really like a girl and can't do anything about it

[jellysticks]

I've known this girl on and off for about 3 years now, and i've got to know her really well in the last 8 months or so and we've become really good friends and I like her more than that but think (maybe more hope) that i've managed not to let my feelings for her show, for a number of reasons.

1) she has a bf who she likes but can't see her relationship going anywhere further (they've been together for more than a year) but they're both in exam time at the moment and breaking wouldn't do any of them any good

2) in about a month I'm leaving the country for 6 months, not a great time to start a relationship!

3) I really don't want to lose her as a friend, from our discussions I don't think I would from her pov but I wouldn't feel as comfortable as I do now

another thing thats been worrying me is that I split up with my ex of 3 years about 10 months ago and haven't been with anyone since, so I'm kinda worried it could just be a lack of contact, although I don't think it is, but it could be, but it might not be, but theres a big circle, and theres dragons in it, and the world could fall down and I'm being overdramatic! ARGH!!!!!

basically I know there's nothing I can really do about it but I really need to share it somehow!

thanks for listenin guys

[Whizza]

In my personal opinion I would bet money that the relationship you're describing wouldn't have a future. I've been in a very similiar situation (Albeit with someone that sounds like more of a bitch than the girl you're describing) and all I can say is that women can be completely blind to how you're feeling about them. Although you say that you've tried to hide your feelings from her and you've given the reasons why you did this, I'm pretty sure that as a male I could have read the signs and if she'd wanted to she could have as well. Sadly I would reckon that whilst she seems to be slagging her boyfriend off to you to some extent, if you were to get full on and join in she would probably start defending him. Also, women are also much better at maintaining friends (even VERY good friends) without ever openly considering them sexually. If she was to find out how you feel she would either over-react completely, potentially never speaking to you again, or she could ignore it which would be a subtle hint that she didn't want to hear it.

The chances that she would dump her current bf and run into the arms of prince charming (you) are very low. If it was going to happen it would have happened by now. Just stay her friend and make sure that the quality of your relationship hasn't been masked by the fact that you want to impregnate her.

Of course, I could be wrong. Sorry for my advice but I learnt it the hard way.