Can't get her outta my head! - Love Forum

SONOIL · #1 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 12:27 AM

The longer we go without each other, the more I catch myself thinking about her... Three and a half weeks now, she hasn't called... I understand that i've done everything I could to save our relationship but for some reaso thinking that may be i've done something wrong somewhere along the way. I just can't get her out of my head, she hurt me, she left me and I know it's wrong the way I feel, but I just miss her so much for some reason... She was involved in my life so much. How do I get over her?

jmoney715 · #2 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 12:30 AM

its natural to grieve, its actually healthy. But, give it time man. It hurts like a ***** but give it time and things will get better. Find some activites, get a new hobbie, go out with friends. get your mind off of her and you'll see you dont need her.

TAVS · #3 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Lionos

The longer we go without each other, the more I catch myself thinking about her... Three and a half weeks now, she hasn't called... I understand that i've done everything I could to save our relationship but for some reaso thinking that may be i've done something wrong somewhere along the way. I just can't get her out of my head, she hurt me, she left me and I know it's wrong the way I feel, but I just miss her so much for some reason... She was involved in my life so much. How do I get over her?

We've been there man. I felt the same way not a year ago. Take it one day at a time, life will go on. What helped me most was long walks or bikerides just to clear my head. For a while I would walk 4 times a day.

Ellynn · #4 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 01:35 AM

What your feeling is normal... and the only thing I can tell you is that time is what makes it easier......to deal with. Hang in there.

TyRuK · #5 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 04:49 AM

Yeah i was in the same situation a little while ago. All you can really do is casually keep in touch with her and just try to support whatever she decides to do (or atleast try to). Then if you get back together great. But if not i hate to tell you this but you will just have to give the pain time to heal. Took me the better part of last year to get over my ex.

SONOIL · #6 (**permalink**) 07-02-06, 12:49 PM

I thank all of you people, I realy hate to be like this,i'm not a whiner but every strong man has his weak moment. I trully appreciate your responces.

WhatToDo20 · #7 (**permalink**) 08-02-06, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Lionos

The longer we go without each other, the more I catch myself thinking about her... Three and a half weeks now, she hasn't called... I understand that i've done everything I could to save our relationship but for some reaso thinking that may be i've done something wrong somewhere along the way. I just can't get her out of my head, she hurt me, she left me and I know it's wrong the way I feel, but I just miss her so much for some reason... She was involved in my life so much. How do I get over her?

First off, take up the addictive habbit of smoking. Any time you think of her go have a smoke. It helps really, good way to clear out the ol' noggin

But really... man.. Time heals all wounds. The main thing here, is to stop blaming yourself, and realize that all girls are EVIL! No really though, some girls are...

But you cannot blame yourself for actions that SHE chose to make... That's just madness... Whether you were the best guy in the world, or the worst guy in the world.. the decisions she made were for her, not for you. You can't try and take credit for them, and in turn feel bad about them. Try and see the brighter side of the picture... at least it didn't happen later. If she is happy now, then you should be happy, and move on. And once again, she made the decisions she made, for herself... and it's time that you make some decisions of your own and start ENJOYING the single life. It's not half bad ;-) And what ever you do, for the love of GOD, do not call her. Just accept the fact that she won't call you, and do both of you a favor, and don't call her... extreme heartache backslash anger will follow, if you choose to dial those digits.

Take care man, and I promise it will get better... EVERY break up is hard... Moving on is harder... and looking back will make you laugh at how stupid you were for being so upset ;-) It'll be OK brother.

Gigabitch · #8 (**permalink**) 09-02-06, 12:16 AM

I'm also trying to let something go, and I've come to look at it as a biological process, like a gunshot wound that is healing. I've got him under my skin and in my heart, and it's going to take time for my soul to let him go, breath by breath. Maybe several months before I'm all better. it will happen, though, because I want to get better.

If you were able to bounce back from something painful like a Superball, there would be something very wrong with you.

Jenkies · #9 (**permalink**) 10-02-06, 05:04 AM

Time man, time heals everything. It really sucks that in life, when you feel so down, it seems like you will never ever be happy again, but you will be. About 4 months ago I was sorta seeing this girl, it didn't last very long at all, but I cared for her and she led me on and just basically ****ed me over in the end. I was extremely hurt and felt completely crushed, but now I don't think about her at all, ever. In time you will come to the realization that you are better off without a girl that doesn't care about your feelings.

HurtDude · #10 (**permalink**) 10-02-06, 05:15 AM

I'm trying to let go tooo...and with valentine's day just around the corner..i know ill spend it alone...and she wont.

SONOIL · #11 (**permalink**) 10-02-06, 12:56 PM

I think there's something wrong with me... It doesnt't really bother me that much until I start thinking about her, and everything we had together, and then I would imagine how she woud do it with another guy, I don't know for sure wether she has one or not.... But just the thought that someone else will be enjoying something i've been cherishing,admiring and loving for so long makes me extremely anxious and then the vicious cycle begins... How do you deal with that??

lovesjoyajm · #12 (**permalink**) 10-02-06, 01:07 PM

Like everyone has said, I think one of the most important things is to take it day-by-day. i like the wound healing analogy myself. the fact that you're acknowledging your feelings is good - I think it's good to say to yourself "I know it feels like I can't go on without her, but that's not true". In a little while, or a long while, depending on you, you WILL look back and say "remember how upset I used to be?" It will feel like a whole different era of your life. But you'll make it worse if you cling to that period - if you feel like you've done all you could do, it's time to try as hard as you can to let go.

Gigabitch · #13 (**permalink**) 11-02-06, 01:19 AM

Okay, maybe this is not a good idea, but I have been wondering if getting close to someone else, not necessarily going to bed with them but maybe making out or something would help. Your sitch sounds a lot like mine with regard to obsessive thoughts, etc. It feels like a chemical addiction, no? Maybe you need a little love-methadone.
It might be pretty difficult to get that without complicating the situation further, though, wouldn't it?

alice · #14 (**permalink**) 11-02-06, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Okay, maybe this is not a good idea, but I have been wondering if getting close to someone else, not necessarily going to bed with them but maybe making out or something would help.

very good idea, that's what i've been thinking from the start. only problem: what if there's no one around you'd want to get close with?

Gigabitch · #15 (**permalink**) 11-02-06, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by alice

very good idea, that's what i've been thinking from the start. only problem: what if there's no one around you'd want to get close with?

He needs an ELT- an Emergency Love Technician