Ex wants to be friends

[Sammybeans]

I broke up with a girl I had been dating for a while, about 1 month ago. Now when I wanted to hang out as friends today, her new boyfriend says that he doesn't want us to hang out because it's "awkward." Which I can understand because I still have feelings for her. But she chewed her new boyfriend out, and told him that if he didn't want us to be friends, he had to just deal with it.

So i'm wondering, could this mean that she still has some feelings for me?
And if it does, what should I do when we do hang out to try and bring the spark back. Except I don't want to do anything too forward, like make a move on her.

I don't know if that made sense to anybody.

[Ellynn]

First off, I don't blame her new bf for being upset about the two of you hanging out...

And second....why did the two of you break up anyways? Who ended it? And why?

[Sammybeans]

She ended it. why is a bit longer. It was because she had feelings for the other guy before she met me, but didn't act on them. Now she realizes that he has feelings for her, so she needed to do this for herself. To see if those feelings are still there for him. I wasn't too happy with that explination though.

[Ladies_Man(jks)]

Sounds like you guys might be getting back together soon...

[Sammybeans]

I hope that's true. But what are you basing your answer on?

[Ladies_Man(jks)]

The way you explaing things, it sounds like she still has feelings for you, but wanted to meet new people. So I think she might want to get back with you.

[Ellynn]

It sounds like she thought the grass was greener on the other side of the fence....and now she realizes it isn't.

So basically she broke up with you to be with this other guy she had feelings for and now shes telling him that she wants to be friends with you or else?

Sounds to me like she isn't as happy with him as she thought she would be.... So I guess shes finding that out... It also sounds like she has feelings left for you...

She probably never wanted to break up with you, but she had to be sure about her feelings for this other guy. But, I must caution you.... She might not ever want to get back together with you.... It might just be that she likes you as a friend..
I would let her know how you feel....but then tell her if the feeling isn't mutual, its ok. Cuz then you guys can still be friends but that you will move on to date other people. Please let her know you will not wait for her forever....and PLEASE don't. Cuz you could be setting yourself up for a major disappointment if she decides NOT to get back with you.....

[vashti]

Ugh. Why would you want a girl who is so confused?

[BlackPetal]

Another possibility is that she wants you for emotional support. While you two were together, you were probably quite caring for her and sensitive for her feelings. So right now, by keeping you around she is basically using you as a way to secure herself.

My advice is that if she says you two are friends, do not commit more than a friend. Go for other girls out there. If she does like you in the end rather than just keeping you for security, she will eventually come back assuming everything is right. If she doesn't, well that's fine, you two are friends anyways, and you can keep going for other girls.

[Bennyzilla]

I was in the exact same situation. My Ex GF broke up with me but still wanted to call me everyday and hang out like nothing had changed. She wanted to "date" me emotionally and date some other guy physically. You need to just tell her exactly how you feel. If she decides to come back to you then great, but if not then you'll be okay ( no matter how much it may seem like you won't).

You can definitly hold out hope that something will eventually work out between you two, but you shouldn't close your mind off to other options or people that want to be with YOU and not some other guy.