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01-04-08, 05:30 PM
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| | | In dilemma...n hurting every second... hey.. i'm new.. and i tot i might google a forum out discussing something bout relationships....
I'm currently in love with this guy. He's a sweetie. We've been together for a few months now. The problem is.. how can i make him love me more? At the beginning, he told me that he got a few GFs currently. and i didn't bilif him.. but now i do. I'm currently no.4. i really do love him. and i seriously dunno what to do.. how can i win his heart thoroughly? he's the best i had considering my past records. i really want him to be my partner...  | | Loveforum Breaktime | | |  | Loveforum also recommend - Green tea - Help in weight loss and decrease rate of getting cancer.
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01-04-08, 07:21 PM
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| | | well first tell us the things you've done, when you say few girlfirends does he mean as in he actually has more then one? if so he's unfaithful...sounds more like a player depends what you've done so far i can't give any advice till i've heard things you've done so far with him | |
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| | | I think there isn't anything wrong dating more than one person. That's how you find true love and who you are compatible with, and I believe you should do the same. I give him props for being honest with you and letting you know that he actually have other girlfriends. It would be another case, if he never told you, now that would be cheating. Just look at it as a competition. You gotta step up your game and show him you're the best and show him he doesn't need them other chicks. But then you are putting yourself in an emotional risk, and if you know you can't handle it, you have to let it go.
Have you let him know that you want him to stop seeing other girls? And that you want yourself as his one and only?
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02-04-08, 04:16 AM
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You can't make anyone love you more. Just be happy with yourself & if they find you interesting, they'll let you know. Right now, sounds like this guy wants to play the field. Nothing wrong with that, he was honest about it. You don't want it, so your options are to wait or move on to someone who wants an exclusive relationship.
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02-04-08, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted by ssdemon  hey.. i'm new.. and i tot i might google a forum out discussing something bout relationships....
I'm currently in love with this guy. He's a sweetie. We've been together for a few months now. The problem is.. how can i make him love me more? At the beginning, he told me that he got a few GFs currently. and i didn't bilif him.. but now i do. I'm currently no.4. i really do love him. and i seriously dunno what to do.. how can i win his heart thoroughly? he's the best i had considering my past records. i really want him to be my partner... How old are you?
If he's admitted to you that you're his fourth girl on the side, how could he possibly be worth your time? He doesn't want a girlfriend. He wants a booty call.
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| | | i agree with pythongrace, take it as a competition and beat the others its what i do if there is more than one guy going for the same girl, at the same time Cain has a point....so becareful what you choose to do. My personal opinion play him and see what you can get out of him don't go straight thinking you will win or get something out of it...i mean like have you met the other girls? if you know them or soemthing that gives you a much better chance of winning... | |
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Originally Posted by Spaaron i agree with pythongrace, take it as a competition and beat the others its what i do if there is more than one guy going for the same girl, at the same time Cain has a point....so becareful what you choose to do. My personal opinion play him and see what you can get out of him don't go straight thinking you will win or get something out of it...i mean like have you met the other girls? if you know them or soemthing that gives you a much better chance of winning... How can she look negatively on a guy that's a player if she's going to pull the same stunt and play him? No one should be willing to be with a guy that has other girls on the side. That's how you get diseases. | |
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Originally Posted by ssdemon how can i win his heart thoroughly? he's the best i had considering my past records. i really want him to be my partner... Are you sure you're up for some competition? Cause all's fair in love and war. If you compete you have to have the willingness to give something that noone else can give and be able to walk away at any moment.
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Originally Posted by Cain How can she look negatively on a guy that's a player if she's going to pull the same stunt and play him? No one should be willing to be with a guy that has other girls on the side. That's how you get diseases. she doesn't look at him negatively, it really depends on her its just my personal opinion | |
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Originally Posted by Spaaron i agree with pythongrace, take it as a competition and beat the others its what i do if there is more than one guy going for the same girl, at the same time Cain has a point....so becareful what you choose to do. My personal opinion play him and see what you can get out of him don't go straight thinking you will win or get something out of it...i mean like have you met the other girls? if you know them or soemthing that gives you a much better chance of winning...
Originally Posted by Spaaron she doesn't look at him negatively, it really depends on her its just my personal opinion She just doesn't seem like the kind of girl that can compete. I don't mean that she has nothing to offer, but she seems too emotionally involved with him already and they aren't even exclusive. As was mentioned earlier, you have to be able to walk away if you don't win.
Also, if a guy that is playing women is the best you've been able to do so far, you really need to raise your standards. Someone will come eventually. You don't have to always be in a relationship.  | |
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| | Heya,
It is good that he is honest with you - but he sounds like a player sort of person and you seem to be the type of person who wants to settle with her one special man.
So, you could either forget him and let him have fun as he doesn't seem ready to commit to one person just yet
or you can, as others have said, compete with the other girls to become his number one.
If after a couple of months he still hasn't made you his top lady, then I'd leave him be. 
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Originally Posted by Cain No one should be willing to be with a guy that has other girls on the side. That's how you get diseases. That’s how you find out who fits you like a glove. If you’re going to stick to one person, you’ll never really know what’s out there for you. There could be better ones. It’s beneficial to explore. | |
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Originally Posted by ssdemon I'm currently in love with this guy. He's a sweetie. We've been together for a few months now. The problem is.. how can i make him love me more? At the beginning, he told me that he got a few GFs currently. and i didn't bilif him.. but now i do. I'm currently no.4. i really do love him. and i seriously dunno what to do.. how can i win his heart thoroughly? he's the best i had considering my past records. i really want him to be my partner... I'm sure he's a really great guy, but he's also immature. I can't say that i'm the type of guy who can even get multiple girls at a time. But if I could, I don't think I could get myself to be in a relationship with more than one. I know guys that dream about having multiple girls on call at a time, but those guys are immature. I also know a guy who can have all the girls he wants, but he only sticks to one at a time. I would do the same. Or else it's not love, it's just a booty call like everyone else said.
As great as he may be, he's just looking for sex if he has multiple girls around. If that's not all you're looking for, he's not about to change just for you. That's being very optimistic. Don't make the mistake of thinking you're going to change him, just walk away now that it's early and you're not that emotionally attached before it's too late. The more time you spend with him, the harder it's going to be to walk away. | | The Following User Says Thank You to Asparagoose For This Useful Post: | | |
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Originally Posted by ssdemon how can i win his heart thoroughly? You can't.., I have friends like this.. they're not ready to be with just one girl at a time.. It's like a competition they have with themselves.. to validate their male ego.. on how many women they can date at the same time.. how many women they can have on call.. they actually take pride in being called a "player"..
Like some other people have already pointed out.. guys like him are sexually immature.. and there's no changing him.. there's nothing you can do.. that's just the way it is.. i'm sure you like him.. but you also have to act quickly to pull away.. before it's too late and you end up getting seriously hurt..
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