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    always just friends

    ok... im a 24 yo female, heres my problem. i just started a new job and have developed a huge crush on this guy there. he has just moved to my town and has no transportation yet, so i have given him rides on several occasions, and i dunno, i guess maybe he likes me. but i am the type of person to not sugarcoat anything or beat around the bush, i sing loudly in the car, tell stupid jokes, and am very straightforward, sometimes to the point of embarassment. i make no apologies for how i am, but 9 out of 10 guys will tell you "they only like me as a friend". i keep telling myself the right guy will come along and see how amazingly fantastic i am, so i refuse to change and it is hard for me to even tone it down a notch. this guy is so smart, and so funny, and he has done several favors for me as well, so i know he likes me and enjoys my company, but i dont know HOW he likes me. i want to let him know how i feel, but i dont want things to be awkward. how do i do that? i kinda think he may know how i feel, so how can i bring it up without looking too pushy or overzealous?

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    be flirtatious. The heavier you flirt, the more he'll get the message and either respond, or pull away. Then you'll understand how he feels.

    BTW, you sound awesome. Singing loudly, stupid jokes, straightforward, no apologies . . . you're like a female "me". Except I PURPOSELY embarress myself and/or my friends just for fun and people's reactions. I can't BEGIN to count how many times I've been 'caught' singing aloud to mariah carey at red lights or how many times I've 'accidentally tripped' off an escalator or over something in the mall simply to embarress whoever I was with (and myself). Plus it makes people laugh and the dumbfounded faces you see walking around, well, SOME of them smile and have a cool story for later.

    So definitely DON'T CHANGE TO PLEASE HIM OR ANY OTHER MAN! Cause so far you sound like a cool as hell girl.

    Alexi

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    1) You got it right about not changing
    2) Ask the guy out on a date. Say "would you like to have dinner with me <exact time> at <exact place>. Get to know him better, see if you'd like to keep him. If not, it's not going to be awkward, you can just later always treat it as a *friendly* thing.
    If he declines, he doesn't feel the same way about you. In which case you ALSO can treat the dinner as a *friendly* suggestion, postfactum.

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    well let me just say that 9-10 guys would prolly love to have a girl liek you.. i know i would, if i was you, i would prolly just invite teh guy to a nice dinner.. and maybe a drink.. and see where the night takes you.
    Sucks to be single -_-;;

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    How does one just change anyway? I doubt you could change who you are. You might succeed for a while, but eventually it'll show up.

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    Thanks yall, i 'preciate the advice, and really, i realized its not that big of a deal if i make a jackass outta myself over this. so i asked him. but thats a whole nother story.

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