Confused

[niklas]

Hi,

I've been with my girlfriend for a year and three months almost. Usually everything's fine between us and we've been through a lot in the time that we've been together. I love her more than anything. But this week she has been extremely stressed. She has started an art exam and it's that time of the month and she's horrible to everyone, including me lol.

Five years ago she had a boyfriend who kissed her best friend in front of her face and from then on she's hated him loads but a month ago, he texted her on valentine's day. Suddenly she was nice to him and started texting each other. I saw some of the texts because i knew something might be going on - i would never usually do that. They planned to meet up with eachother - even when i was in poland for 4 days. The thought sickened me because of teh content of the messages and the fact she was practically giving him the greenlight.

She was on msn on my pc the night before i letf for poland but little did she know that history of her convos were being saved to my pc. I looked at them, she had been talking to *olly* and her friend. She was thinking of having sex with him etc with out me knowing - she was even telling her friend. I got back from poland and it seemed great - she apoligised for it and went on about how much she loved me etc... so i forgave her. she had deleted and locked him from msn and told him to leave her alone as she has and loves me.

This week with the stress, he's been texting her again. she even told me she liked te attetion and that she'd like to have sex with him! i'm distraught but i know she's easily influenced - as soon as she knows someone's interested in her, she'll go along with it.


What can i do? what could i do to win her back and get rid of olly?

thanks in advance,

niklas

[katy123]

Erm, do you really want to be with a girl who is saying that kind of stuff behind your back? She is obviously enjoying all of the male attention, but to say that she would like to have sex with them behind your back...?? I personally think that is taking things a little too far. There are issues of trust etc. and you obviously are not sure - hence why you looked at her msn chat and her text messages. I know how you feel as I've been there myself. Not sure about you, but after finding something similar out from my ex-boyfriend, I never felt I could trust him, so had to walk away from the relationship. If I were you, I'd think about giving her an ultimatum - you or him. What she is doing to you right now is really no better what her ex-boyfriend did to her. The question you have to ask yourself is do you trust her enough and will you get over this. If the answer is no, then you have to walk away...

[Tone]

DAMN that's ****ed up.

I agree with katy.. with everything that has transpired I can't see all 3 of you staying in the picture together.. just more drama. One of you has to go.

[Gigabitch]

Eeeew! She and olly deserve each other.

Run for the hills! She's a bad girl!