Should I be with her?

[Sacred]

Hi

I've posted a long time ago about a girl who I was into but wasn't into me as much. This was back in may last year.
We agreed to be friends around summer time and have been cool since
Thing is, I met her the other day and asked her about her seeing another guy or anything, which she said she's tried to but she can't really get over this guy. And the way she described him seemed as if she was SOOO into him, mentioning a similar situation to what we had.
She was into him but he was into her more than she was into him but now she regrets it because she realised she really wants him but fears its too late.

As you may have guessed she was talking about me, but I didnt ask her this directly when I met her although I had pretty much figured it out (thinking about it after - it was SO obvious) - she told me through text afterword.
ATM I'm seeing two girls (neither is her) but most of the dates and girls i've hooked up with have been as a sort of coping mechanism because I really believed I was in love with her.

I also think I still am, and up until it became really obvious when she was describing him to me I was a little upset that she had found someone else.

I just don't know what to do right now. I mean, I love her, but the way she texed me was as if she just wanted to try and get over me and this was the first step toward doing so, mentioning it was a farewell text as well as her coming clean.

I haven't replied yet as I'm not sure what I want to say. Should I just let her go even though we both seem to want to be with eachother?
I'm not in too deep with either of the girls I'm seeing and were just casual, so it wouldnt be too hard to explain to either of them.

My heart is telling me I want her, but I'm not sure she will want to now, because she said she's felt this way for a few months now and its made her down, which is why she wants to move past it.
But to be honest if we both want the same thing, could it work?

Another part of me is telling me to let her go and let her get over it, and that it would be selfish for me to admit to her that I still love her and want to be with her.

I'd just like some positive feedback on this situation if anyone is willing to give it.

Thanks alot.

[TAVS]

I think it's all in your head. She doesnt want to be with you dude.

[Sacred]

Whats in my head?
She told me these words m8.
When I said "maybe u jus need to tell the person, and that will help u move past them. As well as try and see other people"
she said "i've tried that and it just makes me want him [me] more"

she said stuff like thinkin bout him makes me feel warm inside n stuff (this was before i cottoned onto the fact she was talkin bout me.

I can understand she doesnt want it anymore because its caused her alot of pain, but tbh it caused me a lot of pain and i still wnt it.

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Originally Posted by Sacred

But to be honest if we both want the same thing, could it work?

Another part of me is telling me to let her go and let her get over it, and that it would be selfish for me to admit to her that I still love her and want to be with her.

Huh? Of course if you both want, it could work. You don't seem too good with the subtle hints, BTW, maybe you should just take the leap and tell her you love her. But don't dance around anymore, be straight.

Regret is a terrible thing, sacred. Or... is it SCARED? Could be either, as I see it. My advice is take the leap, she sounds willing. Good luck.

[Sacred]

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Originally Posted by indigosoul

Huh? Of course if you both want, it could work. You don't seem too good with the subtle hints, BTW, maybe you should just take the leap and tell her you love her. But don't dance around anymore, be straight.

Regret is a terrible thing, sacred. Or... is it SCARED? Could be either, as I see it. My advice is take the leap, she sounds willing. Good luck.

Well, yea ur probably right.

One of the reasons for the 'farewell' text I think also was because she didnt want to go out on the limb and say she wanted to be with me...due to the other women.
I just don't want to get the wrong idea and ruin things, although if i dont do anything im not likely to see her again anyway...

[Tone]

Yeah what's the problem here?

She just confessed she wants to be with you, but is afraid it's too late, but you DO still want to be with her, so confirm to her that it's NOT too late if she doesn't want it to be.

Go after her.

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Originally Posted by Tone

Go after her.

Si. Vite! Andale!! Gowan, get outta here and get some!

[Tone]

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Originally Posted by TAVS

She didn't confess anything. I still think she's talking about another guy.

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Originally Posted by Sacred

As you may have guessed she was talking about me, but I didnt ask her this directly when I met her although I had pretty much figured it out (thinking about it after - it was SO obvious) - she told me through text afterword.

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Originally Posted by TAVS

She didn't confess anything. I still think she's talking about another guy.

You could be right, TAVS; I don't remember the old thread. It could be wishful thinking, but I think the OP knows it isn't. Theres a lot to be said for gut instincts. But either way, he needs some closure w/this girl. And the only way he's gonna do that is to talk to her.

Good luck Sacred.

[TAVS]

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Originally Posted by Tone

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I don't know what you're talking about.

[Sacred]

lol theres some major confusion in this thread....

Anyway I talked to her and told her what I feel, didnt get too mushy and she pretty much jumped on me, saying she's sorry 4 taking so long.
So, success I guess.

Case in point all:

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Glad you decided to take the risk, Sacred. Congratulations!

[Tone]

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Originally Posted by Sacred

lol theres some major confusion in this thread....

Anyway I talked to her and told her what I feel, didnt get too mushy and she pretty much jumped on me, saying she's sorry 4 taking so long.
So, success I guess.

Yay!

Congrats!

Now - DON'T BLOW IT!