Should We Be Together? - Love Forum

Lomza96 · #1 (**permalink**) 27-01-04, 02:51 PM

Hello,
I have met this one girl on my trip to Dominican Republic...The first time I saw her I guess I had a crush on her. Recently, I have broke up with my girlfriend that I have been with for almost 3 years, and I was still not over her. We got to know each other a little bit and one night at Dominican we got drunk, we went to the ocean and started kissing each other. It was then that she told me that she has a boyfriend for 6 years. I was a little surprised but didn't really paid too much attention to that. We stayed at the beach for hours that night, just talking about things. So the night was over, and next day was the day to come back to Chicago. We exchanged phone numbers, for a friendship wise purposes. I thought that I would call her, say what's up etc. But now it's a little more than that. We talk for HOURS each day, we have bonded so much in those 3 weeks, like no one else. We have so many things in common; songs, alike feelings, same outlook at life etc. We could sit in a car after we come back from somewhere for hours and not be bored for even a second. Those hours pass like minutes, and we can never say goodbye to each other easily, we always give each other "Extensions", "15 more minutes, 30 more minutes" etc. She feels exactly the same way about me as I do about her. We even already talked about how much we would be happy together if we were married, how we would never have any big arguments, and I believe that because I would not be able to even raise my voice on her because she's so nice. There are so many weird things about the way we met and stuff. Her boyfriend was not an angel before, but she still feels bad if she would break up with him for me, because she's just been with him for so long. I'm not pressuring her into breaking up with her boyfriend. I told her, to take her time and just make the best decision she can to make herself happy. But my question to you guys is, should she do it? should she sacrifice her rather "sure" relationship for somebody she knows only for 3 weeks. She has never done anything like this before. What is the best decision? I know for 100% that we would be extremely happy. We found the "missing key" that almost every relationship lacks. Should we pass this wonderful "flick" or go on with it? She is really bad with making decisions and I cannot make that decision for her.
Please, send me your opinions on it.

IceQueen · #2 (**permalink**) 27-01-04, 09:38 PM

Love the poll options there.

In any case, it's not up to you. It's up to her. And no census in the world is going to change that.

Screwed_Guy · #3 (**permalink**) 28-01-04, 05:00 AM

IceQueens right. This is somthing that you will have to just wait and see what happens. Its up to her...

Lomza96 · #4 (**permalink**) 28-01-04, 08:03 AM

I know it's up to her, but she's really bad at making such decisions that's why we're looking for other opinions.

IceQueen · #5 (**permalink**) 28-01-04, 11:22 AM

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I know it's up to her, but she's really bad at making such decisions that's why we're looking for other opinions.

Sorry man. Doesn't seem like she's overly willing to be with you, then. 'Cause if she wanted to, she'd be with you, not "look for other opinions."

Lomza96 · #6 (**permalink**) 28-01-04, 03:27 PM

I guess you guys are right...only time will tell

Thoughtless · #7 (**permalink**) 28-01-04, 10:40 PM

Time is the key for turly love, so longer you wait as deeper your feelings are. Because at the time you wait your love is going to be a stronger and stronger every minute and every hour.

Good luck to you

IceQueen · #8 (**permalink**) 29-01-04, 01:12 AM

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Because at the time you wait your love is going to be a stronger and stronger every minute and every hour.

Little good will that do you if she chooses to reject you though. The longer you wait, the harder her rejection will hit you.

jane · #9 (**permalink**) 29-01-04, 07:06 AM

damn.. you have to wait it out. Your opinion will only hinder hers. SHE needs to make that decision. I wish you luck! I know it sucks, I have been there!

Lomza96 · #10 (**permalink**) 29-01-04, 08:18 AM

I know that the longer we see each other the more feelings we will have towards each other, but as you guys said that could have a reverse outcome as well if nothing happens between us. But I guess I have to take that risk, after all maybe she would be the OnE? So one rejection compared to a happy life is nothing I guess, the chances are not too bad. Life is all about risks. Just got to go with it right?

Hannah · #11 (**permalink**) 01-02-04, 06:48 PM

This is what I don't understand, if she thinks she could be happier to be with you then her boyfriend, WHY has she NOT leave him?

Is just easy to do it. When the love is gone is gone, when u love someone else u love someone else, and when u have feelings for someone else, u just want to BE with that person, no matter how long it will last. This is how I see it if I am the girl. not being able to make big decision is just BS!!!

what I think is, she wants u to be around and somewhere down the road, she gonna tell u she's going to marry her boyfriend and she is totally and very very very sorry u wasted all these years waiting for her to come to a decision.

My suggestion is to date other people also while u're waiting. IF in fact she is the one, doesn't matter how long it takes or whatever happened, if u're meant to be together, you WILL end up together. Even if u married someone else.

Good luck waiting man~