Do I ask her again...or let it go?

[bu2002]

A little background...chick at work who i've been friends for about a couple of years...didn't really see her as anything more than that until a few months ago. We've only hung out outside of a few times at after work happy hours, never alone, but we do converse on email from time to time. Anyhow, both of our birthdays are coming up at the end of month a few days apart, so I thought of getting together with her sometime in between our birthdays. While conversing on email...

me: "oh by the way, since your b-day is a few days after mine, we're gonna grab a beer sometime in between our b-days..FYI".

her: "Yep! man Im getting really old We need to round up some work people."


I said nothing insinuating having anyone other than her and myself. I kind of left it at that and didn't make that point to her...but is it pretty safe to assume that any woman in that situation who suggests to have others come along really isn't intersted in a romantic way?

[lin]

You say that you've been friends for a couple of years but have only recently become romantically interested ? Maybe she just hasn't noticed that your opinion of her has changed . Perhaps she just assumed that you meant that you wanted to go out as a group because that's what you've done for the last two years .

If I had been friends with a man for two years I would think that the time had passed for any romantic interest and would just assume that we were just friends . If you've changed your mind about that you need to do something to let her know . Have you acted differently with her in the last couple of months so that she might have perhaps noticed a change in your relationship ?

[vashti]

She doesn't want to jump to any conclusions about your level of interest. If you want to take her on a date, then you need to be more direct.

[Gigabitch]

You haven't been rejected. You haven't even tried yet. You should have come right back to her with, "I meant just you and me." Now you will have to ask her out the old fashioned way, face-to-face, so you can see her reaction.