What to do.

[guitarboy]

I have a close friend,altough i have proposed to her she says that i know every time i say " i love you " to her.

Well she takes her time out of her busy schedule everyday and spends an hour with me,almost everyday.So lately i started getting intimate with her and kissed her and since that night i got a sms from her saying that we should stop seeing each other and put an end to our friendship forever as i am demanding to much ( she thinks i want only sex and thats not right ) and she cant stretch it that far as we are not into any relationship.However i convinced her that i have no such intentions of that sort and i just love her and show my affection.

but what i can say is that we have talked about everything under the sun ,also told erotic stories involving both us.We talk on the phone for hours sometimes all night long and she also says that she is attracted to me but doesn't love me


i really cant understand her mindset.

she says she isnt ready for a relationship but these subtle hints make me think otherwise and are driving me bonkers.I really don't understand that does she like me or not or is there something else on her mind or she needs time?

Please help me !!!!!!!!

[Mishanya]

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Originally Posted by guitarboy

I have a close friend,altough i have proposed to her she says that i know every time i say " i love you " to her.

Well, it sounds like she doesn't love you (perhaps yet) and is not ready for a relationship at this point in time. You probably need to slow down a little and walk at her pace. Dedicate a little bit more time to intimacy and comfort building, maybe slowly she will come around.

But stop the "I love yous", it doesn't look like she's ready for that.

[DharmicLove]

Maybe this girl just doesnt have access to her deeply rooted emotions. Which is quite ironic because the nature of the woman is emotion where as the nature of the man is logic. I think that she may indeed love you, she's probably just scared to take it to that next level. You happen to be a man who has a balance of both emotion and logic. You "see" the subtle hints that she is sendiing you and you are right abouth this. Perhaps she is confused right now, just give it time. There is an old saying, "When friendship catches fire, it changes into love."

I would also suggest that you, for right now, just detach yourself from the situation emotionally. When she sees that you arent concerned as you were before, she will quickly jump on to your bandwagon.

[guitarboy]

Any more opinions ???

[vashti]

My opinion is that she isn't interested in you romantically, but enjoys the sexual talk and affection because it feels good. You trying to interject your feelings is making her feel guilty because it reminds her that the behaviors you are engaging in ought to be saved for lovers, not friends.

[guitarboy]

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Originally Posted by vashti

My opinion is that she isn't interested in you romantically, but enjoys the sexual talk and affection because it feels good. You trying to interject your feelings is making her feel guilty because it reminds her that the behaviors you are engaging in ought to be saved for lovers, not friends.

So what should i do in this scenario ? I love her,i want her.One thing is for sure since she is attracted to me there is a good chance that in near future she might be romantically attracted to me.

Any ideas on how to go about it?