Church chicks... - Love Forum

Journey · #1 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 07:15 AM

I know this topic has been raised before, but someone enlighten me.. am I right here or what??

OK, I’m catholic. I started going to a “Christian” church with a friend I've known for a while who kept telling me about all the hot chicks that went there. I have heard it called “Pentacostal” as well. Anyways I’m going back to my regular catholic church. Here’s why.
Everyone at the Christian church are around my age: 25 – 35 and single. There is a normal demographic at my regular catholic church.
People just seem to go there in order to hang-out at the end and try to pick each other up. People at my other church just leave.
My friend is looking for a good “Christian” girl. He really is a boring guy to go out with on the weekend. He doesn’t have the balls to approach women, but he is constantly checking them out – pointing out hot girls etc.. IMO he’s totally confused and doesn’t know what he wants. He wants to get laid but ..oh no.. that’s not living like a good Christian. IMO .. dude’s gonna have some serious regrets when he’s 60.
He makes meeting girls such a big issue, when a carefree attitude is what is truly attractive.
Every girl I have met at the church are virgins. But they seem to be so preoccupied by sex. To them its all about “making out” ie. kissing. That’s fine for them. They are satisfied with that. But I’m not down with barriers being thrown up in my face. So I just walk away.
But what about the other guys at that church? I think they’re all being played. I think the women are calling the shots, setting the limits, controlling the show - and they will continue to do so when they are married.
As for the guys I’ve met – I’ve never met such f***ed up people in my life. They are all single. They all want to be players. They try to be players – nice cars, clothes etc..
But they aren’t players – they can’t be because they are so hung up about being model “Christians”. Players play the game - and they know at least that getting in the sack is part of the deal. These guys are all seriously frustrated and don’t really know what they want.
I don’t think they should be going out trying to meet women on Friday and Saturday nights because they won’t find their Christian girls. But they do go out, and they just keep getting frustrated. The only place they should go is to their church on Sunday morning – which is exactly where they end up going. Good luck.
Since going to that church, I have “made out” with three girls. They are all pretty hot, and they are all virgins and believe me, they will all be virgins until they married. After going relatively far with one of them, she made me feel guilty later. We didn’t go all the way, but according to her it was crossing the line. Of course at the time she thought it was great. I dropped it like a hot potato. Sorry but I don’t need to keep feeling like I did something wrong, when really it was like a walk in the park compared to other girls that I have been in relationships with.
So you're reading this and thinking that I just want to get laid all the time. Thats not the case - I get very deeply involved when I'm in a relationship. I've just seen some stuff that I think is strange as a result of going to this church.

RogerWilco · #2 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 08:55 AM

Whoa, I'm not sure why, but I totally thought you were a girl until I read the "made out with 3 chicks" part. And even then, I guess it's still possible that you were a lesbian . . . .

Sorry, I don't have much else to offer here. I'm more or less agnostic.

#3 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 11:14 AM

I thought being Christian means NOT having sex before you're married and abstaining from sex. No wonder they have to scare into you that you'll go to Hell otherwise

But of course, priests can have their ways with young children.

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Advice: Don't get Christian bitches!

Journey · #4 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by RogerWilco

Whoa, I'm not sure why, but I totally thought you were a girl until I read the "made out with 3 chicks" part. And even then, I guess it's still possible that you were a lesbian . . . .

Sorry, I don't have much else to offer here. I'm more or less agnostic.

I'm a guy dude ...

gingerbabe86 · #5 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 01:29 PM

I think u'r friend and those girls u've meant are just too up tight about the whole religious thing about being a virgin before marriage. Sometimes i feel that these rules that they have doesn't even make sense and really restrict ppl's freedom of choice and that's why they act so weird in a way. I'm not trying to be steriotypical but that's just my opinion. I mean won't u feel weird because isn't it natural to want to get laid, it's our nature to reproduce and yet just because the church says oh u can't until u'r married. I've learned that sex a part of the joys in life.

lovesjoyajm · #6 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 01:49 PM

As a Catholic, I feel compelled to defend the position (if anyone wants more information on this view, feel free to PM me.) The Church doesn't just teach chastity and virginity until marriage to scare people or make sex out to be a bad thing. Its teaching on sexuality gives both sex and the people involved a much greater value. It defends people from being used just for their bodies.
Ahh... I know I could just write paragraphs, but I'd rather not unless anyone is interested.

#7 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 02:11 PM

Well, I would write answers to your paragraphs, but I'd rather not unless anyone is interested.

Only-virgins · #8 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by gingerbabe86

I've learned that sex a part of the joys in life.

ROFL..hahahaha...I'm sorry..it's just that way that you put that.

Power Diva · #9 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 05:57 PM

If you want to 'get laid', you shouldn't be going to church to pick up!!! What were you expecting?? These girls have their beliefs and want to wait (as most christians do), there is nothing wrong with that. They probably get wanna be porn stars coming to church to get 'hot chicks' all the time, thinking that all they have to do is walk through the door and girls will just sacrifice their virginity then and there.
There are plenty of chicks out there that would be all too happy to meet your needs, go get one of them.

clynn · #10 (**permalink**) 25-03-06, 08:42 PM

Yah, that is not the place for you, for sure.

You've just described my friend and her now husband. She really wears the pants, for sure.

#11 (**permalink**) 26-03-06, 01:29 AM

Also, it is common for Christian girls to wait for a guy to come and rescue them, so that they don't have to work when they're older. They can marry, have babies, and sit on their fat ass.

vashti · #12 (**permalink**) 26-03-06, 07:32 AM

I don't really understand what advice you are looking for. If you don't like Christian girls, then don't date them. Pretty simple, really. They need not be villianized for not sharing your beliefs about sex and its role in a relationship if you aren't dating them.

Journey · #13 (**permalink**) 26-03-06, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Power Diva

If you want to 'get laid', you shouldn't be going to church to pick up!!! What were you expecting?? These girls have their beliefs and want to wait (as most christians do), there is nothing wrong with that. They probably get wanna be porn stars coming to church to get 'hot chicks' all the time, thinking that all they have to do is walk through the door and girls will just sacrifice their virginity then and there.
There are plenty of chicks out there that would be all too happy to meet your needs, go get one of them.

No kidding.. I started going to that Christain church about 3 months ago, that's about 12 Sundays. I've stopped and I returned to my regular church. It wasn't my intention at all to pick up girls there. I was introduced to a few girls, and let me tell you, they were not shy AT ALL. But I didn't pursue them any further after learning about their views. I'm not going there anymore..

Journey · #14 (**permalink**) 26-03-06, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by vashti

I don't really understand what advice you are looking for. If you don't like Christian girls, then don't date them. Pretty simple, really. They need not be villianized for not sharing your beliefs about sex and its role in a relationship if you aren't dating them.

I understand Vashti. You are exactly right - I just won't date them.
I guess I'm just trying to understand my friend and the other guys I've met at that church - they are older than me, well established, act like they are players with their fancy cars, work out all the time, have all the latest gadgets - ipods, flat screen TV's, you name it... they try sooo hard.
Then my friend will tell me that I'm not living the Christian life and will basically look down at me if I'm with a girl in a relationship and having sex with her. Its just not what I'm used to..hearing that.
I go out with my other non-"Christian" friends on the weekend and I know exactly where we all stand.

vashti · #15 (**permalink**) 26-03-06, 11:37 AM

Blah! It's one thing to hold yourself to a particular religious standard, but quite another to be judging others for not sharing your views (assuming of course you are a decent guy overall). I think you ought to find friends who are less judgemental.