What's he thinking?

[Jenny24]

I have a problem that I really need your help with. I have a close friend, we met on-line back in '97. Since then, we became very close...by saying that, I mean we can talk to each other about the most deepest & intimate things. Anyway, during those years, he kept dropping hints along the way that he liked me, but I didn't feel anything then. After that, I met my first b/f (with whom I shortly broke up with later), and I told him about it. About a year later, I realized that I liked him, but I didn't know what to say to him, so I tried to express my feelings for him by making him a hand-made gift for his b/d. If he still had feelings for me then, he would have known right away that that gift wasn't just for a normal friend. But he didn't say anything...so, I just let it go thinking that his feelings for me had gone. Two years later, I met my 2nd b/f (who I just broke up with 2 weeks ago)...and again, he knows. He's been calling me daily and talks to me as if we're together, and that's what puzzles me. I asked him and he kept avoiding me. Lately, I've just realized that it's always been him that I'm in love with all these years. So, do you think that he likes me, or he's just playing with my head? Oh, he called yesterday to remind me that my b/d is coming up, and he asked me what I want for my b/d. When he heard that my ex used to get me clothes, he told me that he's never bought me clothes before...then he asked for my sizes. You see, he keeps doing stuff like this that's driving me crazy. What is he thinking??Thanks for reading...I know it's a long post.

Jen

[Illusional]

if you realize that you like him, then YOU should make a move. given that he's liked you for the past how many years only to see his dream girl going out with other people, he woul've thought that he didn't have a chance in hell. and now that you have feelings for him, and he still has feelings for you, i thinkthat it's your turn to make the next move. raverboy

[SecretDontTell]

jenny: r u asian?

[sfalexi]

Originally posted by Illusional
if you realize that you like him, then YOU should make a move. given that he's liked you for the past how many years only to see his dream girl going out with other people, he woul've thought that he didn't have a chance in hell. and now that you have feelings for him, and he still has feelings for you, i thinkthat it's your turn to make the next move. raverboy

Maybe he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. Maybe he's grown out of them and just regards her as a really good friend. I buy my really good friends birthday gifts. Doesn't mean I wanna date them.

Just ask him what the deal is between you two and tell him you like him. That simple.

Alexi

[Jenny24]

Thanks all for your replies.

Illusional: I hope you're right If not, I'll just be in for another heartbreak.

Alexi: What you said makes sense, too. I did ask, but he just smiled and changed the subject.

SecretDontTell: You're right! Why do you ask? If you're him and reading this post...I think I should kill myself right now

[SecretDontTell]

Just curious phan. Are you really born in 79?

[squirrley]

Jen-girl go get him! Life is too short. But Alexi may be right. We dont know the whole situation and time has gone by-boyfriends here and there...what about him? Has he dated anyone?

Ok-that would really suck if it were him(SecretDontTell)!
But-that would be really cool too-cause he sure as hell would know NOW!!!

GO FOR IT GIRL!!!!

[Jenny24]

SecretDontTell: My heart skips a beat when I read your question today. You sound just like him. You can just guess it by looking at my username.

Squirrley: He did date once a few years ago, but they broke up. I'd really like to go for it, but still...I'm chicken, I guess. Wouldn't want to ruin the friendship and I am still a little weak to get my heart broken at this point. Therefore, I think I should "proceed with cautions"

[SecretDontTell]

Hey jenny. i think i kno u

[SecretDontTell]

wait nevamind i do kno u. let me help u then

hes probably chasin afta u. juz play it cool but dont ignore him. If u lyk him den drop off sum hints as well. Tel him what he wants to hear and dont let go. if u need anythin find me at MP next week

Juz my advice

[Illusional]

wow an insiders pov... well it's true, from our pov we dunno what's really going on with you and this guy, we can only give our opinion. i always suggest going for it because you'll never know when you're gonna get another chance. besides, if you go for it, it won't bother you for the rest of your life on how you "should've" tried. raverboy

[Jenny24]

SecretDontTell: Wait a second, you know me?? Ahh, you're not him, are you? Please tell me you're not!! Anyway, I don't think I've been dropping off hints, but he didn't admit anything...not to mention that he acted like he didn't understand what I said. By the way, what's "MP"? I'm new at this...


Illusional: You've got a point. But I'd tried your way 4 years ago, and he just ignored the matter. Since then, I thought to myself that I'd never tell a guy my feelings for him again because after all, I'm just a girl. I am scared and shy, too...I don't think I can handle the embarassment again.

[Illusional]

well you've tried this way for 4 years but you've only tried it with one guy. i'm saying don't give up and if this guy doesn't work for you, move on. don't wait forever because 4 years is a long time to wait. raverboy

[SecretDontTell]

Ok I might not know you then. I would say that in those 4 years and nothing happened, I'd say just straight up tell him that you got these feelings for him. But if you don't want to lose the friendship you've built up, just ask him:
"Ever wondered what it would be like if we were boyfriends and girlsfriends?"
Or something like that so you don't set yourself up for total rejection.

I know if I liked a chick that I've known for a while, I always give her eye contact 100 percent of the converstations and carress her when we talk. But hey that's me =D.

Just another note, if his emotions are stiff, he may be nervous. Watch his actions if you lean in on him...if he stutters then he got a crush on you. If he acts like everything is normal, then he only sees you as a friend. If he moves away, then he is definately homosexual.

[SecretDontTell]

BTW jenny, do you play tennis?