what should i do ?!

[Trickee]

ok, this is probably gonna be long. i dated a guy for over a year and fell in love with him. he broke up with me about 5 months ago and his reason was "because he doesn't love me anymore" i was crushed and still am.

but about 3 months after our break up i met a new guy that i really like. but at the same time i still love my ex. the weird thing is that both me and the guy have gone through pretty much the same kind of relationship and he just got out of a serious relationship too and is also still crushed. since we both felt the same way, it was easy to relate to things.

anyway, i've stopped talking to my ex for over a month now because he told me we shouldnt talk anymore. i didnt want to be in his way so i left him alone and now we dont contact eachother anymore. he knows i like this other guy and i have a friend thats really close with him and she says he always mentions me.

i mention my ex a lot to other people too and now im just confused on whether he still feels the same way about me or not.

but ok, the problem is my feelings for this other guy keeps going up and down. sometimes i really like him and is ready to be in a relationship with him but there are times where i just want to be away from him and have some space. and maybe even start talking to my ex again because he means so much to me. and even though this guy makes me very happy, i still think about my ex a lot.

my ex boyfriend was an extremely good influence on me. he kept me in school, i didnt cuss anymore, i quit smoking and drinking and everything for him. but the guy im with right now drinks and smokes and parties all the time. he's a really fun guy to be with but i dont know if i can take it seriously with him because he's always having too much fun.

well, i just wanna know, if my ex EVER decides to start over with me again what should i say ? i like the guy im seeing right now but i love my ex. my friends tell me i shouldnt go back out with my ex but i dont know what to do. i dont want to make a mistake that ill regret. and my friend thats close with him also says he still likes me but i know that wont do any good because i dont think he wants to be with me. i'm sure that the way i'm feeling about everything is normal but i really dont know what to do.

help me with some advice. anything will be appreciated. thanks

[Ellynn]

Well keep in mind he broke up with you. He stopped talking to you.... And if he really wanted you back, he would have tried to contact you by now.

I mean sure, he will probably always have feelings for you and care about you...(which is why he talks about you to his friend)...its just he isn't in love with you anymore. So of course hes concerned about your well being etc....but just doesn't want to be with you anymore...

It's normal for you to still have strong feelings for your ex. I mean you were together for quite awhile and HE was the one who ended things..so it was probably a shocker for you.

I say give this other guy a chance. But only get into a relationship with him if you feel your ready. If your not, well then don't.