Cheating...

[Gigabitch]

I think cheating is hardly ever about the person they're with, or even the person they're cheating with. It's about their own issues with commitment, and respect for their SO.

I don't feel that I've ever cheated on anyone. Last year, I slept with someone else while legally married, but I had told my husband we were through and he was very clear about that. It wasn't graceful, but it wasn't cheating (in my book).

As far as I know, nobody has ever cheated on me. I can only imagine what it must feel like. So hurtful.

[vashti]

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Arghhh...I knew I should have kept my mouth shut...lol

Why would you think someone would cheat? (I'm almost afraid to ask)

Lack of happiness with your significant other may sometimes play a role, but usually it is just about lacking character and self control, in my opinion.

I had a long term boyfriend who was a cheater back in the day. I have never cheated, though...

[Venacava]

I have never cheated on anyone and don't imagine I ever will.
But I generally don't think that people cheat because they're unhappy with the person they're commited to - however, that may be part of it. I think often women use that a lot "I was unhappy with our relationship, I needed compassion and attention" etc, but I wouldn't say it's the only reason.
It's about chance, opportunity, lack of self-control, a "rush" and sometimes people are just selfish.

[Rosebud]

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

I think cheating is hardly ever about the person they're with, or even the person they're cheating with. It's about their own issues with commitment, and respect for their SO.

I don't feel that I've ever cheated on anyone. Last year, I slept with someone else while legally married, but I had told my husband we were through and he was very clear about that. It wasn't graceful, but it wasn't cheating (in my book).

As far as I know, nobody has ever cheated on me. I can only imagine what it must feel like. So hurtful.

I agree it isn't about the person their with and it is about themselves.

Vash that all ties together, lack of control and character does have to do with the person but that person obviouly hasn't found happiness within themselves which in turn reflects on whom they date as well.. Saying if they don't respect themselves, they don't respect other's.

[vashti]

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

I agree it isn't about the person their with and it is about themselves.

Vash that all ties together, lack of control and character does have to do with the person but that person obviouly hasn't found happiness within themselves which in turn reflects on whom they date as well.. Saying if they don't respect themselves, they don't respect other's.

I disagree. I think people who are serial cheaters are often perfectly happy with themselves.

[Rosebud]

You mean obsessed with themselves.

we didn't clarify if we were talking about serial cheaters, or just cheating in general, so that's my fault...

But I still think someone who is cheating is disrespecting the other person, and not respecting themselves. But then again it depends on the type of person they are like you said earlier. Some want to have both worlds, and other's are looking for something else.

[Eleniko]

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Why do you ask...did you cheat?!

My bf cheated on me...it destroyed me