She wants to be my friend - Love Forum

Elio2004 · #1 (**permalink**) 18-04-04, 07:34 PM

well her is a little background of my story.

the girl i am talking about is 20 and i am 23 years, i knew her since we were kids, since i was the closest friend to her brother, we didn't used to talk very much when we were kids, but when since she turned 18 and started going to the university, she started calling me for advices, and we used to sit and talk together without her brother for hours, and i started to like her,...,

so i asked her if she accepts to be my grilfriend, her answer was:"i take you as a brother to me, but i'll try", and she really did, within 2 weeks she told me that she looks at me in another way and told me to continue...

so i used to send her SMS everyday and go out twice a week, after that her brother told me that she's only talking on the phone with another guy on a daily paces. so when i asked her about this she told me that this is her own business (and that there is nothing btw her and the other guy) and that if i don't like it i could walk away,

however, this didn't stopped me from trying, after 4 months of going out, everything seemed to go well, she never told me that she loved me, but she always said that she missed me, and that she "LIKED" me...

anyway suddenly one day when we were going out she just told that she feel nothing for me and that she wants me as a friend!!

and now she only calls me when she needs me to help her with her researches.

but the problem is that i still love her and when i visit her brother i still obviously see her (i used to visit them 2 times a week, after i broke up :2 month), her mother told me slow down and wait, what should i do?
thanks

PandaCivic · #2 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 01:26 AM

what do you mean "after i broke up :2 month"? did you go out with her? if you did and she said she only wants to be a friend, that means that she got tired of you or she got tired of your neediness. you're acting like a "pussy". i think she is looking for someone that can treat her "bad". from what i've been through, girls want the bad guy once in a while. being overly sensitive to a girl can make her sick too. if i were you, i would take my time and ignore her for a bit. she'll miss you once she doesn't have contact with you. in the meantime see other girls.

SecretDontTell · #3 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 03:40 AM

God quit being a whiny bitch and GET THE **** OVER IT. I read most of your post and you guys broke up 2 months ago. Get on with your life and mac on other chicks. You're in college...parties, drugs and sex are on your mind.

You can't be in a bed crying over a girl that you have dated for 4 months. Treat her like a friend or you will lose another (her bro). If she see you as a friend then so be it. You've dated...broke up...nothing more. it's not like she's going to come back for you.

Also, when you were dating, it seemed too friendly. never saying "I love you" seems weird if you guys had feelings for each other. DOn't mean to be a jerk but seriously man...it's over, there was never really anything there

You can be her friend with special "priviledges"

SecretDontTell · #4 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 03:47 AM

going back on Panda's post, being overly sensitive is a major turn off. If you want to be too nice, she'll get tired of it. If you act like a girl in front of her, tough luck man, she ain't a lesbian.

Girls want the excitement of mischief meaning they are excited by naughtiness(sp?). Play around with her, take her to places she has never been.

Definately meet some other chicks and ignore her. But since she said she has "nothing" for you, you're in the zone my friend, the Friend Zone.

peshkunta · #5 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 05:03 AM

So what. Be her friend or if that's too hard, just ignore her A LOT. I know you might be thinking, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Trust me, she is not. They are all replaceable. If you are in college, you have NO excuse not to have tons of fun with other girls. NO EXCUSE!!! See, you need to show her that she can loose you. I think she feels like she can always have you - the way you have been acting - and leaves you on the side for later, or when she is especially needy.
Do yourself a favor, man - you practically live in an orgy!!!!!!!!

Pretender · #6 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 06:30 AM

Peshkuntas right. But we aren't all replaceable we will always hold a special place in your hearts.

peshkunta · #7 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 07:39 AM

LOLLLL.......Did your mother tell you that when you were little.

Pretender · #8 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 01:48 PM

peshkunta I pitied you after I read some of your posts because you don't either want love or think it exists BUT your attitude keeps you from getting hurt and maybe that's a good thing.

One day dear peshkunta a girl will break your heart and you will never forget her. Intil then play on.

peshkunta · #9 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 03:54 PM

Girls are all expandable to me. So, bring it on...'cause I'll feel no pain.
Sometimes they bore me so much, I feel like I'm gonna turn gay...LOLLLLL.

steffan · #10 (**permalink**) 19-04-04, 05:32 PM

I would say to her that I love her and that I DON'T want to be her "friend". Then I would basically tell her to sod off...

It is a matter of pride and dignity, no matter how much you love her don't allow her or anybody else to "piss" on your feelings... There are much better girls then her, just try to find girl that will appreciate you more... that's all...