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06-11-06, 09:07 AM
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| | | Advice This girl that i work with and i have been talking more and more recently, and some people i work with told me she likes me. But today i found out from someone else who went to school with her she has a kid at 23 and her kid is like 4or 5 and she has a pretty shady past. Should i bother taking a chance or should i go with my first instict and just walk away anf forget about it | | Loveforum Breaktime | | |  | Loveforum also recommend - Green tea - Help in weight loss and decrease rate of getting cancer.
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06-11-06, 09:30 AM
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| | | You should walk away, because she doesn't deserve someone who listens to other peoples' trash talk. | |
06-11-06, 09:34 AM
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| | | How is it trash talk, i knew they went to school togeather and i had asked the person if she knew when the girl was working again and then she told me about her | |
06-11-06, 09:38 AM
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| | | Okay, you're right. I just think it sounded a little mean.
Okay- be careful with this. When someone's got a kid, you're taking on two people, even if you don't have a relationship with the kid, because what happens to her directly affects the kid. You have to be more emotionally responsible.
So ask yourself if you want to date her, how far involved are you willing to get, etc. before you make a move in her direction. You don't want to mess her life up.
Having a shady past doesn't necessarily mean she's got a shady future, right? | |
06-11-06, 09:51 AM
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| | | I think you should be asking your self do you want to deal with a single mom? And one with a shady past? Basically what I am asking is are confrontable with this girls history and current situation to date her? | |
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| | | Obviously she was young when she had this child, which means she didn't experience a traditional lifestyle, but people do grow up. Just because she was wild in her teens doesn't mean a thing now.
However, if you are around the same age as she is, I don't think you are old enough to be dating a momma.
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| | | I wouldn't even consider it.
Unless she was the most amazing woman I've ever met (and I haven't even seen that woman yet), there's no way. It's mean, it's heartless, but there are better men than me out there--they can date her.
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Originally Posted by vashti  Just because she was wild in her teens doesn't mean a thing now. I disagree with you. What you have done in your life you could consider as a "resume" and therefore people will judge who you are by your "resume". I am not saying people can't change but a lot of times a persons past may over power the better life they now live presently. This girl may have straighten up her act for all we know, but we don't know how much of her past is still with her or what.
Yes I know the past is the past, but the past also makes the person who they are as well. So it does matter and does mean something now. If I was this guy I would not date the girl just for the fact that the girl is a single mom. Call me what you want, but I do not want to become a dad right now. | |
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| | | Jurupa, my dear, by the time you hit your mid-thirties, you won't even recognize the person you were in your teens. Oftentimes, aging and having children facilitates enormous personal growth.
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Originally Posted by Mathias I wouldn't even consider it.
Unless she was the most amazing woman I've ever met (and I haven't even met Gigabitch yet), there's no way. It's mean, it's heartless, but there are better men than me out there--they can date her. I fixed your post. | |
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Originally Posted by Gigabitch I fixed your post. Hahaha...
You're still a little too old for me. 
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Originally Posted by Mathias Hahaha...
You're still a little too old for me. No she isn't. You are too young for her. 
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Originally Posted by vashti No she isn't. You are too young for her. Who invited you!
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Originally Posted by vashti Jurupa, my dear, by the time you hit your mid-thirties, you won't even recognize the person you were in your teens. Oftentimes, aging and having children facilitates enormous personal growth. I am not disagreeing with you on this. But people will still judge you by your past no matter what. | |
07-11-06, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted by jurupa I am not disagreeing with you on this. But people will still judge you by your past no matter what. Not if you have outgrown your past. If you could never rise above what stupid things you did as a teenager, no one would ever get married.
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