i dont know what to do

[Painfulheart]

last semester we did a lot of talking, I flirted and she flirted back, at least i took it for flirting.

I knew about the boyfriend from day 3, and in no way want to be a bastard and break them up, and thats kinda why im finding it hard to talk to her, i feel if i invite her out, that others (including boyfriend and her) may take it as me advancing. What kind of thing do i invite her to do... everything i think of is kinda date orientated.

I am quite happy to have a stong friendship and nothing else atm, as long as i get to talk to her and spend time with her a lot more.

i dont think i will actually tell her i like her, but ill make it known to her gradually, im sure she already knows.

Im also stupid in the way i hold back what i truly want to say, just to protect myself if i get hurt. Id love to say hey wanna come over my place and watch movies, or wanna go out for lunch and chat, but am scared id get the big NO, cos its too date orientated and she wouldnt cos of her bf.

I have many girl friends, and have met, dated, known a lot of girls, and have never felt for them as i do her. So i can wait, even if it takes me 4 years to even get a chance to date her. But yeah i kinda just wanna spend time with her, nothing romantic. I wouldnt even try for a hand holding, hug, or mucking around.

[vashti]

I am getting the impression you are headed for the friend zone, and that is not a good place for a smitten guy to be.

[Gigabitch]

Look, there's always studying together, but Vashti's right- you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. You must not do anything inappropriate, yet if you behave as a friend, that's what you will become.

And don't you know it, as soon as you start dating someone else, she'll break up with her boyfriend.

What can you do? Are you willing to risk being relegated to the dreaded Friend Zone just to spend time with her?

[Painfulheart]

so should i play the friend who says hi at uni, flirts a lot, but nothing too unapropriate, goes and has a quick convo when ever i see her, but nothing too long (ie when walking back to our cars or in the few minutes before a lec starts) and hangs out like once a month kinda thing?

i guess i should really ask this, what flirting is ok to do and not ok to do

in semester one we did a lot of physical contact flirting, like she'd grab and hold my arm, or bumping legs, tapping on leg, or shoulder bumping as we walked, even gentle punches, pinching, poking to annoy... stuff like that we both did

also if we ever caught each others eye, we'd wave, or make a face (stick tongue out), also flirt joking or being jokingly mean

I dont really (not at all) do that kinda stuff with other chics, or at least have it resipricated.

[vashti]

I am sticking with my original piece of advice. It will give you some resolution to know whether or not she really likes you in a romantic sense.

[Painfulheart]

Thanks for everyones comments some have really helped

i was reading and liking only the posts that had a go for it feel, few days thinking, and i think ive come to my senses,

im gonna stay away from her, well ill still talk and say hi and wave when i see her, maybe even make a funny face if we catch eyes, but no where near the amount of flirting i was/want to do and im going to remove any thought of a relationship for the time being.

even tho everytime i see her i will think about it, im really gonna try hard, i just wish that "outta sight outta mind" worked eheheh

i was thinking if anyone did that to me, id probably hunt em down, and if she did that to him, she could do that to me.

Im gonna keep an eye out for someone else, never know i may find someone i like even more

(decided id only ever tell he i liked her if the perfect time appeared)

[Gigabitch]

I think you've made the right choice. Someday, you may get a shot at her, but even if you never do, you know you're doing the right thing.