In need of advice please - Love Forum

Steven715 · #1 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 01:56 AM

Hello all agane i have cind of met some one on a internet dating website we have exchanged phone numbers but only txt each other am planning on phoning her maybe tonight or later this week. The trouble is i have only ever been out with one girl and that was 4 years ago i am 22 and she is 20 comming up 21 so any advice would be great please. thanks for looking

Catastrophe · #2 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 01:57 AM

Say something witty and entertaining to her.

Steven715 · #3 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 03:03 AM

Thanks for the reply but i realey am not no good at this sort of thing sad realey ent it

vashti · #4 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 04:44 AM

Do not do anything too expensive for a first date. The purpose of a first date is to see if you like her well enough to proceed to a second one.

Good first dates are lunch, coffeeshops inside bookstores, museums, something outdoorsy/athletic. Avoid movies.

Express genuine interest in HER life and what interests HER. Ask her questions and don't pretend you know everything about things you don't. If she likes something that you don't know about or don't care for, find out what it is she likes about it.

Ask about her family, friends, school, job.

Do not answer her questions in single word answers (yes/no).

Ellynn · #5 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 04:50 AM

Keep it simple.... Don't look at the big picture so much and just focus on getting to know her first. Thats what a first date is all about....(like the others said). Either you both will hit it off, or you won't. But its worth a shot right? You really have nothing to lose.... Good Luck!

vashti · #6 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 04:56 AM

Oh yeah, I forgot. If you asked her out, then YOU should pay. If she asked you out, then she should pay, but you should offer.

Steven715 · #7 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by vashti

Oh yeah, I forgot. If you asked her out, then YOU should pay. If she asked you out, then she should pay, but you should offer.

That goes without saying as that is the sort of person i am! Thank you very very mutch for all the good advice! Only i feal i am not doing so well on the txt side of things i feal perfectley useless infact! Prehaps i am hoping for to mutch to soon i dont know the one thing i do know is that i realy want this to work! Any way thanks agane Steve

Gigabitch · #8 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 01:33 AM

Steve, I don't intend insult, but I have to ask- are you more articulate in person than you are in text? You sound really sweet, which will probably help you win her over, but your spelling is appalling.

I think you must see her in person ASAP, because you will certainly make a better impression that way.

Call her and ask to meet her at a park or somewhere equally public (you don't really know each other , after all) get some ice cream or something.

Steven715 · #9 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Steve, I don't intend insult, but I have to ask- are you more articulate in person than you are in text? You sound really sweet, which will probably help you win her over, but your spelling is appalling.

I think you must see her in person ASAP, because you will certainly make a better impression that way.

Call her and ask to meet her at a park or somewhere equally public (you don't really know each other , after all) get some ice cream or something.

Lol yeah sorry not that this is an excuse i have dislexia and i know my spelling is realey bad always has been i try and use a spell checker when i am texting her but what looks right to me may be wrong.
I like to think that i treat women right as i want to be treated right i realy hate people who cheat!! But do you think i am worrying over nothing as i normally do? At leaset i hope i am

Gigabitch · #10 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 02:13 AM

So you're worried she has a bf?

Maybe she does, and she's a filthy cheater, or maybe you havent met her yet and you're getting all torqued up over nothing.

Steven715 · #11 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 02:14 AM

i dont think she does or at least i hope not i think it just silly me

Gigabitch · #12 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 02:27 AM

Have you called her yet or not? Hurry up! Call her now!

Steven715 · #13 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 03:05 AM

Just been talking over the internet and i asked her how she thort things was going and she is happy so i am happy so it looks like i was worrying over nothing! As for calling her i would only call her when she is good and ready las thing i want to do is push her into some thing that she dont want to do! but will try to as i am dying to know what she sounds like lol

Gigabitch · #14 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 03:13 AM

She's probably dying to talk to you, too. She gave you her number, didn't she? What are you waiting for, permission? Silly boy, giving you the number IS permission. She's probably wondering why you won't call.

Also, this hesitation might be making you look like a pantywaist. Call her.

Steven715 · #15 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 04:06 AM

LOL point taken i will see tomrrow as a little late now but i must thank you and the others for the advice! made me feal alot better about the whole thing!