What should i do?

[Aeon666]

Today I asked out my friend, and I got a kinda neutral answer. She hesitated, then told me that because of her last relationship, she wasn't really into it with boys, she thought it only brought pain and sadness. I told her I was patient and that she didn't have to answer me right away, and i also told her that her friendship is important to me and that i didn't want to cause pain to her or myself. She then told me that for her a relationship was not only to get sex and such, but to know that you can count on your loved one and that he can count on you. I replied that I thought so too (I didn't lie.) That's pretty much it, she didn't say yes or no, and I wonder what I should do...should I just lest things flow and wait for her to talk to me or should i do something? Either way, thanks for replying.

[Mishanya]

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Originally Posted by Aeon666

That's pretty much it, she didn't say yes or no, and I wonder what I should do...should I just lest things flow and wait for her to talk to me or should i do something? Either way, thanks for replying.

Sounds like the ball is in her court now. All you can do is subtley push your relationship with her along. In the end it's all about chemistry, take her out places, if it's working out between the two of you then it's just the matter of time before realtionship happens on its own.

[Aeon666]

Okay, it's been 8 days since I asked her out, she didn't give me an answer yet...but we talk to each other a lot, for example, we were at some friend's house, and she told me to come with her, apart from the group, and asked for my advice on a problem with her father. I helped her on that matter, and when I mentioned (while in the group) that I could stay half an hour longer to take the bus with her, she said take a chair, and we went talking for like 30 minutes in another room. Do you think she is showing me that I have her trust and that she is waiting for me to do something? Also, my friend who knows my situation tells me i should give her a kiss on the cheek to show her my love...should I do that? Thanks for responding.

Puzzled dude

[Mathias]

She's not going to go for it.

If she really liked you, the past wouldn't be an issue.

[Aeon666]

You're telling me that all is lost?

[HippoCRATE]

Haha, I don't think that Mathias is totally wrong but also, No, all is not lost. I think that you guys should just take it really really slow. Keep it up with whatever you're doing. Try not to make too sudden of a move, after all, it sounds like she's been testing you on how she can "count on you" and stuff. If you're still pursuing her after a long while and she isn't budging an inch, it's probably better to move on and stay friends.

[Gigabitch]

If she wanted you, she'd have let you know by now. It's not going to happen.