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Old 07-02-06, 12:27 AM
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ok, heres the situation. Im interested in this girl, she just got dumped by her ex-boyfriend maybe.... a month or so. I know shes still grieving over it, i dont mind. shes human and i totally understand. But everytime i talk to this girl i feel like i have more and more feelings for her. But shes very complicated, as in emotionally. She is going through a lot and i think she really wants someone to be able to be there for her. I want to be that, but i also want more out of this. I dont want to be the friend she can lean on and thats it, i know selfish of me seeing shes in a tough situation right now. But we call each other, we talk for hours, we go out and SHE actually gave me her number. She gives suttle hints that shes interested but is very scared to do anymore because shes afraid and shes still going through the process of getting over her ex.

So, whats the best thing to do? im taking it real slow right now. im not getting my hopes up and im not pursuing her like a police chase, i believe in letting things happen naturally but seeing shes in a tough situation i dont want to seem like im taking advantage but i dont want to just be friends either.
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Old 07-02-06, 12:38 AM
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Yes, keep taking things REAL SLOW and give it time. Be there for her, you can give off small signs that you are interested in her, but at the same time make sure it's known that you are respecting her well-being by not trying to pressure her into anything so soon after her breakup.

It's rather unfair and disadvantageous to pursue anything this early. Will only cause problems for you later on in the relationship.
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Tone is right... take it SLOW. Becuz if you rush things......she may hook up with you as a rebound. But by taking your time......shes getting to know you.....as more then just a guy who is there at the time.......but as a true friend.....and possibly more eventually....
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