am i toast? - Love Forum

hellohello · #1 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 11:04 AM

I met a girl named Becca about 9 months ago. 6 months I ago I kissed her. We started making out, then about 4 months ago we had to move away for the summer, we sort of lost touch, but we tried to keep it together a la phone etc. Now I'm back, and we've started exclusively dating. I've somewhat felt this way all along, and so has she, but we didn't talk about it until recently.

This summer though, (when becca and I lost touch) I started hanging out with an old pal Al, we used to talk alot about sex and stuff when we were 16 etc, out of curiousity. I wasn't attracted to her, I've never touched her. This time though, she started to get really personal and I feel like I probably encouraged her. I feel like she was trying to turn me on. I left. It makes me feel like all these 'exploration' talks were on her agenda, and it makes me feel totally unfaithful towards Becca.

Should I tell Becca? I feel like since we weren't technically dating, I could not tell her, but I also feel like I really should, because its really heavy on the conscious. How do you think she'd recieve the news? If things don't work out expect heavy traffic in the heart break forum : (

vashti · #2 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 11:17 AM

Why would you want to tell your girlfriend about a big nothing? If you didn't do anything, and you didn't even have a girlfriend, then what is the problem?

hellohello · #3 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 11:21 AM

I feel like I encouraged her. I feel like I had thoughts around Al that I only want to have around Becca. I may be overthinking this, I do that quite often.

Take my word for it, if I don't tell Becca, she will never find out about this, so I'm not worried about that. I just feel like she might need to know, for my conscious' sake, and I hope she doesn't kick me out : )!

#4 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 11:50 AM

I suggest you tell her if it'll help you.

Sami09 · #5 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 12:40 PM

tell her if she want up too you. you never did kiss her or anythin like that you

didnt do anything wrong. is the other women really your gf or is it just casual.

Frasbee · #6 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 12:53 PM

hellohello · #7 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Sami09

tell her if she want up too you. you never did kiss her or anythin like that you

didnt do anything wrong. is the other women really your gf or is it just casual.

she's not my girlfriend. I'd say we're right in between hanging out and dating.

vashti · #8 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hellohello

I feel like I encouraged her. I feel like I had thoughts around Al that I only want to have around Becca. I may be overthinking this, I do that quite often.

Take my word for it, if I don't tell Becca, she will never find out about this, so I'm not worried about that. I just feel like she might need to know, for my conscious' sake, and I hope she doesn't kick me out : )!

So you want to tell her to relieve YOUR conscience? This really doesn't have anything to do with what is in HER best interest, then. Why should she be burdened with your guilt, especially since you didn't DO anything?

hellohello · #9 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by vashti

So you want to tell her to relieve YOUR conscience? This really doesn't have anything to do with what is in HER best interest, then. Why should she be burdened with your guilt, especially since you didn't DO anything?

oh that's quite a point; upon further reflection it is quite selfish. I'll take that into consideration. thanks.

derm · #10 (**permalink**) 19-08-06, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

LOL... RALMFAO.........You beat me to it Frasbee! Funny thing is nobody picked up on it