How to end it? - Love Forum

everton11 · #1 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 03:03 AM

Hi, I have this dilemma and please help me overcome it.

I have been with this girl for almost half a year now. Right from the start she said that she doesn't want to start a relationship with me, but of course, I went ahead and hang with her for all these time. So it was like that we are dating, just no relationship.

Now, recently, she mentioned to me that she wants to meet new people and look for a guy to start relationship with. It really shocked me, I can hang out with her, be there for her, and I love seeing her happy, but I don't know if I can handle it when I do see her with another guy.

She said that I'm her best friend here and that we can rely on each other. And it is true that she is quite alone in here, I do feel that being a friend to her does mean something to her. But I'm starting to think this is too much for me. I want to start a committed relationship with her, and she only wants to keep me as her friend.

So guys and girls, I'm thinking about telling her that we shouldn't see each other anymore. What do you think and how I should do it?

Thank you.

misombra · #2 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 03:18 AM

tell her you don't want to be her friend.

then take her out to the curb.

Gigabitch · #3 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 03:44 AM

Best friend? I don't think so. Get her a Ken doll if she wants something with no balls.

Mishanya · #4 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 08:21 AM

How about you try to seduce her and then go for a kiss?

Then if she rejects it, have a tantrum and say how shocked and surprised you are that she just did that.

...And then cut all contact.

A theatrical break up with a climax where everyone accepts the outcome

DarkDwarf · #5 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 09:31 AM

I like the "I want to be more than your friend route". If it fails then just kick her to the curb.

If she wants to pull crap like that then you don't want to be with her.

everton11 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-05-08, 12:10 AM

Things are a little more complicated, sorry I didn't specify it in the first post.

We have had sex before, and when we are together, she often touches me (my private part) and I would do the same...

So if I do go and kiss her, I might not get reject, but it doesn't mean we have a relationship.

I guess really, my question is, is this the right thing to do for the best of both of us?

Kromat · #7 (**permalink**) 08-05-08, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by everton11

We have had sex before, and when we are together, she often touches me (my private part) and I would do the same...

I guess really, my question is, is this the right thing to do for the best of both of us?

This could easily turn into a relationship, but she's being a bitch and not accepting what is in front of her.
Friends with benefits could only go so far before it ruins a friendship when not evolved into something Worth while.
She seems to be toying with your emotions, and just confront her about this.
If she feels nothing for you in return, and you wouldn't' like her be seen with another guy, then stop hanging around her altogether, it seems like a waste of time.

P.S. Find a Girl that will let you get through the friend zone when the opportunity seems right.

everton11 · #8 (**permalink**) 08-05-08, 02:30 PM

Many thanks, I think the last post by Kromat really does hit the spot for me. I mean, she always says things like we are best friend and whatever, and it is true that she is quite lonely around here while I have given her a lot of attentions and help. So I guess it is the best thing to do.

I'm going to meet her tomorrow and tell her it is best for us to stop seeing each other, I will let you guys know how it goes.

Thank you for making up my mind!!!

everton11 · #9 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 10:45 AM

Hey, guys and gals...

A few hours ago I told her that we are not going to see each other anymore. She said it is okay since she only has two friends left, it doesn't hurt losing one more. She said she feel so lonely here and that she wants to move back.

Arrr... I do feel bad, and somehow I feel that. Perhaps I would rather suffer being with her rather than seeing her sad.

What should I do?

vashti · #10 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 11:48 AM

???

She just told you she didn't mind losing you as a friend. I'd say it's time to move on.

Pears · #11 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:05 PM

Forget her. You don't deserve to suffer for her.

jinx343 · #12 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 06:27 PM

she's just trying to emotionally blackmail you. she wants you to feel bad for leaving her and at the same time she's saying you're unworthy by saying it doesn't hurt her losing you. it only shows how she thinks about you. you're just her emotional bag. nothing more.

go guy! leave!