Is it weird for girls to make the first move? - Page 3 - Love Forum

shygal · #31 (**permalink**) 11-05-06, 10:58 PM

thank you ellynn, dreamer101 and vashti for the support. really needed it.

hopefully it has taught me something. I'm trying to think 'it wasn't meant to be' because I really believe in destiny but one can't help wondering what if it was meant to be but I was the one who didn't let it be!! Yeah, guess I didn't lose anything...except for a really good looking, special guy

I did learn that I'm not ready for a relationship...and that I should relax a little around guys. For some reason, I'm almost relieved....lol, is this odd?? I don't need to impress him anymore and no need for me to be nervous and anxious. After all the disappointment, this is almost liberating. These posts must sound so contradicting! What I mean is it's always fun to have a crush on someone, then it gets depressing when you're not getting anywhere and finally you realize that there really wasn't anything, except for your imagination. I think eventually I'll stop thinking about him....

thanks you guys for all the advice!

Gigabitch · #32 (**permalink**) 11-05-06, 11:02 PM

Maybe next time you'll get a crush on someone who will be around longer, too. It would be nice to have a future with someone, right?

shygal · #33 (**permalink**) 11-05-06, 11:02 PM

thank you ellynn, dreamer101 and vashti and gigabitch for the support. really needed it.

hopefully it has taught me something. I'm trying to think 'it wasn't meant to be' because I really believe in destiny but one can't help wondering what if it was meant to be but I was the one who didn't let it be!! Yeah, guess I didn't lose anything...except for a really good looking, special guy

I did learn that I'm not ready for a relationship (and when the right guy/time comes I'll be ready!)...and that I should relax a little around guys. For some reason, I'm almost relieved....lol, is this odd?? I don't need to impress him anymore and no need for me to be nervous and anxious. After all the disappointment, this is almost liberating. These posts must sound so contradicting! What I mean is it's always fun to have a crush on someone, then it gets depressing when you're not getting anywhere and finally you realize that there really wasn't anything, except for your imagination. I think eventually I'll stop thinking about him....

thanks you guys for all the advice!

dreamer101 · #34 (**permalink**) 12-05-06, 09:24 AM

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I did learn that I'm not ready for a relationship (and when the right guy/time comes I'll be ready!)...and that I should relax a little around guys. For some reason, I'm almost relieved....lol, is this odd?? I don't need to impress him anymore and no need for me to be nervous and anxious. After all the disappointment, this is almost liberating. These posts must sound so contradicting! What I mean is it's always fun to have a crush on someone, then it gets depressing when you're not getting anywhere and finally you realize that there really wasn't anything, except for your imagination. I think eventually I'll stop thinking about him....

Ahh wise words. Sounds like you have arrived somewhere. Congratulations at completing the journey :-)

But as opposed to you I did lose something … recently … something very dear to me. A brownie point.

I just saw it today! Somebody took my beloved point away. Once there were 10 .. now there are only 9. … I miss my brownie point ..

hehehe ..

Ellynn · #35 (**permalink**) 12-05-06, 12:26 PM

Its actually said something in the latest issue of Cosmo....that if your THAT nervous around a guy....chances are...its not gonna work. I mean its normal to feel somewhat nervous....but if its to the point where you can't even talk to him / look at him or be yourself and let him get to know you....then honestly....its never gonna work... Even if he is hot....and extremely nice...and makes you feel all warm and tingly and shaky inside....

But when you find a guy who your comfy around....yet little things he does makes you feel a awesome sensation inside or nervous in a good way....then its probably something that is more likely to happen and actually turn into something thats possibly good.

partygirljessic · #36 (**permalink**) 11-06-06, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by shygal

Hi,

I'm 20 years old and am still too shy to approach or even make eye contact with guys. I know I have issues with self-esteem, but there is this guy I like who I barely know --we've never gone out or talked much, epecially recently because of my lack of eye contact. I know that maybe it's just an infatuation and it's silly because we do not know eachother, but I feel nervous (the nice kind of nervous) around him and I know that he used to be somewhat interested because he'd try to come next to me or talk to me but I'd always run away.

Now I realize that I've been pathetic and I'm worried I'll never see him again because he's going to graduate from university....would it be absolutely weird if I just brought him into a room and kissed him? Though we haven't said a word to each other for six months....any feedback would be great!

i had the same problem with self-esteem before and and the only way i overcame that was joining a dating site (try wedbatedotcom) and forming an alter ego. i was very aggressive in sending a message to this guys until i became comfortable with it. you should try it one time...