Let Me Know...

[Hittman]

what you think of my plan.

After a couple of years of b1tching and whining about how I can't seem to find someone, I said F it. Started concentrating on myself, working out and lost weight and toned up.

I've met this girl at work, started talking and whatever. I've been an employee at this restaurant for about 3 yrs, she started working here when I was in the army and gone for a year.

Basically I think she is interested in me. Why you ask? Because there's alot of other girls at work and the vibes, the energy and the looks she throws at me are not like any other. Not a sure shot but I have a feeling that tells me this...
I'm, surprise, interested in her aswell...

Rewind to about 2 months ago we're going home together from work, same route. She tells me this and that, I make sure I remember them so I can bring it up later on. She tells me she's going to this concert, the act is not scheduled to come to our city.

Last week the got booked to play here aswell... I run it by her and she says that she knows and is happy that she doesnt have to take that trip and can watch them here instead.

She asks me: "Aren't you going?"
And I'm like: "Hmm I don't know"

That day she quit and hour before I did, she's on her way out. She says goodbye and I reply. A second later she passes me again, returns and asks me: "Are you sure you're not going to the concert?"
Me, I reply once more that "I really don't know", all the assistant managers are having a dinner that night so I have that planned...

So...I know that she likes streetdance and is taking some classes, next week this big act in street dancing are coming over here...

My plan, get tickets and invite her.

Problem? I'm insecure about her feelings towards me...scared, nervous...yes. The re-occurring questions, is she interested? will I make a fool of myself, AGAIN, like the past?

Give me your thoughts...

[squirrley]

I'd ask her. You have the confidence and dont worry about shot down per say. She sounds interested if she's asked a couple of times. Women like confident men, I say go for it!

[Hittman]

The more I think about it, the more I start believing it's a win-win situation...

[squirrley]

thats what Im talking about! Positive reinforcement in your head is THE best thing for yourself!!!! Go get her man! Goodluck!

[gingerbabe86]

I say go for it too. Obviously, she wants u to join her to go to the concert but that's just to bad u have dinner with all the assistant managers.

[alice]

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Originally Posted by Hittman

That day she quit and hour before I did, she's on her way out. She says goodbye and I reply. A second later she passes me again, returns and asks me: "Are you sure you're not going to the concert?"
Me, I reply once more that "I really don't know", all the assistant managers are having a dinner that night so I have that planned...

what's your problem, man? doesn't that show you she's interested? if you don't make a move soon, she'll probably think it's YOU who isn't interested.
i would ask her first and then buy the tickets, though. she might have other plans for that day.

[Hittman]

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Originally Posted by alice

what's your problem, man? doesn't that show you she's interested? if you don't make a move soon, she'll probably think it's YOU who isn't interested.
i would ask her first and then buy the tickets, though. she might have other plans for that day.

Looking back at that, yeah, I acted foolish and should have closed the deal right there. But...when you've made mistakes in the past, that sh1t will put pressure on you. I'm still learning

But yeah, I'll just reserve the tickets for now.

Thanks for the input.

Now to put a little twist to it...what do you think I should do if she has plans/can't make it for whatever reason? Havn't thought about a backup plan yet...

[alice]

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Originally Posted by Hittman

what do you think I should do if she has plans/can't make it for whatever reason? Havn't thought about a backup plan yet...

i don't know what's happening where you live, check it out and you'll find something!
you could also ask her to go for a drink (maybe after work??) with you so she can tell you about the concert you missed.

[Tone]

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Originally Posted by Hittman

Now to put a little twist to it...what do you think I should do if she has plans/can't make it for whatever reason? Havn't thought about a backup plan yet...

Worry about that when and if it happens.

It's hard enough just to get the nerve to talk to her, don't give yourself more reasons to NOT ask her out.

[Hittman]

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Originally Posted by Tone

Worry about that when and if it happens.

It's hard enough just to get the nerve to talk to her, don't give yourself more reasons to NOT ask her out.

No I'm gonna ask her out, that's a given

I just want to cover all the grounds, be well prepared. So to my next question...I'll probably see her tomorrow if she's working...she only works sundays right now. The dance thing is next sunday Feb 5th. If she is there, I'll ask her in person.

If she isn't there, I'll have two choices. Her sister works there aswell.

1- I'll give her sister my number, tell her what's up and ask for her to call me and give me an answer.

if her sister isn't there/or

2- Find her number in the company phone book and call her myself. I'm thinking this option has a little stalker feel to it... What about that?

[Ellynn]

Well it can't hurt to at least try and ask her to go with you. I mean.....its not like a date.....its more like going to something that both interests you guys. Give it a shot. If shes not into you like that....then u will probably find that out when you hang out together... and the nice thing will be that it won't be an actual date.....but just hanging out. If anything you will have her friendship. And you can always play it off like all you ever wanted was just to be friends with her.......if she isnt interested in you like that.

I definately see this as a win-win situation.

[Hittman]

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

Well it can't hurt to at least try and ask her to go with you. I mean.....its not like a date.....its more like going to something that both interests you guys. Give it a shot. If shes not into you like that....then u will probably find that out when you hang out together... and the nice thing will be that it won't be an actual date.....but just hanging out. If anything you will have her friendship. And you can always play it off like all you ever wanted was just to be friends with her.......if she isnt interested in you like that.

I definately see this as a win-win situation.

Thanks for your input

What do you think of this though?

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Originally Posted by Hittman

if her sister isn't there/or

2- Find her number in the company phone book and call her myself. I'm thinking this option has a little stalker feel to it...

[Ellynn]

You know.....finding her number.......and looking it up......can be taken two ways. If shes into you....she will view it as sweet. If she isn't....it could be viewed as stalkerish. Is there any other way you can get a hold of he at work? Even if it meant leaving your number for her to call you so you can ask her if she wants to go? Or maybe stopping in...when shes working.....and just say "hey....i was wondering if you would like to go to that concert." "I have these tickets."....etc.

[Hittman]

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

You know.....finding her number.......and looking it up......can be taken two ways. If shes into you....she will view it as sweet. If she isn't....it could be viewed as stalkerish.

You're right about that...

If she isn't there and her sister is, as I wrote before, I'll just put her sister on to the situation and give her my number so she can reach me.

If her sister isn't there...then I'll have a problem. The thing is she only works sundays and maybe another day in the week. But that always changes depending on which day they'll need her.

[Hittman]

Ok...She wasn't working today.

So I called and it went to her voicemail. Left a message, explained why I called, put her on the situation and said for her to get back at me.

So...it's on her now.