Holy crap, when did I become an adult?

[dreamer101]

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Originally Posted by Mathias

I do want to date, just casually (well, not now, but soon). I'm not looking for anything serious.

In other words you want to have sex with no strings attached.

[Mathias]

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Originally Posted by dreamer101

In other words you want to have sex with no strings attached.

Nope, I'm not that kind of guy. At all.

I actually want to meet women, and have a good time, without the worry of a long-term relationship.

[frank001]

well you could always explain to them how you want to take it slow. althought if you have been in a relationship reciently maybe you should try being single for a while

[derm]

The very day of your 18th birthday!

[vashti]

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Originally Posted by Mathias

I do want to date, just casually (well, not now, but soon). I'm not looking for anything serious.

I really approve of casual dating (but not necessarily casual sex). I don't know WHY people feel they have to be saddled with a relationship these days right from the beginnning. It is a big flaw in the mindset of young people, in my opinion. Perhaps they are trying to compensate for lack of close relationships with friends...

[Mathias]

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Originally Posted by frank001

well you could always explain to them how you want to take it slow. althought if you have been in a relationship reciently maybe you should try being single for a while

You're missing the point.

I *am* going to be single for a while. That *doesn't* mean I can't date.

Seriously, am I some old guy, or am I just missing the current trends?

[vashti]

I think you are missing the current trends, which I applaud.

EDIT: I'd boost your rep for your good sense, but the system won't let me.

[derm]

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Originally Posted by Mathias

You're missing the point.

I *am* going to be single for a while. That *doesn't* mean I can't date.

Seriously, am I some old guy, or am I just missing the current trends?

I'm an old guy and I'm not missing the current so called trends

[Mathias]

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Originally Posted by derm

I'm an old guy and I'm not missing the current so called trends

So, you're only going to go out with a girl in order to see if she's marriage material?

No thanks.

[Gigabitch]

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Originally Posted by Mathias

So, you're only going to go out with a girl in order to see if she's marriage material?

No thanks.

I took it to mean he's likely to get way too involved way too fast.

Or maybe he's talking about just getting laid a lot. Ho.

[Mathias]

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

I took it to mean he's likely to get way too involved way too fast.

Or maybe he's talking about just getting laid a lot. Ho.

Had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine today about all of this. When (if? ) I get home tonight, I think it's worth sharing.

[dreamer101]

i approve of casual dating too. but the idea of meeting somebody with the intention, 'hey this is just for a couple of friday nights' is what i disapprove of, or 'i just want to have a good time with her for now' is a very shallow attitude going into a new (lets call it) venture. personally i wouldn't want to spend my time with somebody because they've got a couple of fri nights free in their social calendar and want to have fun. there has to be sincerity in their conviction. yes certianly there is no pressure in the beginning but if things start clicking then expectations change. in other words taking it slow. but if casual dating ensures that the expectations never change then i completely disapprove it, but it seems to gaurantee a high level of fun.

[vashti]

I think of casual dating as a way to get to know people better. People jump into relationships too fast (boyfriend/girlfriend AND marital) and then wonder why things don't work out. It often could be avoided by simply getting to know people better and not trying to force a fit.