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[Kenzo]

First, i've been a browser of this site for quite some time and thought it was time to post something. I am nearly 24 years of age, a virgin, and never been in any kind of relationship or really been on a date. My question is this: What would the ladies think if a guy told them they were 24, virgin and never in a relationship ?

I've discussed with this a friend of mine and a girl i know. My friend tells me that i should hide this fact initially that it is a major turnoff and the girl says that hiding it is the last thing i should do. Talk about a major difference in opinion.

Just thought i'd see what you all(mostly the ladies) thought.

[Cybog]

It depends on how you look and carry yourself. If you are a fat disgusting slob of a man, then it is no wonder you are a virgin. If you are shy around women and think they are angelic beings from another planet, then it makes sense why you haven't been in many relationships.

Is it a turnoff? Yes, which is why you need to get out there and play the field a little and see what the dating game is all about. Women want a man in their life, not some chump who is afraid of taking risks and who isn't going places in life. The only women that are reserved for guys like you are the pathetically lonely or obese, neither of which should be among your goals. These are the women that will have "sympathy" for you, and might actually go out to eat with you once and awhile....mostly because they are just as shy and timid about dating as you are.

The women who are actually interesting and worth looking at, are busy finding a man and not a sheep. These are the women you want. The timid and shy and hideous are good for the first 1-15 dates, but after you build up enough confidence and understanding of the female species, it's time to move on and up your game. This is also when you will finally realize that the slob women out there who are showering you with attention, are only doing it because they are just as pathetic as you once were, and are holding on to an idea that they finally found "The One", or something equally ridiculous...

[Kenzo]

I am not a "fat disgusting slob of a man". But also i am not in perfect physical shape. You are correct that my problem resides in being too shy.

[Ohtheshame]

You friend are me, and in turn I am sadly you. Im 22 now and im pretty much in your boat, part of it for me is ive had a slightly sheltered and even depressing last couple of years. However before that and even now ive always had less balls that a public schools P.E cabinet. I find the best way round it to look at everything with a smile although sadly for myself it can often be a forced one.

When it comes to the ladies in this world I can easily woo them with a text or a IM convo but sadly I shy away from any real opportunities. Hopefully thats going to change on Friday as ive got a bit of a date going on, hopefully being the main phrase.

Oh and if your like me just tell em you like to keep in shape, your favourite being round!

[Pears]

My question is this: What would the ladies think if a guy told them they were 24, virgin and never in a relationship ?

You being a virgin is not as important as your experience with relationships. I know a lot of women who want guys that know how to handle a relationship: what to do when things go wrong; what to say at certain situations; how to treat the lady. Even though you have never been in a relationship, if you understand enough of how to handle one, you will be okay if you get into one.

Being a virgin is okay. If you get into a relationship, you should not lie about that. Intially, you may feel embarrassed about it, but it won't be long until you are experienced. If you find someone who won't be with you just because you are a virgin, then that person isn't worth going out with.

[Jog]

Well I'm not so old as you are. I'm only 18 and I'm that guy from THIS topic. And if you think you're shy or something, just try to overcome this. These people from this forum really helped me. 3 weeks ago I was as shy as a man can be but these people told me that the only way to overcome something is by doing it so I asked that girl out and we have a date tomorrow. And I have no problems to ask any girls number. Actually on friday I was sitting with my friends in a bar and I realized that all my fears and shyness was gone. Just because you guys convinced me that I just should't be a pussy. So to test if my fears were really gone I asked other girls number in that bar just out of curiousity. I didn't like her but at least I now know that all my fears are gone. So my suggestion is that if you really want to have releationship, don't sit home, because they won't come to you. Just don't be a pussy and try to ask the number of the first girl you think you like. If you'll do something about it then you'll have it. At least I think so...

[alice]

Just because you guys convinced me that I just should't be a pussy. So to test if my fears were really gone I asked other girls number in that bar just out of curiousity. I didn't like her but at least I now know that all my fears are gone.

oh my god, we created a monster!!!!!

