Does she like me?

[helshock88]

sorry for long message, just i need to explain all the details =P

There this girl i like at college and i have done for like a year now, we are in the same class. Other girls dont really speak to me at college.. however this girl speaks to me almost every day and says hi/hey to me and smiles. She never really spoke to me last year but this year she has been around me more, whenever we are alone (in class or w/e) we would speak for like hours without stopping for breaks and most of the things she says to me seems like shes interested. but when others come in the class we both go quiet (makes it seem like were both hiding the fact we like eachother).

it started like at the start of september, on the odd occasion i looked at her and i also caught her looking my way sometimes and smiling too then turning away when i caught her but then recently i started to look away aswell as im also shy. Eventually the first time came where i got in college early and she did too, coincidence? maybe.. and as we both got in 20 mins early we just sat in the room nervously quiet together. this situation re-occured alot and she was always kind of there when i was there alone like a routine every week. This is not every day but is most days. i stay in class at dinners n breaks etc to do extra work and she does too all of a sudden :O

anyway one time came when were alone and she said she hated being short.. and that she wished she could get into a club in town.. etc etc. i said nice things like being short is nice, cute. and i said she could probably get into a club with a 18 yr old guy np as the bouncers usually allow couples in =P then she said like "i will have to find that guy then wont I?" =P and she kinda giggled. The first big convo went well, made me think she was hinting she wanted me to take her out but i wasnt sure as im not used to girls flirting. Also noticed she likes to swap chairs alot, like sitting opposite me even if shes on the other side of room.

another time we spent dinner time together, she told me she likes my work,i said i liked hers too =] she also said she hates sitting in the cafe/cantine as its noisey and likes being in the class room because its quiet (i have seen her alot in the cantine though which is strange). i kinda screwed some bits up as she came in once saying she hated her shoes and i wanted to say they looked nice but i didnt have the confidence to say it. later she was telling me some weird guys were staring at her and she hated it, i said ignore them whereas i should of said.. they probably think your cute. i totally missed it all there. but i got another chance dont worry =P

she also said shes going to this weekly club party thing in town in 2 weeks time, why 2 weeks idk. someone said it might be a certain amount of time she is giving me.. idk. so like so far i gathered.. she needs a guy to get in, in 2 weeks time, needs a guy to go with, she also asked me who i go with and how often i go, she says the party is fun (this means shes gone before) yet she says she cant get in because she says she doesnt have the confidence or anyone to go with. she also trusted me enough to leave her bag with me and asked me to look after her work, i guess ive given a good impression already

recent chat we had got in deeper =P she brought the party thing up again and i said "i'll take you" and she sorta said "o gosh o god" or something but never really gave me an answer. Did i ask her out properly, did i mess up? However she complimented my hair saying it looks nicer shorter, and most guys have treated her bad in relationships but she said im a really nice guy. she was also asking which uni im going n stuff like that and we spoke for ages. she said negative things about her self like "wish i was good looking, my sister is better looking than me" and i told her how good looking she is and that i think shes cute and everything and just as shes showing me her phone loads of people came in the room and butted in sorta. however the rest of the day i felt i messed up somewhere and now i just wish id asked for her number y'know. is the ball in her court or..? is she waiting for me?

maybe she is shy? is she deciding on it, giving it time? or is she just being a good friend and doesnt want to go out with me?

Recently its been on and off but i think its still there, most importantly she still looks at me and still talks to me, i guess thats most important but i do want to ask her out before the holidays (thursday) as i would like to spend the holidays getting to know her. Btw she doesnt act like a friend.. she seems to be more interested in asking about my background and my past etc and the fact she acts shy around me and not other guys makes me feel she feels different about me compared to her other guy mates.

any advice? thanks =]

[SWLR]

I'm finding it hard to judge her reaction.

"Oh gosh, Oh god" - Did she say it excitidly or was it more of a, I don't know what to say thing.

Maybe you need to take a more direct approach to asking her out. Rather than just making a suggestion.

I don't know if that makes any sense, or if I just misunderstood the post.

[derm]

Sure sounds interested to me!

What are you waiting for?....you already know she likes you, make a move. Next day you get togethor. Ask her loads of questions about herself, her ambitions for the future, her interests. What she's up to for the holidays etc.

See if she's enjoying answering the questions and look for signs that's she fancies you. You know dilated pupils, body language in general.

If it goes well ask her to something low key-non-formal and take it from there.

Simple!

[vashti]

Jeez, buddy! What are you waiting for? Ask her out already before she loses interest and moves on!

