Hrmm..quite confused, help appreciated

[Pears]

It sounds like she just wants someone to hang out and have sex with. Since you want more out of the relationship, you have to tell her that you don't want to keep doing things that couples do without actually being a couple. Depending on how long you are willing to wait for her, you could wait until she wants to be a couple with you or you could tell her that you can't be with her like that if she doesn't want to be official. You are right that you are in for a big heartbreak if you keep going like this. Stand your ground.

[Jenkies]

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Would you rather us not tell you what we think to try and help you?

No, I didn't mean it like that. It's just that it's been said in this thread about 5 times allready, I do appreciate the help.

[Jenkies]

Man, this really does suck though, I am in a horrible position. One one hand I want to keep having sex with her even though we aren't a couple cause it's flippin awesome, but on the other hand I like her and her personality alot and sorta would like this to actually go somewhere. Man am I ****ed either way.

[Pears]

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Originally Posted by Jenkies

Man, this really does suck though, I am in a horrible position. One one hand I want to keep having sex with her even though we aren't a couple cause it's flippin awesome, but on the other hand I like her and her personality alot and sorta would like this to actually go somewhere. Man am I ****ed either way.

Stop and think about what you want to do. This is a bad position to be in and it will only get worse if you don't do anything. You have to make up your mind. If you want to keep having sex with her, you know you will have to sacrifice having a relationship. Is that okay with you? If not, then you should not be with her. It is tough, but you can get past it.

[Rosebud]

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Originally Posted by Jenkies

Man, this really does suck though, I am in a horrible position. One one hand I want to keep having sex with her even though we aren't a couple cause it's flippin awesome, but on the other hand I like her and her personality alot and sorta would like this to actually go somewhere. Man am I ****ed either way.

Well see this is where you have to weigh the apples and oranges. Do you want to take a chance and keep sleeping with this person knowing it may never turn into something? If you do and you can handle it when she says she wants to end things then fine. But if not you should find someone who you can have what you want (a relationship) with. In all honesty you ahve take chances at some point but since she broke up with ehr boyfriend only a month ago there's a chance she won't develop other feelings for you and if she does it's only to help her get over the last guy! (sorry!). But if your interested in her and want to take the chance then just let things go the way they are and see what happens but don't be surprised when she tells you she's moving on.....down the road!

[Gigabitch]

What does she want? If you stop sleeping with her, is she going to freak out?