i myself would TRY to ask earlier then the last possible minute just because i can tend to be a pussy at times (i can't help it )

[Jog]

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i myself would TRY to ask earlier then the last possible minute just because i can tend to be a pussy at times (i can't help it )

he he, me too

well I think I'm gonna just tak to her on the bus tomorrow and ask her number on friday or maybe i'll talk to her on friday and ask her number on monday
I don't know, It depends on situation and on level of my pussyness but I'm gonna do it ! ! ! ! ! ! just don't know when yet

[dan_ford]

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Originally Posted by Jog

he he, me too

well I think I'm gonna just tak to her on the bus tomorrow and ask her number on friday or maybe i'll talk to her on friday and ask her number on monday
I don't know, It depends on situation and on level of my pussyness but I'm gonna do it ! ! ! ! ! ! just don't know when yet

Question for you sir? Is it hard for you to walk up to beautiful strangers? If you said, then you have a fear. Why dont you practice first until you feel good then it will be easier to talk to her. Whats wrong with the mall idea? What other ideas you have on overcoming your fears with strangers? Did you miss a point in my first post? Best of luck to you.