Can it work? - Love Forum

crazyjoe · #1 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 02:03 PM

Alright, I met this really amazing girl like a month and a half ago. We pretty much had crushes on each other since the beginning. I got to see her for a few hours when we first met, and we started talking on myspace. I saw her again on newyears and I asked her out and she said yes. I've seen her twice since then and things are really great like 90% of the time.

The problem is we live 4 hours apart. I've only seen her 4 times in person, but when I do get to see her I usually spend a few days with her. I'm always so happy when I see her in person. I'm usually kinda happy when I talk to her on the phone or AIM, but nowhere near as happy as I am when I see her.

Now here's the problem. We're kinda up and down. I mean, most of the time it's the most amazing thing I have ever felt, but sometimes it's just depressing. Being 4 hours apart is really hard on both of us I think, but she says it's worth it as long as we keep trying to see each other. Also, we're both afraid things aren't gonna work. We probably think about it more than we should, actually.

She means alot to me, and I know I mean alot to her. I'm not sure if we're 'in love' but I know it's really close. We haven't known each other that long, really.

Do things like this work? I try to see her as much as I can, which ends up being once every 1-2 weeks, but I'm still afraid. We've both been afraid togeather on the phone and in person and it's not fun...

I just don't want to get really far and then have things fall apart. Not because I don't want to get really far, but because I'm kinda fragile and she's really fragile. After she broke up with her last b/f she basically cried every night for months... and he didn't even treat her that well...

toohot4pants · #2 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 08:32 PM

lets ignore the 4 hour thing for one second...

afraid that it won't work?!?!?!? do you watch sports? do ever see those players that play scared? they're afraid they'll mess up? they play safe? these guys SUCK. they never do anything right. they never experience success.

nothing risked, nothing gained.

now...4 hours away....yes, it sucks. but it's manageable. i knew plenty of couples that were at different universities several hours apart. but they made time for each other every weekend they could...and during breaks and whatnot.

i'm not a fan of long distance relationships...but they CAN work.

but seriously...for future reference...don't play scared.

Ratfish256 · #3 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 10:44 PM

Dont worry about it man, you both are into each other. Everything else will fall into place.

TAVS · #4 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 10:57 PM

You need to slow your roll brother. You're way too involved for such a short relationship.

Lloyd95 · #5 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 11:01 PM

I agree with TAVS. AFter 3 weeks you can't possibly think you're "In love."
4 hours? Not too bad really, buy a faster car and a good radar detector and turn it into 3 hours.
I'm guessing you're younger, early 20's? Take it slow, if it was meant to be it will work out, and don't keep fretting about it not working out; you're occupying your brain too much with negative thoughts; thoughts that could be better spent about her.

toohot4pants · #6 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 11:49 PM

oh, right...listen to them up there. do not mistake infatuation, lust, or any other desirous tickle for 'love'...be careful there, and slow down...love is a marathon...

#7 (**permalink**) 20-01-06, 11:52 PM

Hey can you give us her MSN or myspace?

Just want to warn her about the guy she's seeing, and his clingy, weak, scared state of mind.

crazyjoe · #8 (**permalink**) 21-01-06, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Tone

Hey can you give us her MSN or myspace?

Just want to warn her about the guy she's seeing, and his clingy, weak, scared state of mind.

She already knows about my clingy, weak, scared state of mind.

Tired · #9 (**permalink**) 21-01-06, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by toohot4pants

lets ignore the 4 hour thing for one second...

afraid that it won't work?!?!?!? do you watch sports? do ever see those players that play scared? they're afraid they'll mess up? they play safe? these guys SUCK. they never do anything right. they never experience success.

nothing risked, nothing gained.

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great analogy

Rosebud · #10 (**permalink**) 21-01-06, 10:39 AM

You can't predict the future here. All you can dois go with the flow. if your afraid of "what might happen" Int he future you will never get anywhere. ok, so both of you might be fragile, that doesn't mean stop seeing one another becasue of might happen. If you guys are happy and you both want to continue dating one another then stop worrying so much and just enjoy the ride.

And long Distant relationships do work (ask Debunkt) but only for certain people.