How Do I Put Her To Shame - Love Forum

dadcob · #1 (**permalink**) 13-04-04, 06:38 AM

I have a girl who is constantly accusing me of not been romantic. Am fed up with the constant barrage , and want to devote 4 weeks of mine time to put her to shame but l cant do this alone without the help of my friends on this forum.

squirrley · #2 (**permalink**) 13-04-04, 07:43 AM

geezuz shes telling you what she needs...thats a good thing. SO give it to her...I wouldnt over load it then it wont seem sincere.

Start with little things and every now and then...

Illusional · #3 (**permalink**) 13-04-04, 04:58 PM

baby steps. baby steps.

raverboy

Pretender · #4 (**permalink**) 14-04-04, 01:44 AM

Be prepared to spend some money!

dragoon · #5 (**permalink**) 14-04-04, 01:47 AM

Why are you not romantic with her? Just not the romantic type or don't like her?

If you want to be romantic with her, it has to be personal. Some generic solution won't work. You have to do something that she would really like and she specifically. Well, you don't have to. But if you can make it more personal it shows you care for her and are interested in what she likes and who she is, it will go over much better. Doesn't have to be a huge gesture either, little things work well too.

Pretender · #6 (**permalink**) 14-04-04, 01:48 AM

Buy her a rose just because.. Make a photo album of the two of you. Candle light dinner that you prepared. Sing a song to her.

Just to let you know once you start doing this stuff you just can't stop. That just can't happen, you'll have to keep it up or she'll think you are getting lazy again.

dragoon · #7 (**permalink**) 14-04-04, 01:53 AM

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Originally posted by Pretender

Just to let you know once you start doing this stuff you just can't stop. That just can't happen, you'll have to keep it up or she'll think you are getting lazy again.

Ah but you can stop, and you should at times. If she gets too used to it and takes it for granted, it loses something. I love being romantic and giving my girl little tokens of affection, but you've gotta pace it right. Too much and she drowns in it and even gets annoyed, too little and she wonders if you care. It's a bit of a balancing act.

Also the element of surprise is on your side. Her waking up at 7 in the morning to go to work and finding you've left a card on her car can make all the difference. a $1 card, but your timing and surprise means she'll never forget it.

Pretender · #8 (**permalink**) 14-04-04, 01:58 AM

Exactly right dragoon. I meant that but didn't word it right.

And the card idea is genius!