Update! She Called.....it wasn't good - Page 3 - Love Forum

funkybuddha · #31 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by toohot4pants

punch her in the throat. punch jacob in the nads.

better yet..punch her in the ovaries LOL..

alice · #32 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by HurtDude

God, as soon as I thought I was over this...i find a new picture on her website of her kissing her new guy.

And then the hurt started all over again.

wtf were you looking at her website for? dammit, you don't listen to a word we say!

meh · #33 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by alice

wtf were you looking at her website for? dammit, you don't listen to a word we say!

Yeah, and link us to that website already.

Tone · #34 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by HurtDude

God, as soon as I thought I was over this...i find a new picture on her website of her kissing her new guy.

And then the hurt started all over again.

You moron.

HurtDude · #35 (**permalink**) 03-02-06, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Tone

You moron.

Its on a thing called "the facebook" for college kids. And I was just browsing through my friends' list and I see that she deleted me..so i search for her and she comes up, and theres a picture of her and the new guy making out.

it wasn't like i was obessing about it or anything.

one of my best friends told me this was ALL ABOUT POWER. I told her about some of the things you guys said and she said she couldn't disagree more. "She definitly doesnt have feelings for you, but shes definitly still thinking about you and tring to get you jealous so you will ask her to come back and she can say no and have all the power"

She said if I ignore her, not only will that piss her off but that would make the guy she's with seem less attractive and she might come knocking on my door in a few months, in which case i slam it in her face.

Agree with that guys?

toohot4pants · #36 (**permalink**) 03-02-06, 01:02 AM

ahh...facebook...another source of social drama for the college world...

Tone · #37 (**permalink**) 03-02-06, 01:04 AM

WHO CARES about her.. for cryin out loud dude. GET OVER IT!!

Stop thinkin of ways you can make her WANT YOU and ways to screw over her current relationship, or plottin on how you can slam this in her face when she comes back in a few months.. JUST BE DONE WITH IT ALREADY!!

You NEED to put in a better effort towards moving on.

HurtDude · #38 (**permalink**) 03-02-06, 03:34 AM

I know I know. But lets be honest here, it would make moving on a whole lot easier if I knew she was still hung up on trying to manipulate me.

vashti · #39 (**permalink**) 03-02-06, 04:11 AM

Is this the kind of crap that goes on in the minds of young men everyday? ::shaking head::

HurtDude · #40 (**permalink**) 04-02-06, 05:47 AM

I'm not really trying to ellicit pity or attention or anything like that by posting here. Any comments are appreciated and welcomed. But more han anything this is me trying to get my feelings and thoughts out to a place wher ei know they are heard...rather than a diary or journal where no one will read them.

I know that in any breakup there will be periods of "wow i dont need her at all there's so much to look forward to in life I'm only 19"

and then there are periods like right now...."I feel so alone, they could hold a parade in my name and everyone of my friends could call me at the same time within the next hour, but I would still feel so alone in this world"

Highs and Lows.

I'm trying my best to get on wit it, to dabble in every day life's tragedies. I go back to school tomorrow, I go back to a place where I have no friends...my only friend was her. She kept me going through that place and now its biting me in the ass, I should not have relied on someone so much to get me through something because now I have to get through it on my own.

I know she is no good. I know I am attractive. I know she cheated on me and that alone should have been the end of things. Its easy to think that way at times. But its not easy right now, to picture and remember the countless hours we spent talking to each other on the phone. How she told me it was because of me that she knew she never really loved her first boyfriend, that I upped the standard of what love is.

1 week after she told me she no longer loved me she was already seeing someone else.

And I hate all these games she plays. Well actually, no i dont. I love the fct that she's playing games because it means she still has feelings for me and is trying to ellicit responses. She knows I'm impulsive and even though I haven't intiated contact with her for the past month, she knows that I might break.

Is it wrong for me to think "That new guy is just a rebound and she'll be done with him sooner than she was with me"?

Is it wrong for me to assume she is still thinking about me?

Is it wrong for me to think that almost every move she makes is catered towards trying to make jealous?

Or is it that I'd rather not face the truth...is the truth: SHE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU, AND YOU'RE NOTHING BUT A GUY SHE DATED FOR A LITTLE WHILE AND SHE ISNT DOING THAT STUFF TO ANNOY YOU, SHES DOING THAT STUFF BECAUSE SHE FORGOT ABOUT YOU.

I don't know, but moving on would be so much easier if I knew she was just as bent on what happeneed between us as I am.

