confused. please help! - Love Forum

wuv.gosip.lyf · #1 (**permalink**) 13-12-06, 10:21 AM

hey
im currently in a really confusing and difficult situation so please help.
ok well i really do like this guy but he has a gf and i know he is off limits and i will never ever try to get with him or anything like that.
also usually when we talk to each other, he has already mentioned this a few times - he tells me that him and his gf have broken up even though he really hasnt broken up with her, they are still together. i dont know why he would say something like that to me and lie to me.
also just a few questions -
how can you find out if a girl is jealous of you because your hanging around her bf just as friends?
and also how can you find out if a guy is just using a girl for sex?
any advice would be great. please help. thanks.

wuv.gosip.lyf · #2 (**permalink**) 13-12-06, 11:35 AM

ok, thanks for your help.

and also is there anything that i should say to him because he's lying to me about not having a gf even though he really does.
and i dont really want to start up a fight with him or anything like that because he's a really good friend to me and also were family friends as well.

Gigabitch · #3 (**permalink**) 13-12-06, 11:57 AM

The next time he tells you he broke up with her, ask him, "Does she know that?".

She should be jealous about you hanging around him- you like him and he's lying about being with her. Why either one of you still speak to the skeeze is a mystery to me.

Ellynn · #4 (**permalink**) 14-12-06, 12:30 AM

YESSS!! IT WORKS! I can view this area. I just had to scroll further down.

Now to my advice...

If he says he is broken up yet they are still together, I would stay far far away from him. What kind of guy is that? I mean, he tells her one thing and tells you another! If you got together with him, who's to say he won't do that to you?

Guys who use you for sex will usually only want to do that and be alone with you. He won't take you out to public places or let you be around his friends or family. Also, if you object to sex, he will get all pissed off and become distant. Any man who likes you should respect you.....and be nice about it.

#5 (**permalink**) 14-12-06, 01:55 AM

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Originally Posted by wuv.gosip.lyf

hey
im currently in a really confusing and difficult situation so please help.
ok well i really do like this guy but he has a gf and i know he is off limits and i will never ever try to get with him or anything like that.
also usually when we talk to each other, he has already mentioned this a few times - he tells me that him and his gf have broken up even though he really hasnt broken up with her, they are still together. i dont know why he would say something like that to me and lie to me.
also just a few questions -
how can you find out if a girl is jealous of you because your hanging around her bf just as friends?
and also how can you find out if a guy is just using a girl for sex?
any advice would be great. please help. thanks.

The guy tells you he has broken up with he's girlfriend when really he hasn't...he sounds like trouble in my opinion! Get away from him is my advice.

Ellynn · #6 (**permalink**) 14-12-06, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Aegis

Not necessarily...sometimes he'd just assume that now is not the right time and getting indignant wouldn't help anything, so he'll just ask later. He'll react like this if he has a shred of decency, enough to realize it's her body and she calls the shots where it's concerned....I'm intimately familiar with this.

Ok makes sense. so you would just try to go for it again at a later date huh? What if she constantly said no? Would you stick around waiting? I doubt it.

Henry123 · #7 (**permalink**) 14-12-06, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Aegis

First off, before you go and do anything, or make any decisions or judgment calls, wait for someone with some intelligence to answer these questions; ...

Yeah listen to Aegis. I would get some more input from others befor making any decisions.

Maybe Wup. you have to give him some space for now for him to work things out.

wuv.gosip.lyf · #8 (**permalink**) 14-12-06, 12:02 PM

thanks all for your help.
also i have been given that advice quite a lot (that i should stay away from him) but in one way yeah i would love to not know him so that he can not be treating me and his gf with no respect and also i wont need to hear all his lies and that but i cant really stay away from him because we are really close family friends so there's no way in getting out of that one and also we see each other quite often so its kind of a problem.. :S

#9 (**permalink**) 15-12-06, 03:09 AM

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Originally Posted by wuv.gosip.lyf

thanks all for your help.
also i have been given that advice quite a lot (that i should stay away from him) but in one way yeah i would love to not know him so that he can not be treating me and his gf with no respect and also i wont need to hear all his lies and that but i cant really stay away from him because we are really close family friends so there's no way in getting out of that one and also we see each other quite often so its kind of a problem.. :S

You could have him as an aquantance, not see him as often as you do now. Don't get involved with a guy like that, it sounds like trouble.

wuv.gosip.lyf · #10 (**permalink**) 16-12-06, 04:06 PM

please help me now, this guy is acting real weird around me.
okay so usually when this guy is with a group of his mates and if he sees me he will stop and have a conversation with me for like 10 minutes, sometimes even more, anyways this morning i went for a walk and saw this guy with his gf, i know that he doesnt like to talk to me when he's with his gf but he just gave me this really small smile and that's it and walked away.
i really dont understand why he kind of 'ignored' me today and also he's kind of acting real shy around me lately.

does anyone know why, i really am confused why he's like this!?

wuv.gosip.lyf · #11 (**permalink**) 16-12-06, 06:41 PM

i'm really not sure if he's gf knows about me for him not to talk to me when i see him. i really dont know and dont know what to think, he's a really hard guy to understand.

Gigabitch · #12 (**permalink**) 17-12-06, 01:39 AM

I feel that I understand him very well. He's a dick. End of story.

wuv.gosip.lyf · #13 (**permalink**) 17-12-06, 06:21 AM

yeah that's what i think as well but i just dont understand why he would be doing this and acting this kind of way especially if he has a gf, it would be a little different if he was single and he is obviously now treating his current gf with no respect at all.

wuv.gosip.lyf · #14 (**permalink**) 17-12-06, 08:03 AM

i agree with you and dont think its a good idea but i just really dont know what to do cause like, i see him every few days and i know he wont be a good guy to have as a bf but i just dont know what to do cause i really do like him so much more than a friend.

i have no idea what he has told his current gf about me but i dont think it is something good because when i saw them two the other day she wasnt very happy about the fact that i just smiled at him and that's all so what i know for a fact is that she is a little jealous.

how can you get over a guy who you see really often because i really do give up because i know for a fact he doesnt feel the same way about me and i wouldnt want to get with a guy like that for him just to use me and i dont want to waste my time.

also just a quick question - from what you think, do you think that this guy actually really does love his gf or is just using her especially when he's flirting, telling another girl they've broken up, etc, etc?

wuv.gosip.lyf · #15 (**permalink**) 17-12-06, 08:30 AM

what i mean by "love" is if he really does love his gf because to me it sounds like he is just using her, and when he told me that him and his gf had broken up even though they hadnt i asked him if he still loved her and wanted to work things out with her and he told me that yeah he still loved her and he wanted to work things out?