Please help me get her back! - Page 3 - Love Forum

IndiReloaded · #31 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 07:48 AM

Jeezus. Well, for what its worth, you're welcome to come vent here whenever you need it. I know its 'just the internet', but there are real, live ppl at the other end of the electrons & we feel for ya.

But get to a counsellor for your own sake soon. You're surrounded by f'cked up arseholes right now & you need to hear from a professional who's seen it all before that things WILL get better.

They will. Your wife WILL regret her decision. We can all see that guy she's with is no good. Stay the course & keep your chin up, man.

Mishanya · #32 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Down not Out

I txt my wife and say I'm sorry, its over.

These are just words, you need to have this formally finalized on paper for it to have any meaning. I think this will give you some closure and a chance to start planning for the future. After counseling, it might be a good idea for you to spend some time with your son and perhaps the rest of your family, they can give you valuable support in these dark times.

Good luck, I hope this works out well for you.

Down not Out · #33 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 06:02 AM

Still here, getting stronger (I think!)

Gigabitch · #34 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 06:39 AM

I hope you give yourself time to grieve too, DnO. I think it's good to see the bright side, but you need to process this ugly stuff too or you won't really be free of it.

Mishanya · #35 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 03:11 PM

I hope the road to recovery will treat you well my friend. It's good that you are moving on. Leading an enriched and happy life is the best revenge.

Pears · #36 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 03:55 PM

Down not Out, I read this whole thread and I nearly cried. I know it's weird, I'm just a stranger on a forum.

Everyone has given very valuable advice, so I won't repeat them.

I really respect you for standing up and telling your wife "Goodbye". It takes a lot to do that and you did.

Take care of yourself. My best wishes to you.

Down not Out · #37 (**permalink**) 10-05-08, 04:55 AM

Thanks for the kind words of support people. I find alot of comfort from the fact that when the chips are down, and the people you love the most hurt you so profoundly, that there is something in the human spirit that wants to help complete strangers on the other side of the world that you wouldn't know if you passed them in the street! Don't be too sad Pears, life is too short for that. Thanks too to Gigabitch (so not!) Mishanya, Indie and others that have taken time to care. You have all shown compassion for the greater good, which instills in me the faith that people are intrinsically good and it is the situations that they let themselves get in which casts the shadow. Buddah was not wrong when he said for every action.... Got a txt first thing this morning that the wifes father had been rushed in to hospital overnight. He has a history of heart trouble and it was thought to be a reoccurance of this. I said what anybody else would and that if she needed anything I would be there for her. She thanked me, saying if it was serious she wanted me at the hospital with her, and that it had made her "sit up and think" I initially saw a positive coming out of a grave situation, as usual reading everything from just a few words. It transpired he wasn't as bad as beleived at first (it wasn't his heart) and with that I got a "thanks for being there" via txt, to which I didn't reply. Getting stronger.