Pears · #41 (**permalink**) 04-02-06, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by HurtDude

Is it wrong for me to think "That new guy is just a rebound and she'll be done with him sooner than she was with me"?

Is it wrong for me to assume she is still thinking about me?

Is it wrong for me to think that almost every move she makes is catered towards trying to make jealous?

Or is it that I'd rather not face the truth...is the truth: SHE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU, AND YOU'RE NOTHING BUT A GUY SHE DATED FOR A LITTLE WHILE AND SHE ISNT DOING THAT STUFF TO ANNOY YOU, SHES DOING THAT STUFF BECAUSE SHE FORGOT ABOUT YOU.

I don't know, but moving on would be so much easier if I knew she was just as bent on what happeneed between us as I am.

It is not wrong to have those thoughts, but if you want yourself to feel better, you have to try to forget about them. The "truth" that you talked about may or may not be the absolute truth. The important thing is that you protect yourself and make yourself happy. Why do you keep playing games back with her? It won't help the situation. Your best bet is just to move on.

HurtDude · #42 (**permalink**) 05-02-06, 10:33 PM

I appreciate the advice. And believe me I am taking it. I am letting her go.

At the airport today, I stood in the spot where we first met, and where we had our first kiss. I stood there for two minutes reenacting everything that happened at that very happy moment in my life. Then I realized people were looking at me so I had to stop.

I'm in my college dorm now, I havent been here since the disaster. As soon as I walked in, the first thing I noticed was a thank you card she sent me..inside was a poem she wrote for me saying "Thank you for making me realize that all the tears I cried for him were for nothing, you're the one I've been looking for so thank you, for making my heart whole again"

I read this now, knowing that im only picking at the scab of the wound rather than letting it just be. But we humans are very saddistic creatures. The pain makes us feel....alive.

But sometimes I wish I could have that feeling back with her, that feeling like I was on top of the world.

I hope she thinks about me as much as I think about her.

Robbo · #43 (**permalink**) 06-02-06, 02:00 AM

Right Ive just registered purposely to post in this thread (long time reader and all that...)

Get over it, I was in the same situation as you are now, She is the desperate needy one that wont leave you alone, she needs to get over the fact that you CAN do without her.

I know for a fact she thinks about it as much as you do but in a totally different light, where you are thinking you miss her and want her back she is thinking hmmmm, it would be nice to see what he is up to but im going out on a date in a few hours, ill let him know...

She just seems very immature and to ring you after three weeks and say stuff like that to you is childish and pathetic.

HurtDude · #44 (**permalink**) 06-02-06, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Robbo

Right Ive just registered purposely to post in this thread (long time reader and all that...)

Get over it, I was in the same situation as you are now, She is the desperate needy one that wont leave you alone, she needs to get over the fact that you CAN do without her.

I know for a fact she thinks about it as much as you do but in a totally different light, where you are thinking you miss her and want her back she is thinking hmmmm, it would be nice to see what he is up to but im going out on a date in a few hours, ill let him know...

She just seems very immature and to ring you after three weeks and say stuff like that to you is childish and pathetic.

I appreciate the response and the insight. However, I wanted to correct you on something.

Yes, i miss her, and I probably still love her. But I would never take her back.

She and the new guy are officially dating. They are boyfriend and girlfriend and there is a picture of the two in which they are kissing and she calls him "my sweetheart". So, I think whatever it is she has with him is pretty serious and not merely an attempt to make me jealous.

There are only two possible explantions for whats going on.

She realized something about me and decided not to bother with being with me or salvaging a friendship and shes moved on and its done. This would explain why she hasn't called me in a month (except once to tell me about her new guy).

The other possibility is that I'm just on hold, she knows I'm a good guy and she knows what I have to offer and shes waiting until later to revist her situation with me.

I cant bring myself to accept the first possibility, which admittedly is the most probable one.

I just want to yell out: HELP.

Chlorine · #45 (**permalink**) 06-02-06, 10:11 PM

Hurtdude----"At the airport today, I stood in the spot where we first met, and where we had our first kiss. I stood there for two minutes reenacting everything that happened at that very happy moment in my life. Then I realized people were looking at me so I had to stop".

You know, I've done this before. Gone back to the very same spot. A park bench in my case. It's really foolish but you sorta wish you could go back to that moment. For a long time I avoided that path. Looked away whenever I passed that spot.
And one day months later, I happened to pass the same way again. Saw the same park bench. Still there. And you know what, I didn't feel anything anymore. Than I knew, I really was over and done with the person.

Looking back, I would classify it as SELF TORTURE!!!! I suggest you save yourself the grief.