I need some advice - Love Forum

imissyou · #1 (**permalink**) 30-11-03, 02:56 AM

Hey, newbie here

I'm really in love with a girl I'm friends with (unfortunately, just friends at the moment), I think she is the most beautiful, wonderful person in the world, and I think about her almost all the time. The problem is, firstly we live quite far away so I've not seen her in over a week - it seems so much longer

but I really want to see more of her! We have so much fun together, share so many interests and I just like being with her

The other thing is, I know another guy who likes her, and he's always around her it seems - although she has told me how she doesn't 'like' him, that he's just a friend.. but I can't help being kinda jealous that he's always with her! And when I talk with him he goes on about how great it was seeing her all the time too, how well they're getting along etc - he doesn't know I like her too.

I really don't know whether she feels the same way as I do for her.. I'm starting to doubt it

I don't know what to do, I feel like she's the one for me... should I just tell her exactly how I feel or what - I don't want to ruin what we have *sighhh* What do you think?

Thanks for reading, by the way

Name · #2 (**permalink**) 01-12-03, 08:28 AM

I feel that the best way to test a girl that doesn't know you're into her is to flirt. Flirt and see how she reacts. She may be a little stunned at first if she doesn't expect it. Give it a couple of shots and see how she reacts. Catch something she says and make a really cheezy joke out of it implying you may be interested or just kidding. In a half joking/half serious tone tell her you're tired and she should come over and rub your back and see what she says.

If she bites then you could say something a little heavier. Maybe if you're sitting around watching a movie with her you could grab a pillow and invite her to lay her head in your lap. Play with her hair. Stroke her arms lightly with your fingers. Invite her over again and see if she's into it. Sneak in a kiss next time. Etc..

jane · #3 (**permalink**) 01-12-03, 09:52 AM

Be honest and talk to her. I would do hte check in with your buddy and make sure he's not after her too.

Name · #4 (**permalink**) 01-12-03, 12:14 PM

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Originally posted by jane
Be honest and talk to her. I would do hte check in with your buddy and make sure he's not after her too.

Tell me if what I said wouldn't work. You chicks dig that stuff, huh?

jane · #5 (**permalink**) 01-12-03, 12:17 PM

I guess we do...It would work for sure.

imissyou · #6 (**permalink**) 25-01-04, 06:08 AM

hey folks

wellll.. she knows how I feel and now I'm soo confused.

She says how she 'completely adores' me and stuff, but doesn't want to risk ruining our friendship - so basically I think she's just letting me down gently...

but the other night, admittedly she was a bit drunk, she was getting really flirty - but I couldn't take advantage of her like that, so nothing much happened. And now she hasn't replied to my text.

I'm trying to just get over her, but its hard, especially when she acts like the other night!

Nice Lover Boy · #7 (**permalink**) 25-01-04, 08:04 AM

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Originally posted by imissyou

I'm trying to just get over her, but its hard, especially when she acts like the other night!

Yup, I know exactly how you feel dude. Can I ask you some personal questions? How old are you? Where you from?
Are you attracted(height, weight)?
How old is she?
Do you know who was the last person she dated and is she seen anyone right now?
Oh yeh, do you think she is a material girl?

I want same information about your friend that likes this chik.

I want to visual your tragic story.

IceQueen · #8 (**permalink**) 26-01-04, 06:11 AM

You ask her out! Chances are, since she doesn't like that other guy and talks to *you* about it, she'll say "yes"!

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should I just tell her exactly how I feel or what

no, it's too early, and how the hell is she supposed to react to that? You'll only scare her off! Simply ask her out.

IceQueen · #9 (**permalink**) 26-01-04, 06:13 AM

Oops just saw your last post. I think you just scared her off. But it's correctable.

Call her, ask her to go to movies with you (just the two of you, but don't specify that), if she declines, make sure she sees you with another girl, then call again.

imissyou · #10 (**permalink**) 08-02-04, 10:15 AM

hey again.. sorry I suck at replying quickly

@NLBoy: I'm 19, she's 21 bla bla it doesn't really matter because..
let me declare thuis thread VOID. I realised something, I was being so blind - she had a bf, yet she was getting very flirty with me, plus I think she's seeing another guy too - and I know I'm worth more than that. She'd be just the same if she was going out with me, and I wouldn't be cool with that. What did I ever see in her!? She hardly ever has anything nice to say any more either - gets too drunk too often and is generally f*cked up - she lost her job too.

So, I found another girl, this time a NICE girl

and we're goin out on a date on Monday and hope it goes well

I just wish I had realised what a sucker I was months ago - and I advise anyone in a similar situation to snap out of it asap!

imissyou · #11 (**permalink**) 08-02-04, 10:30 AM

haha, just read the first post again - what a difference a couple of months makes huh? Love is blinding, as the saying goes.

sfalexi · #12 (**permalink**) 08-02-04, 10:39 AM

Hope the new girl works out. Be funny and witty, and keep her interested. Make her understand that you're "hella cool" (a little Southpark term I learned) and end the date on a high note. When you drop her off, make sure she's smiling or laughing. And make a move like you're gonna kiss her, but don't (meaning keep your face close as you say goodnight and run your hands through her hair or something). That'll leave her just THAT much hotter/more interested in you and guarentee date two.

Alexi

IceQueen · #13 (**permalink**) 09-02-04, 03:37 AM

IMHO, no. Be yourself. If she truly likes you for *you* she'll stick around. If she doesn't -- you'll find someone who likes you for you.

squirrley · #14 (**permalink**) 09-02-04, 03:47 AM

Damn straight! Be yourself....

Nice Lover Boy · #15 (**permalink**) 12-02-04, 03:24 AM

Yeh dude, it's true and be yourself. If the other girl you use to like really had something for you, she would come back to you, I know. I had the same situation. I left her and decided to move on. When my friend saw me with someone else, she finally woke up and started writing to me saying how is my life. I told her it was great and so she wrote back saying that she miss's me.
It was kind of too late but most women play hard to get and expect a guy to care for them even though he is just a friend. But now my friend is loveless and still writes to me with hopes that I become intrested with her again. I am single, but everything she had done to me ruins my heart to love her again like I wanted to love her in the 1st place. Tell me how things are going with your new future love.