Please help me!!!

[confused guy]

Dear anyone,
I am 13 years old. There is a girl who I had gone out for few weeks and we felt it would be the right thing to do by braking up, since we don't talk a lot and stuff. There was this other girl I liked and I thought she liked me and so I told her about how I feel. She said she really liked me and would go out with me if her parents would let her. Then her friend tells me what she really thought about me. She liked me but she wasn't excactly in love with me. Now I am really losing confidence in myself. There is another girl who likes me and I'm thnking about asking her out because I know she likes me. Know I dont know what to do. My anxiety and shyness is really getting the best of me. I can't get over the other girls and it's driving me insane. What should I do.

Sincerly,
Confused guy

[jane]

don't lose confidence in yourself..girls don't "fall in love" very quickly at your age. What I would do is wait it out. She didn;t say she didn;t like you right? I would give it a little more time before you jump to conclusions ok!

[Illusional]

as bluntly as i can put it, you're 13 and at this age love is inflatuation. so what if a girl doesn't love you, you'll feel that you love her but your feelings seems to change when another girl shows you interest. just stick to one person because if not, you'll get used to changing gfs every few weeks and end up going out with a lot of people and having several meaningless relationships. raverboy

[confused guy]

im having trouble waiting for that one time in my life when love starts to really matter..... i guess right now im really confused....everytime someone likes me and i start like them then they dont like me anymore.... is this because im doing something wrong or what

[BuzzLiteBeer]

understandable...i'm in high school, but i haven't dated because...well, I know about infactuation and I avoid getting attached to people I know aren't for me. Decide which girl you feel more attached to and go on from there. my advice is that don't try and "find" girlfriends. Unless you're sure that you are in love, you may get yourself hurt emotionally by things like this. (PS: Read My Signature)

[Monk]

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well, I know about infactuation and I avoid getting attached to people I know aren't for me.

That sounds good. Any advice on how to avoid becoming infatuated with someone when you know you're at a risk to?

[Illusional]

well...you like the chase more than the actual catch. once you have started a relationship with a girl, you feel that the excitement is lost and you want to regain that excitement which is why you seek other girls.. it's a stage that hopefully won't last forever. raverboy

[BuzzLiteBeer]

yup...infactuation is dangerous, especially if you're a very emotionally driven person like me. I've had one infactuation in the past (yes...only one), but the girl turned ou to be a ho who like guys that are "ghetto" if you know what I mean. I couldn't get over it for a long time. I currently have a crush on a really sweet girl...this is the first time since my first infactuation. If she happens to be justanother infactuation, I'd be devastated. So things is, don't get attached too easily.

PS: About the advice on how not to get attached, well, you shouldn't be attached if you've talked a lot the person and the person seems uninterested or has a personality that you don't like. If you rely on their physical appearence, then you need to look at yourslef and ask yourself "Is it all about looks?".

[confused guy]

know i find out that the girl i thought didnt like me actually really likes me who is in 8th grade and know she is really mad cuz i asked out this other girl out that i liked and said yes. thats about 6 months and she expects me to wait that long just to go out with her. wats the problem that i go put with someone else. im not going out with her forever. im not cheating on her i like her but i figured if she cant go out with me for a while why cant i ask someone else out....

[BuzzLiteBeer]

inflatuation...you need to stop this dude. If you truely like a girl, you wouldn't even think of other girls. The girl i like now makes every other girl seems unimportant to me. Even the hottest girl in my grade doesn't appeal to me the way hot girls did before I like the the girl i like now. don't bother with "finding" love. Love will find you eventually if you let it.

[Illusional]

hahaha..you'll jump at anyone that will give you a chance.. that is what you're presenting to us. first...stay with ONE GIRL.. got it?? one girl. if you really like one, then make it obvious. don't go telling every girl that you want to be her bf, then act surprized when they get mad at you for asking another girl out. raverboy

[confused guy]

i have decided who i really like and that is the girl i thought didnt like me but did. im going to brake up with the one im going out with now because i am no longer atractted to her. i have decided to go with one girl but i do not know excatly how to brake up with her since the girls have always broken up with me. any tips. P.S. thanks for all the great tips BuzzLiteBeer and Illusional

[klokan]

Hallo !!!
I' m high student fom Slovakia.I agree with you.The best way of love is to overcome all obstacles,which stay toward you.You must to tidy yourself by heart.
And everything will be OK...

[confused guy]

I'M IN LOVE!!!!!!!! Its love. Its nothing else. The girl that i decided to go for really likes me and i found out that we have a lot in common. She lives right down the street from me. She is in 8th grade but is ok we are almost the same age. I dont' want to do something stupid because i have a feeling that we could take this relationship a long way. Any tips of what to do and what not to do. Thank you for all the great tips everyone you have brought me a long way and i really am thankful.

[jane]

WOW! That's great! Good for you. Just keep in simple. Don't over complicate your relatiionship. Keep it slow and always be honest with her. Good Luck! Love is a powerful feeling!