I stuffed things up. - Love Forum

CrazyCharmaine · #1 (**permalink**) 03-08-06, 04:46 PM

I have this good friend of mine ill called him L. He is my ex bf's old best mate Me and my ex have been broken up for nearly a yr and my friend L has just told me he is interested in me and been so romantic and wanting to be with me but i think i have totally stuffed things up we decided to give it a go being long distance and all it s gonna be hard but i just stuffed things up by comparing males to my ex's and basically saying i really dont trust guys.
Well that went down well with him he totally said it wouldnt work and we r gradually goin back to friends but the thing is I cant stop thinking about him. I liked him for ages and I wanna be with him I did talk to him and he said it wouldnt work. I am heartbroken how can i tell him or show him how much i wanna be with him. he lives 2 hours away and im currently banned from driving i really wanna show him i want us to get together and see if it works.

b*tch · #2 (**permalink**) 03-08-06, 04:59 PM

CrazyCharmaine,

When he doesn't want to pursue a relationship, don't force him. Every men know when is the right time. Keep yourself going! Do not hang yourself on someone who doesn't or else you will be hurt.

CrazyCharmaine · #3 (**permalink**) 03-08-06, 05:35 PM

the thing is he says he still wants me. His the one that was so perisitant on me and him being an item but when i turn around and say yes he backs off its annoying me and confusing me.
This is the main reason y i was so hesitant to pursue him as i knew this would happen. Grrrrrrr y r guys so confusing lol.

b*tch · #4 (**permalink**) 03-08-06, 05:44 PM

He's a guy with no balls! LOL! Lemme say, not a gentleman either! You deserve more than him. MOVE ON!

thinker · #5 (**permalink**) 03-08-06, 05:56 PM

Why are MEN confusing???????? AAAAHHHH!!??!!??!!??

Sounds like a case of hard to get... he may be testing the waters to see how interested you really are; and something tells me that he is just confused by you as you are by him... Give things time, and try to be clear about what you want, if you know what you want that is

Gigabitch · #6 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 05:15 AM

Two hours away is a pretty long way to expect him to travel to see you, since you're banned from driving and can't reciprocate.

Maybe you two could spend a day together without even thinking about the future/ how's it gonna work/ LDR thing. Just spend a day being happy with each other and ask yourself what you're willing to do to have it again, occasionally.

vashti · #7 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 05:35 AM

There are two things you should never run after: a man and a bus, because there is always another one coming. Save your dignity, and move on. According to your profile, you are a very young mommy. Maybe your efforts would be better spent focusing on your kid; they are less trouble than men.

b*tch · #8 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by thinker

Why are MEN confusing???????? AAAAHHHH!!??!!??!!??

" Men don't understand anything about women and women understand nothing about men. And it's probably better that way."

thinker · #9 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by b*tch

" Men don't understand anything about women and women understand nothing about men. And it's probably better that way."

Well freakin put.

I don't know if you're just smart, or if it's your avatar... either way well said

vashti · #10 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 10:13 AM

I understand men. They are simple creatures, really.

thinker · #11 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by vashti

I understand men. They are simple creatures, really.

We are. Food, sex, and sleep... That's all there is honestly... not much going on up there...

b*tch · #12 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by thinker

We are. Food, sex, and sleep... That's all there is honestly... not much going on up there...

There are situations that men are hard to understand!!! They say not exactly what they mean. I could say, at times they more unpredictable than women.

Frasbee · #13 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by thinker

We are. Food, sex, and sleep... That's all there is honestly... not much going on up there...

No.

You are.

Don't group me in with the likes of "we".

I have more things to worry about.

CrazyCharmaine · #14 (**permalink**) 04-08-06, 01:28 PM

He comes up to where i live a fair bit cause his sister lives up here. And it is easy for me to go down there.Yer I am a young mum and I do have an adorable son but Ive been single for 10 months and i cant put my life on hold cause i have a son.
Everything I do my son is involved and L is the one that said he doesnt care if i have a son he is already the godfather of my child.Update on the situation we r staying friends and see how it goers in the future main reason being he said i need to sort out things and my issues with men about not trusting them.

Also have a another prob the father of my baby is being really difficult denying his child and telling ppl shit about me. I just dont get guys if he doesnt think the baby is hisY would he bond with him and expect me to stay at his house fairly regularly ( mind you i dont do anything sexual with him as i dont belive in sex without being in a relationship). I dont et he s going around telling ppl that my son isnt his but he expects me to take my son to see him few days a week and he takes photos and telling me he has a say in things. Does that sound weird or what should i tell jaidyns dad to grow up and take a stand or forget about him.

either way Im not in love with jaidyns dad but I do have deep feelings for my friend I have since day 1 of meeting him and that was a yr go.Lol this post might seem very confusing but yer i reckon my life is like days of our lives lol.