I need sum help - Love Forum

hellspare · #1 (**permalink**) 08-01-04, 01:04 PM

hey I'm 13 and in 7th grade. I like this one girl in 8th but I'm a real shy person so i don't know how to confront her. A dance is coming up and I plan to ask her to dance. But what kind of pick up line should i use? And where do i look when I'm dancing? in her eyes or wut? And what do i say after it? help needed. Thx.
I know I'm young but I'm not stupid. Please take me seriously.

Gnome · #2 (**permalink**) 08-01-04, 01:55 PM

Depending on how well you know the girl should determin how you go about asking her to the dance.

If you know the girl very well and you get along great then it shouldnt be a problem, dont skip around the issue at hand, just let her know how u feel.

As an example, something basic like. "You know how the dance is coming up, well i was just wondering if you would be interested in going with me?"

I know at times it can be hard to find the right moment to ask or say it but in some cases it will never come, so its best to just somehow get onto the topic and then ask.

And your question about where to look, its best to look into her eyes, but dont stare. If she looks into yours, dont look away, it shows you are adversive. Im not saying that you have to look into her eyes at every given second, but if you can catch her eyes and look at each other then for all i know you could kiss her if you wanted to. timing is everything.

Hope some of that helped.

sfalexi · #3 (**permalink**) 08-01-04, 03:54 PM

Not to burst your bubble, but hormones, popularity and all sorts of shit are going to make it dificult for you. At this stage in life (middle school and high school), it's extremely rare for a girl to date anyone that's in a grade below them. Hell, even if you're in the same grade it's tough cause a lot of times they want the "older boys". It's a status symbol to them.

So I just wanna warn you, unless you are a VERY popular 7th grader, and damned good looking, it's probably not going to happen.

In college, dating gets a little easier. And the older you get, the wider that "dateable" age gap gets on either end (older and younger). So if it don't happen, don't despair. It's not your fault, it's just the way things are at that age.

Alexi

IceQueen · #4 (**permalink**) 08-01-04, 10:38 PM

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A dance is coming up and I plan to ask her to dance. But what kind of pick up line should i use?

You come up to her (if she is always with friends), you say, "Hey, [name], could I borrow you for a second?" And then she says "Yes," you go a little bit to the side and you say, "There is a school dance on Thursday, would you like to go with me? Cool. Pick you up at 8." Or you could call her and say the same thing.

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And where do i look when I'm dancing? in her eyes or wut?

For fast dances:
Ideally in the eye. If you are too shy to look straight in the eye, focus on the center of her forehead.
For slow dances it's not a problem because her head will be in your shoulder/neck.

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And what do i say after it?

You say, "[name], thank you for dance." If you want to keep dating her, you say "I will call you tomorrow."

hellspare · #5 (**permalink**) 13-01-04, 09:43 AM

For slow dances it's not a problem because her head will be in your shoulder/neck.
Well..I don't know if it's just our school, but that's not always true.

K3vMySt3r · #6 (**permalink**) 13-01-04, 10:34 AM

hey man... i can remember my days of my JR HIGH... and i'm old i'm only 18 lol... so only lyke wat 5 yrs ago... damn... long wayz... neway... CAN YOU DANCE... i for one can... i learned breakdancing in your AGE, then got into FREAK DANCING... in jr high school and high school girls tend to lean more into guys that can FREAK or dance real well... so i suggest u learn how to freak.. 1st thing is 1st NEVER Look at ne other girls but HER... 2nd if u don't knoe how to dance i SUGGEST U find someone who knows how to dance/freak... I love to FREAK or DRY SEX dance with women...another thing is alwayz look at her eyes/face... it'll mean ALOT to her trust me... keep your eyes focused NEVER look down...but yeha... if u're a good dancer than YOU're SET!!!!

hellspare · #7 (**permalink**) 14-01-04, 11:52 AM

Well I don't consider myself a 'bad' dancer. But you really can't ask me my own opinion, cause i can't see myself when I'm dancing. I learned a bit of breakdancing from my friends, but not enough to actually 'dance'. But to be honest, I'm not shy to ask her first, I just don't know what to do once I START dancing.

K3vMySt3r · #8 (**permalink**) 14-01-04, 12:35 PM

lyke the Pringles says... once you pop the fun don't stop...just put that in dance form... i forgot to add that u can create a relationship when u're dancing... u can look at her eyes, i'm sure she'll have hair all over her face and help her put it over her ears, real cute but yet not so far stuff... that just shows in my opinon that you care and you're trying to be a gentlemen...so try that out...and also flirt a bit with her tell her that she's a great dancer and you'll be looking forward for more next time u and her dance... just be yourself and give outself out to her...thats the best advice i can give u... till then... let us know wassup...later

hellspare · #9 (**permalink**) 16-01-04, 09:50 AM