[bluesummer]

I think a lot of girls would be super freaked out by a guy that was 24 and had never been in a relationship at all.

If you don't get past your insecurity or shyness issues, this is going to drag on to 25, 26, 27.....and eventually you'll have to settle for whatever 'pathetically lonely' (to quote Cybog) and insecure girl latches onto you. Then you'll be more miserable than when you were single.

[Ellynn]

You need to open up more....otherwise its gonna be a very lonely life...(unless of course thats what you want).

Anyways......when u do meet someone.......and things go well. Be honest with her. Just let her know that you never really were in a serious relationship....and your not very experienced. I think that would about cover it.

Honestly though.......if I meet a guy whos 24 and a virgin......I would assume he's either waiting for marriage or possibly confused about his sexuality...

[clynn]

Well, being very shy is okay. So is being inexperienced.

Myself...I would probably feel uncomfortable with a guy who was like this...just because...if things didn't work out...I think that he would put more stock into things than me...and I wouldn't want to be his first adn first to break his heart, etc....as a guy like that I would think would be extremely sensitive. Not a bad thing - just a perspective.

Start asking girls to do stuff with you, even just as friends...without pressure to "do" anything off the bat.

Get involved in more social groups and activities that have people from both sexes. A co-ed sport, or a book club, or theatre group, photography club...something that interests you that has people from both sexes. Then ... when involved with teh club...try to get involved in many aspects of it...this will help you out I think, if you don't already have a large social network.

[Fluffy]

you must overcome all difficulties.
my ex was very shy, too. at the age of 20 he was virgin. the most difficult for him was how to say me that thing. but he did this! and everything was ok. but, overcoming his shyness, other problems like that disappeared. and we had a wonderful relationship.
i think it depends on the girl too. but nowhere is written that you are virgin. and don't worry about that!
i agree with Clynn: "Get involved in more social groups and activities that have people from both sexes.", make new friends, do smth new, know new people and don't be shy to talk to a girl or get out with girl friends!

[Only-virgins]

I don't get this thread. The bit ch should be happy you didnt F around. Look at the posts Kenzo, if you are a smart guy and you know the girl that you are talking about is like the people on here(common fools) then just lie and tell her you did cause it seems like your damned if you do and your damned if you don't. Do what benefits you...why? because thats what she would do.

Funny, girls dump guys with to little experience and I dump girls with to much of it.

girl says that hiding it is the last thing i should do.

Offcourse they do, it benefits them to know the truth. You are an idiot, wow.



EVERYONE on here is a hypcrite, just a few thread ago everyone was saying that someone's past is not their partners business, offcourse to a girl it is right? ::rolls eyes::

[Kenzo]

Thanks for your comments. Gives me much to think about.

[Rosebud]

I don't get this thread. The bit ch should be happy you didnt F around. Look at the posts Kenzo, if you are a smart guy and you know the girl that you are talking about is like the people on here(common fools) then just lie and tell her you did cause it seems like your damned if you do and your damned if you don't. Do what benefits you...why? because thats what she would do.

EVERYONE on here is a hypcrite, just a few thread ago everyone was saying that someone's past is not their partners business, offcourse to a girl it is right? ::rolls eyes::

I would just like to say first off.. it's not good to lie at all not to mention this would be your first real relationship and why start it off bad? Your right OV your past is your past but being a vrigin and not ahving any relationships is what makes you...YOU right? and why wouldn't you want your SO to know this? What happens if the time comes and your ready to sleep with her and you ahve no clue on what to do? Do you just go along with the flow and hopes she doesn't think your bad instead of inexperienced, or what about any arguements you guys ahve... It makes mroe sense when soemone doesn't have experience behind their belt.

But basically if anyone judges you for any of these things....it's their loss in the first place.

[Converse]

Shy guys are cute, but I'd just go for it, what have you got to lose?