Help Please - Love Forum

CrazyPucker · #1 (**permalink**) 25-07-06, 11:32 AM

Hey everyone..... Im 17 years old my girlfriend is 15, we have been dating for around 3 months now and since summer has started ( june 9th ) she has pretty much been coming over to my house every single day from around 4 or 5 to 12:30 at night. She usually asks "So do u want me to come over" or somethin along those lines and of course im goin to say yes to that...She usually gets Angry/Sad when she doesnt even get to see me for 1 day ( like if i have to work a full day, ect...) and she will have a bit of an attitude... She tends to get mad very easy over the smallest things. Anyways her coming over every day is starting to get a lil annoying because i dont have any time to myself.. Recently my mom said she comes over too much and i told her and she is taking it really hard and is very sad/mad... i dont really know what to do im just confused.... any help would be appreciated....thanks...

toowens · #2 (**permalink**) 25-07-06, 11:36 AM

Well put it this way. Your lucky she can go over there. Imagine if she couldnt.

vashti · #3 (**permalink**) 25-07-06, 02:06 PM

Your mom is right. No way should she be over there every day, especially for that number of hours. Doesn't she have anything constructive to do? Don't you have a job or homework or sports... something?

Let her be mad. She is acting like a spoiled child.

I think you ought to set up two or three evenings a week when you DO see her, and limit those outings to 3 hours each. If she doesn't like it, break up with her and let her be a cling-on with someone else.

You need to learn to draw some boundaries, my friend.

Venacava · #4 (**permalink**) 25-07-06, 06:25 PM

I'm sorry, but she's 15. She is a teenage girl and girls will be girls! If it was me, I'd just tell her straight up that I need time alone, she may get offended or whatever - but she's 15 and this could be something for you to learn from.

thinker · #5 (**permalink**) 25-07-06, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by vashti

I think you ought to set up two or three evenings a week when you DO see her, and limit those outings to 3 hours each. If she doesn't like it, break up with her and let her be a cling-on with someone else.

You need to learn to draw some boundaries, my friend.

Yeah... again, this seems like good ole puppy love to me; BOTH of you (this IS a relationship) need to be your own people in order to make that work, and it DOES sound like she is a bit clingy (which can be flattering and affectionate at first) but ultimately eventually, niether of you will have anything to do/talk about because you are joined at the hip... and, yes, she is a 15 year old girl who will most likely need to learn from life quite a bit more, so just be honest; put it all on the table and if you guys still want to be friends or if you can set up some shorter more separated meeting times, then go for it. But yeah, right now its less of a symbiotic relationship than an "i-like-this-guy-so-i'm-gonna-suffocate-him" type of deal...