[Gigabitch]

Please don't make her shoot herself out of a cannon at you before you wake up and smell the romance. If she is shy, she has just done the equivalent of ripping her heart out and presenting it to you on a golden platter. Go get that girl; she wants you BAD.

[helshock88]

thanks for the advice =]

when she said "Oh gosh, Oh god" she didnt sound bored and she didnt sound excited.

she sounded more like she wasnt expecting me to say it, we were still speaking afterwards tho... however she strangely disapeared at the very end of the convo.

but like i said its not like it sounded negative or anything.. more like.. oh you dont have to. i guess it just gives me more reason to find out.

and no your definately right i should ask her out more directly, i just find it hard when the others are around but i reckon i could ask for her phone number quite easily.

i shall have to ask her some questions to get a convo going, i think its just that the rest of the class is in doing extra work atm so we never get any alone time =[

im kinda scared she may have already moved on.. i shouldnt think like that. if i speak to her before holidays which btw is 1 and half weeks off col then im hoping i can use the hols to spend time with her, if i didnt go out with her over the hols she may have moved on by then so yup 2 days to do it all.

haha i hope she wants me bad because i want her bad too =D hmm yea i guess, shes shy but i wouldnt say shes really really shy.. but then if shes shy towards me then i guess shes shown the effort thats need to let me know shes interested.. i just need a good time to ask her when were alone. Its hard but i will do it i promise =] aslong as i walk away with some form of contact to her at the minimum then im all good at the end of the day =D

[KillaJakez]

Go get her soldier.

[helshock88]

its been a long time since i posted here but erm what the heck thought i'd shine some more light on this situation as i really believe we should of been going out by now plus im impatient lol. and yeah im pullin my hair out because i dont know why nothing has happened =\

from last time the interest went on for ages and ages. And well it just got better and better, it came to an awkward stage for a few weeks then i decided it was over after she totally ignored me one day. however then it came back.

the weeks after i was away for two days from school and when i got back my best mate was like "yeah she was asking about you while you were away" and i was like "huh?". basically she had been askin about me behind my back saying like "wheres is *name*", and yes she asked 3 times!! so it seemed she was dertimined to get an answer. she asked the teacher twice then my best mate since the teacher kinda ignored her. you could say she was nosey but then maybe she was just concerned. made me happy when i heard anyway

we started speakin again coz i basically forced her to speak so i it wouldnt be awkward anymore, she had initiated enough with me so then now i have been doin it too

funny thing is i was off ill on a tuesday the week after and wednesday we were all off due to teacher training day then i came back in on thurs and she goes "where have u been then?" like she knew i wasnt there on tues and she'd remembered my absence. i said i'd been ill etc. this is where it becomes obvious that she obviously cares for me in some way.

my mate later told me she asked about me behind my back AGAIN.. so i thought right im gonna go for it now this time she was askin my mate in private "which high school i used to go to", why she wanted to know that i dont know.. but she didnt ask my mate what school he went to so i took it as interest as i thought she was trying to find the area in which i live etc.
my mate also told me she shyed away abit and went quiet when the teacher came thru the door. Like shes hiding something.

last week i did something silly.. she left her bag in the class room with me but didnt take it with her to her next lesson (i didnt notice until i left the room but i had to go home for lunch). anyway i curious as to why she left her bag in the room with me. was it a hint for me to hang about until she came back or something? me being daft left and didnt look after it.. suppose it was not too bad because she didnt ask me to look after it but who leaves their belongings in the room with you if someone could just walk in and take her handbag? this was a free lesson for me and she had another lesson elsewhere in college, i dunno whether it was a way of her saying "im coming back here after my next lesson, plz wait here".

anyway the bottom line is i gave her my email/no. thru a card, the card was pretty straight forward which told my feelings. and well after i gave it her yesterday i believed she would text/mail me straight away but i guess she hasnt =\ its a step forward, a huge one but maybe i needed to justify my feelings or maybe she just doesnt like me or is waiting abit?

i will honestly say shes done everything which says she likes me, im 80% sure she does! but now im confused because i feel she should have texted by now :S
its been a day n abit since i gave it her.

though in the card i did put 'would be nice to hear from u over the hols' and then put some other stuff so it could be shes waiting awhile before texting.

if she cares alot and is always concerned about me but hardly knows me outside of college then that would mean she likes me right? even her spending dinners with me.. maybe it went on too long? we've also been abit distant last 2 weeks recently (not all down to us tho) so maybe that was why she lost interest?

oh also once when we were talkin bout relationships she randomly said she doesnt believe in love at first sight. like she needs to get to know someone first.
is this a way to put me down? or a way to say she doesnt want a bf but is waiting for a guy to make an impression over time?

i guess its all down to patience now.
any advice? thanks