im confused to know what to do next?

[Kozuka]

Okay heres my story...
okay this is how it started i was goin to a club with a friend of my sisters and we were going to pick her friend whom works at the club (this is a strip club btw and yes both of the girls are strippers which i have no problem with), well anyways we got to the club which i find my seat and the others go back to get dressed and stuff and im enjoying myself a bit when the one that i am interested in comes and sits next to me and we talk for a while and she goes back to work and i continue sitting there (this goes on for a few more hours untill its time to leave) well im waiting for the girls to get redressed so we can leave and go home. The one i am interested in comes out first and stands next to me and we talk for a bit so i ask her if she wants to sit down and start to move to the seat next to me when she jumps onto my lap well i am VERY confortable with this so we sit there talking for a lil while longer waiting on the other girl well we leave and head to the house which i am staying the night because it is too late for me to go home. Well anyways about 6 am the next morning the girl comes and lays on the couch with me and we both go back to sleep for a few hours (well lemmy just say that i am a virgin and have never had any form of serious relationship with any grls just to clear anything up) well i leave and leter realize i would like to see the girl again so i ask her friend for her number which she gives to me well... i was too afraid to call her so i figured it was over, anyways a few days ago i am staying with my sisters friend for the night and sleep in the girls bed whom i have a crush on because she wasnt coming home till next morning well, she comes in and we talk like friends for a while then we both still tired we lay back down to goto sleep and then i have to get up to go home.... that is the story and im not sure how to move on with this girl, its not like most cases where you can ask them out a o date and stuff its really weird...adn i need some advise (hopfully i didnt confuse anyone who read this i know its poorly written)

[Kozuka]

Yeah she called me earlier and asked if i wanted to go swimming with her and a friend but i had to turn her down because i have to work tonight (im still trying to firgure out if she wants me or if i am just stuck in friend zone

[blauw]

I'd just ask her on date if I were you ...

The fact that she's a stripper doesn't matter I think.
Woman are woman and those like to go on dates.
That's my opinion.

[Kozuka]

well i agree about that...but i think were past a date and it would be alittle weird to go on a date with her or maybe im wrong

[blauw]

Take her out to diner ?
U might consider that as a date aswell but ... it's something more special then going to a club imo.

[Kozuka]

nah clubbin wasnt what i was talkin bout...i dunno maby im just dumb and a lil scared she turn me down if i ask her to go out on a date so it makesit weird for me

[Steven715]

I agree Shibby ask her out you have nothing to lose! if she does turn you down then you can still be friends it is better to know than not at all as it will pester you untill you stress your self out. Just ask her for dinner and see how it goes from there! best of luck mate

[Kozuka]

Aight then, asking her out, what would i say? (yep im new at tryin to talk with anyone i might wanna date)

[Gigabitch]

How about, "You wanna go out sometime?"

I think that the fact that she's a stripper shouldn't change that. You're not past a date if you think you're in the Friend Zone. You sound confused about where you stand, so asking her out will clarify it for both of you.

You were too scared to call her after she sat in your lap? WTF?

[TheNinja]

Yeah, Just ask her out. I wouldn't phrase it as a "date" though, I never liked that, it makes assumptions, to me a "date" gives away too much, its obvious what you're up to. I mean, if you say "wanna hang out on friday" vs "wanna go on a date on friday", the hang out version there's no expectations in that language on her part that you're trying to get with her, which in my experience is a plus, she'll be wondering "does he just want to be friends or does he want something more", which seems to be an advantage especially if she already digs you (which she seems to, a little bit of hard to get goes a long way, dont overdo it though)... anyways that's just my view on it and I'm starting to ramble...

Ask her what if wants to do something on insertdayoftheweekhere-day, have an idea of what to do, "wanna go play pool/go see a movie/ make sweet love under the starlight" Ok, the last one was a joke, but you get the idea.

[Kozuka]

well...thanks for the advice...imma call her later today after i get some sleep (had to work all night) and ill post as soon as i get an answer...n stuff

[Kozuka]

Welp...turns out she wasnt home most of the weekend, but i went and spent the night with my uncle (whom lives with her) but she came back that day before i left...turns out...shes found someone oh well...moving on...