Hi,
I have a friend who I think is in a bit of a pickle and hope someone can offer me some advice to help.
My friend has been seeing a guy (who has a girlfriend for over ten years) for over a year. He lives with his girlfriend and sees my friend no more than once a week (which involves a weekly cry). I beleive this relationship is going no where. My friend wants to have kids at somepoint and he has said that he doesn't and never will want to have children, she beleives he may change his mind (so uses this as leverage for giving him a chance). He has told my friend that he will not leave his girlfriend for my friend and yet my friend continues to see this guy and think the sun shines out of his ass!!
He has visited her once in a year and she always goes to see him, which involves a long drive every week. My friend arranges her days off, lies to her work and makes excuses to go visit this guy always on his terms and he sometimes cancels without much notice. Sometimes she drives for over an hour to see him for 30 minutes on his lunch break!!
My question is, how can I try and open my friends eyes to how bad this relationship is for her. She cannot see that she is being used for sex and genuinely beleives that they have a deep understanding and friendship. I have tryed to talk to her about it however, she always makes excuses for the guy. She crys weekly about it but refuses to move on from a "relationship" that is distructive to her. I am worried about her and have tried everything that I can.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop her meeting him and move on with her life, or make her realise for herself the damage it is causing her and his "other" relationship. ps. The guy actually organised a meeting between the girls to introduce my friend as his friend to his girlfriend so that it would be easier for him to continue seeing my friend. She sees this as a decloration of how much he is trying to be with her.
Thank you.
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