shock - Love Forum

D-C · #1 (**permalink**) 25-09-06, 11:58 AM

this happened about 4-5 days ago; Ive had this crush on a girl for quite some time now, and i was too afraid of rejection so i sent my friend to go tell her for me. I was surprised to find out she already knew i really liked her for about a year and a half now, and she likes some other guy. Her best friend started talking to me since she heard about this and is current;y helping me to get with the 1st girl i mentioned(i rather not state names, should others who i know are very immature happen to see this thread) and now im starting to find an attraction to the girl helping me! what am I supposed to do? Im really confused...

Venacava · #2 (**permalink**) 25-09-06, 12:01 PM

I don't see the problem.

D-C · #3 (**permalink**) 25-09-06, 12:06 PM

i dont really know exactly its just i dont know what to do know...

vashti · #4 (**permalink**) 25-09-06, 12:44 PM

Ask the second girl out, and forget about the first one.

TDurden · #5 (**permalink**) 25-09-06, 04:56 PM

yeah, i gotta say, it doesn't sound like there's much of a problem. the 1st girl likes someone else, so forget about her. now there's a second girl who you are interested in, just ask her out. i know it's a little awkward because she's helping you get over another girl, but i still don't see the harm in it.

Gigabitch · #6 (**permalink**) 26-09-06, 02:17 AM

Yeah, what they said.

Second girl wants you for herself, or she wouldn't be "helping" you. Ask her out.

D-C · #7 (**permalink**) 08-10-06, 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Yeah, what they said.

Second girl wants you for herself, or she wouldn't be "helping" you. Ask her out.

ive been in the "friend" for about a year or two, so would this make things awkward if i did? also, If i do ask and get rejected, can that cause complications in a normal friendship with her?(yes, Im that scared of failure ><)

vashti · #8 (**permalink**) 08-10-06, 03:06 AM

If you are never willing to take a risk and ask a girl out because you don't want to lose whatever sort of relationship you have now, then you will never be able to progress into an intimate relationship, will you?

Gigabitch · #9 (**permalink**) 08-10-06, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by D-C

ive been in the "friend" for about a year or two, so would this make things awkward if i did? also, If i do ask and get rejected, can that cause complications in a normal friendship with her?(yes, Im that scared of failure ><)

Most people are. So what? Do it anyway.

D-C · #10 (**permalink**) 08-10-06, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Yeah, what they said.

Second girl wants you for herself, or she wouldn't be "helping" you. Ask her out.

wait; shes the sweet, nice, kind, helpful type of girl. how do i know shes just not being herself?

P.s.: srry if im being annoying

D-C · #11 (**permalink**) 10-10-06, 01:38 AM

...............

vashti · #12 (**permalink**) 10-10-06, 01:47 AM

You won't know what she is really thinking until you ask her out.

D-C · #13 (**permalink**) 10-10-06, 04:20 AM

k..........

D-C · #14 (**permalink**) 10-10-06, 12:17 PM

one final question; would waiting to strengthen our friendship before i try to go into a relationship with her hurt my chances?

and giga, 2's info was accurate

dreamflyer · #15 (**permalink**) 11-10-06, 05:52 PM

the experence i've had with 'strengthnin' da friendship first DOES NOT WORK. They always turn around and say..."but i don't want to ruin what we have" or "I like you as a friend, were too close as mates now for anything more"

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