Arrange Marriage shhess

[flurint]

God Dam but i go into detail.

My gf grandmother is a b!tch. She sent a photo of my gf sister to some rich guy in cananda but her grandmother didn't know thier was a photo of my gf on the back of my gf sister photo and the guy called up and said " she look pretty and cute i fly thier soon " and than he says " what school she goes to? she wearing green, like me but my gf sister is the one in brown " Big mix up!! and now her family like forcing my gf to get married with that guy. DAM i hate asian family and thier arrange marriage. I thought was suppose to ended like ages but gues asian tradition goes on...piss me off and of cource I'm sad seeinng some one you love forced to get arrane and leave you.....her parents i hate them. Thier is one thing my gf said if i loved her with my whole heart she will fight agaist them but i love her only 70% of my heart and yes i know you can't meassure love but i hade to give her an answer. She told me that not enough to give her family up. She said if i love her 100% of my heart she will fight back and stay with me...but i don't want to lie to her.

hmm in this situation i don't know what to do..

[vashti]

Doesn't sound like there is much you CAN do, but it was really good of you be be honest about your level of love for this girl. You sound like a good guy, and I am sure there will be another one for you.

[flurint]

it like been through alot together but have to end like this......i told her i will seek for her with in 5 years. Things might change i know but still my hopes are so high...she told me to find another.........i don't know if i can.

These situation....asian.family that a bad thing about being an asian..thier only one good side you will get married for sure but may not be with the person you love..

[Composer]

If you love her only 70% you will most likely not wait for her and still love her after 5 years. You indeed sound like a good guy.

I think you actually ARE in love with her, but wanted to avoid the obligation to marry her so you said 70%. You would rather lose her forever than marry her.

[flurint]

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Originally Posted by Composer

If you love her only 70% you will most likely not wait for her and still love her after 5 years. You indeed sound like a good guy.

I think you actually ARE in love with her, but wanted to avoid the obligation to marry her so you said 70%. You would rather lose her forever than marry her.

to be honest i think people should get married in the 20's like aound 21~25.

[vashti]

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Originally Posted by flurint

to be honest i think people should get married in the 20's like aound 21~25.

Americans at the age of 21-25 are generally far from ready to get married. Why do you think the divorce rates are so high?

[dreamer101]

hey flurint, tough situation you are facing. i feel for you. i am not against arrange marriages if both individuals are happy with it and are given time to like/dislike each other. personally i woldn't want to be arrange married. i know a girl at work whose family is actively seeking a partner for her, and she is scared and doesn't want to go down that road. she is under a lot of pressure and is far too scared to stand up for herself.
so take a minute and think about the situation your gf is in. given that you only love her a 70% (and i thought love was blind!) and are not ready to marry her or whatever, that is not the point. the point is that she is facing an issue at home, so be the support she needs and help her work through it. help her stand up to her family. look, i can understand that you are angry at a lot of people and moreso traditions, but what your gf may need right now is simply a friend, to stick around through thick and thin, not a life partner. she already has that on offer.

i hope it works out for the both of you. It will.

[naoki322]

people that arent in 3rd world countries still listen to arranged marriages? Anyways i hope somehow everything works out for you.

[flurint]

i got 6 month if i can convice her to stay and confront her family. Mean while that guy is comming down in June i m goin to talk to him!

[flurint]

OMG good news!!!!

It been pulled off. The guy who was going to marry my gf understand and he said he respect love so his not going to force her so he puleld if off. But i found some thing that even worse my girl friend going to die of some blood clog at the back of her head omg i feel shit now..why after we just passed a hazard another one comes i feel so so...we been through alot and why does this has to happen it like god is tryingh is best pull me and her apart.

[vashti]

I don't even know how to respond to a post that begins "good news" and then proceeds to talk of a beloved girlfriend's severe illness.

[EvilGenius]

likewise to the message of vashti

[Gigabitch]

Dramarama.