need advice - Love Forum

naoki322 · #1 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 04:58 AM

So yeah this one guy i thought was my friend, but he's constantly calling my GF randomly and flirting with her. I love my girlfriend to death, i dont wanna be ****ed up and tell her who she can or cant be friends with. I dont know... he's causing a lot of problems for us. I can trust her, but the problem lies in the guy. advice?

BlackPetal · #2 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 05:58 AM

Tell your friend or ur GF to back off.

wildadrenaline · #3 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 02:08 PM

let ur gal choose. if she's meant to be yours, nothing will come in between u guys..

Ellynn · #4 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 03:42 PM

I would tell HIM to back off. Then also talk to your gf about it. Let her know it bothers you how hes doing all that to her. Let her know also that your afraid of what his intentions are. But make sure u let your gf know you TRUST her!

If she gives you any reason NOT to...then I say drop both of them and move on.

Hyper_Techno · #5 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 03:50 PM

Ditto. Just face the guy and tell him to get lost.

kai · #6 (**permalink**) 30-05-06, 04:31 PM

Yeah ask him to get lost and leave ur gf . If he doesn't then go and kick his a** if u can

or solve the matter peacefully . Ask him why he is flirtin with your gf

kellyz · #7 (**permalink**) 01-06-06, 03:04 PM

yes! I agree with previous meanings. Just say this guy to back off. If he still wanna b ur friend he'll understand you.

Gigabitch · #8 (**permalink**) 02-06-06, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by naoki322

So yeah this one guy i thought was my friend, but he's constantly calling my GF randomly and flirting with her. I love my girlfriend to death, i dont wanna be ****ed up and tell her who she can or cant be friends with. I dont know... he's causing a lot of problems for us. I can trust her, but the problem lies in the guy. advice?

Not completely. There are at least 100 ways to get off the phone with some guy who calls you up for some inappropriate flirting. Even if your girlfriend was mute, she could hang up the phone, if she wanted to. She needs to learn to draw a line, and you need to let her. If she won't, then your problem is actually with her.

naoki322 · #9 (**permalink**) 03-06-06, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Not completely. There are at least 100 ways to get off the phone with some guy who calls you up for some inappropriate flirting. Even if your girlfriend was mute, she could hang up the phone, if she wanted to. She needs to learn to draw a line, and you need to let her. If she won't, then your problem is actually with her.

touche~ i talked to her about it last night, everything is fine now we got everything out of the way, but the reason she was on the phone with the guy for like 7 hours, was because she feels bad hanging up on people.

vashti · #10 (**permalink**) 03-06-06, 01:55 AM

She spent 7 hours on the phone because she didn't want to hang up on him? I call bullsh*t.

Tone · #11 (**permalink**) 03-06-06, 01:59 AM

They both need to be confronted.

You can't honestly be satisfied with a "Oh I don't like to hang up on people so I talked to him for 7 hours" cop-out, can you?

I mean, in 7 hours you have a bazillion opportunities to get off the phone if you truly wanted. "Hey sorry I have to go eat now" "Hey I have some things I have to take care of" "Oh hey we've been talkin for awhile now, I better get off this phone" etc

Your girlfriend isn't as innocent as you'd like to believe in all this.

Ellynn · #12 (**permalink**) 03-06-06, 02:06 AM

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Originally Posted by naoki322

touche~ i talked to her about it last night, everything is fine now we got everything out of the way, but the reason she was on the phone with the guy for like 7 hours, was because she feels bad hanging up on people.

Wow thats a long time to be on the phone to someone.... Honestly, with someone I wanted to talk to....I couldn't think of anything more to say after an hr or two. And even is she didn't want to talk to him, she could have made an excuse within the first hr.
Sounds fishy....

youre it · #13 (**permalink**) 03-06-06, 04:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Ellynn

Wow thats a long time to be on the phone to someone.... Honestly, with someone I wanted to talk to....I couldn't think of anything more to say after an hr or two. And even is she didn't want to talk to him, she could have made an excuse within the first hr.
Sounds fishy....

I agree with Ellyn most definitely. A guy only talks to a girl for a long time on the phone if they have interest...and same w/the girl. I hope that's not the case, but 7 hours? That's crossing WAY over the line. I would talk to her again and tell her that makes you feel uncomfortable...that you don't care if you guys are friends, but a guy and girl talking on the phone for that long if they have another gf/bf is just wrong...good luck.