Update! She Called.....it wasn't good - Love Forum

HurtDude · #1 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 09:01 AM

Haven't spoken to my ex in 3 weeks. The last conversation we had ended like this: "i think you and i will be together in the future but for now i just want to date and stuff and not have a serious boyfriend. Anyways i have to run i dont know when i am going to call you but i know that ill call you"

3 weeks later...(today)

She calls....i pick up. We small talk for a bit about normal stuff. Then she tells me shes on her way to a guy named jacob...The way she said it though was her begging for me to ask her "whose jacob" but i didnt. So she saw i wasnt gonna ask so she goes "yeah he comes to see me all that time so im gonna go see him tonight"..i pretend to be unaffected and jusat shurgged it off and talked about other things..then she brings im up again "can you believe he already wants me to fly to meet his mother?Hes paying for it and everything... He must really like me!"
Again i just shrug it off...

then we change the subject and such and then she says she has to go and says "later babe"

the general tone of the convo was very..."im trying to make conversation/stuffing u with information about this new guy"

was she just trying to get a reaction out of me? Are things definitly over for good?

Rosebud · #2 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 09:07 AM

YES.....quit putting yourself through this... she's not worth it!

toohot4pants · #3 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 09:23 AM

punch her in the throat. punch jacob in the nads.

cheazypeaz · #4 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 10:04 AM

dont pick up next time...

Chlorine · #5 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 10:45 AM

HurtDude----"was she just trying to get a reaction out of me? Are things definitly over for good"

Yes, she was trying to get a reaction out of you.
Yes, things are over for good. She just rubbed your nose into the dirt.
You-do-not-have-to-put-up-with-her-crap!!

gHEXjt · #6 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 11:10 AM

Damnit HurtDude! Every time you post I sit here and want to rip my hair out!

I know how much this sucks for you, and I've been through the exact same kind of thing. You've got to take our word for it here...STOP TALKING TO HER! No contact doesn't mean you don't call her, but you pick it up when she calls you. No contact means ZERO CONTACT.

Now, you didn't really say how hearing about the new guy made you feel, but when it happened to me, it hurt worse than when she actually dumped me. So I'll assume it made you feel pretty shitty to hear about it. For the love of god, don't talk to her anymore. She called you tonight to rub your face in it. What kind of a person would call to rub their ex's face into the fact they are getting banged by some other dude. Only an ******* would do that, and bottom line, regardless of how hurt you feel or if you have the idea in your head that you still love her, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. She is treating you like a piece of shit, and at this point, even if she did come back, it would never be the same because you will always remember how she treated you.

Nobody deserves to have their face rubbed in the fact that their ex has a new SO. It's bullshit, and sometime soon you will realize you are better off w/o her. But for now, NO CONTACT!

HurtDude · #7 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 11:22 AM

ok.no more contact.mayb ill call her in 8 months. if shes still a *****. give it another 8 months....

i wont give up on this girl....but i wont let her rule me.

Something tells me this isnt quite over for better or for worse. i hope im wrong.

Pears · #8 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 12:02 PM

Don't answer her. Block her number.

HurtDude · #9 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Pears

Don't answer her. Block her number.

I'm seriously thinking about blocking her number.

That way I wouldnt be even tempoted to answer her phone calls. By blocking her number what happens when she calls?

Pears · #10 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by HurtDude

By blocking her number what happens when she calls?

You won't receive anything.

Fluffy · #11 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 03:30 PM

stop calling her. she wants to play with your feelings. she wants to make you a puppet in her hands. you are the man!
block her number, meet new girls, talk to them, and have some fun.
sometimes indifference make people to change their mind

alice · #12 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by gHEXjt

Damnit HurtDude! Every time you post I sit here and want to rip my hair out!

I know how much this sucks for you, and I've been through the exact same kind of thing. You've got to take our word for it here...STOP TALKING TO HER! No contact doesn't mean you don't call her, but you pick it up when she calls you. No contact means ZERO CONTACT.

Now, you didn't really say how hearing about the new guy made you feel, but when it happened to me, it hurt worse than when she actually dumped me. So I'll assume it made you feel pretty shitty to hear about it. For the love of god, don't talk to her anymore. She called you tonight to rub your face in it. What kind of a person would call to rub their ex's face into the fact they are getting banged by some other dude. Only an ******* would do that, and bottom line, regardless of how hurt you feel or if you have the idea in your head that you still love her, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. She is treating you like a piece of shit, and at this point, even if she did come back, it would never be the same because you will always remember how she treated you.

Nobody deserves to have their face rubbed in the fact that their ex has a new SO. It's bullshit, and sometime soon you will realize you are better off w/o her. But for now, NO CONTACT!

me too. (been through the exact same kind of thing)
i got back together with the jerk after 9 or 10 months. turned out to be a BIG MISTAKE. now i'm in the exact same situation for the second time. (he trying to rub my face into the fact he's banging someone else, but aaaaawww, he's sooooo poor, cause he can't forget about me … ) the only way to deal with this kind of shit is: STOP TALKING TO HER. FORGET SHE EXISTS.

Tone · #13 (**permalink**) 01-02-06, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by gHEXjt

Damnit HurtDude! Every time you post I sit here and want to rip my hair out!

I know how much this sucks for you, and I've been through the exact same kind of thing. You've got to take our word for it here...STOP TALKING TO HER! No contact doesn't mean you don't call her, but you pick it up when she calls you. No contact means ZERO CONTACT.

Now, you didn't really say how hearing about the new guy made you feel, but when it happened to me, it hurt worse than when she actually dumped me. So I'll assume it made you feel pretty shitty to hear about it. For the love of god, don't talk to her anymore. She called you tonight to rub your face in it. What kind of a person would call to rub their ex's face into the fact they are getting banged by some other dude. Only an ******* would do that, and bottom line, regardless of how hurt you feel or if you have the idea in your head that you still love her, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. She is treating you like a piece of shit, and at this point, even if she did come back, it would never be the same because you will always remember how she treated you.

Nobody deserves to have their face rubbed in the fact that their ex has a new SO. It's bullshit, and sometime soon you will realize you are better off w/o her. But for now, NO CONTACT!

Right on, man.. I'm with you - this situation doesn't even slightly affect me but I'M GETTING PISSED reading HurtDude's posts... It's like when you really get into a horror movie.. and the hot girl sees the killer run into the dark room in the corner of her eye.. and instead of gettin the hell out she's walkin into the room and you just thinkin "You dumb b*tch don't you know if you go in there you're going to DIE??????" And sure enough, she gets axed.

HURTDUDE - STOP WALKING INTO THE DARKROOM TO GET AXED!!

Block her phone number. ****ing do it. Delete it out your phone book too - you are not to be trusted. If she calls again - I'm 100% certain YOU WILL ANSWER.. if not the first time, the second or third. Do yourself a favor and MOVE ON.. this is coming from people who have been in the EXACT SAME SITUATION - and ALL OF US wish we had just NOT answered the phone.. not opened the door.. and just moved on sooner rather than later.

HurtDude · #14 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 12:49 AM

Yes. I am going to forget that she exists.

If i block her number...what will she get when she calls? A message saying shes been blocked? or what?

I want to walk out of her life without actually slamming doors in her face...i want her to wake up one day and realize that she lost me......

alice · #15 (**permalink**) 02-02-06, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by HurtDude

I want to walk out of her life without actually slamming doors in her face...i want her to wake up one day and realize that she lost me......

the sooner you erase her from your life the sooner she will. some people ask for doors being slammed in their face, else they'll never realize they can't go on playing games with you forever.