Think he's had sex with someone else - Love Forum

Kodak · #1 (**permalink**) 21-05-06, 10:01 PM

I have been totally off sex for the past year or so, put it this way, we bought a pack of 6 condoms at christmas and we still have some left. I just never feel like it and I know it's been bothering him.

Anyway for the past couple of weeks he hasnt tried it on at all, he hasnt seemed bothered. last night however we were discussing how some people have tons of past sexual partners and he turned around and said thoughtfully "I dont even think I'm into double figures yet..." last time we discussed this he seemed to know his 'number' was 8.

At the time I didnt really think, I just said "what do you mean 'yet'?" in a jokey way and his face went bright red and he started stuttering as if he was in deep panick and said "I didnt realise I'd said that...I dont even know why I did.." but he make a huge deal out of it, looking back he was acting as if he'd just said something that had given the game away.

We dont live together so it would be easy for him to cheat.

What do you reckon? Am I reading too much into an innocent comment?

Teezy · #2 (**permalink**) 22-05-06, 01:15 AM

You may be reading too deep into it, but honestly, if you don't want it to happen, then have sex with him. Do it for him, because would you rather have him sleeping with other girls? Get over youself and fvck your boyfriend already.

Ladies_Man(jks) · #3 (**permalink**) 22-05-06, 01:21 AM

Yeah you can't blame your partner if your holding out on him. It's sad to say, but sex is an important part to a strong relationship.

DarkDwarf · #4 (**permalink**) 22-05-06, 05:10 AM

Sex really shouldn't be everything, but these days it is. Fvck him.

Ladies_Man(jks) · #5 (**permalink**) 22-05-06, 07:21 AM

It isn't everything, but it is important, it is one of the main reasons my GF and I are on break right now. I think it is important that all relationships have a healty sex life.

Have you asked yourself why you don't feel like having sex?

miffi01 · #6 (**permalink**) 22-05-06, 09:27 AM

It's really funny - you always here people say "sex isn't everything"...I used to say it too, but now I realise how wrong I was. Sex is important, because it strengthens the bond between two people. There's chemistry between two people, but it's like that physical intimacy kinda "seals the deal".... I couldn't imagine not wanting to have sex with my partner. On the flip side, sad to say but men will be men. They've just gotta go and spread their seed, so if you're not fulfilling his appetite at home, of course he's gonna be tempted to go "eat elsewhere". It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore, but men need sex!! Seriously, I couldn't imagine feeling secure in my relationship if I knew I wasn't satisfying my partners needs - and by satisfying his, it's satisfies my own... maybe you guys should go see a sexual therapist and re-light that flame again. Hope it all works out for you though...

Dalagonash · #7 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 01:42 AM

You are reading too much into it.

If your so paranoid then keep phoning him at night, if he doesn't answer then you can interrogate him as to his reasons!

Or you could be more extreme still and stalk him.

#8 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 12:08 PM

I have to be totally honest, if I didn't have sex with my girlfriend for a year, I'd probably already be long gone...then again I'm 25, another 25 years and I won't be such a worthless pig of a man. Right!?

My advice is to slap him across his girly little face and then f' his brains out.

vashti · #9 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ladies_Man(jks)

It isn't everything, but it is important, it is one of the main reasons my GF and I are on break right now. I think it is important that all relationships have a healty sex life.

I think it is important for healthy ADULT relationships. HOw old are you, original poster? If you are 13, I am going to bitch-slap all the other posters on this thread.

Ladies_Man(jks) · #10 (**permalink**) 24-05-06, 08:24 PM

Well the way she wrote it, she didn;'t sound13. But, if thats the case... Disregard what I said.

Gigabitch · #11 (**permalink**) 25-05-06, 01:28 AM

If you already know his number was 8, why was it coming up in conversation again? Gee, were you trying to cleverly trick him into using a damning word like "yet"?

I'm gonna do some math here: 6 condoms at Christmas and you still have "some" left, so in 5 months, you haven't had sex more than four times. For the past couple of weeks he hasn't even tried, which makes you suspicious, because he usually tries more. So, let's say he's tried every two weeks since Christmas (approximately 22 weeks) and has only succeeded four times. That's an 18% success rate.

Why the hell should he bother?