Please help!

[PJ581]

My best friend. We used to date, but she broke up with me because I decided to be a jerk and not believe her over my "supposedly" friends(honesty she is the only one I have ever fell in love with). Well she came and hung out with me today. It was absolutely amazing. We spent like three hours in the hot tub together, She finally met my dad and he liked her. He doesn't like anyone. I thought I was over her, but her smile just pulled me right back. The whole time she was here, she kept putting on the song "All over you- The spill canvas" Idk if she meant for it, or if it was just an incidence. Now I can't stop listening to it. Before she left I kissed her on the cheek and she couldn't stop smiling. The thing is she has a boyfriend. She says he is really amazing, but it really bothers me that I cannot have her. I honestly am in love with her, I'm not lusting, or just think I'm in love with her. It was honestly Love At First Sight, out of all places in the world I met her at walmart. Well I need to stop rambiling so someone might acctually read this.

Please give me advice

much thanks to anyone with a informative comment.
Thank you.

[overlooked]

if you trully love her, let her go if she's happy with someone else. it gonna hurt, but u should prioritise her happiness over urs. go after her only when she tells u that she isnt happy with her current bf. then the time is right. right now is definitely not. but u can tell her ur feeling to her now, and let her decide what to do. she might actually like u. however dont expect much. just be ready for all possibilities. dont force her (or expect her) to do what u want her to do.

[PJ581]

I don't expect her to do anything. I just feel really heartached.
I don't want to tell her how I feel because the fact that she is my best friend and I really don't want to mess that up.
and she used to be IN love with me too.
I just seriously am confused.

[sine24]

until she leaves her boyfriend..leave her alone. its not right to mess with someone who's already committed to another person. you had your chance..she's moved onto someone who she really likes..why cant you just be happy for her? it just seems like she's flirting with you and maybe overstepping the line a little bit with the whole hot tub thing. you mentioned she was once in love with you..thats in the past..im guessing you really hurt her..probably the reason why you guys will just remain friends.

[JarrodHalsey]

Dude the damage is done. If there's one thing I've learned about women its that when the trust is gone, its near impossible to get back. Even when they decide to take you back after betraying their trust. You had her, then you believed a group of people (who ended up not being your friends, no less) over your best friend/girlfriend? That's only a step below cheating. No doubt you two still love each other, but she's never going to put herself in a position where she'll have to be dependent on your trust because you've already proven to be unreliable in that department.

What do I suggest? Let her go. Just because two people love each other doesn't mean they are supposed to be together. Fully appreciate now what your relationship has turned into and cherish it. You ignore what you have now if you just keep wishing it was something more.

[Cain]

I personally don't think she should have been in the hot tub with you in the first place since she's in a relationship.

[PJ581]

Well that was our past and we both admitted today that we where childish and immature about the whole situation. Back than we were gangsters or w/e it is and we tried to show out. but we are ourselves and none of us could quit smiling. I trust her with my life, and she trusts me with anything. I know it was kinda wrong of her to get in the hot tub. She was the one that wanted to get in it. and its not like we cuddled or went in there naked. We are just best friends. I don't plan on trying to mess with her at all like that untill she is not with the guy no more anyways.

[reeba]

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Originally Posted by Cain

I personally don't think she should have been in the hot tub with you in the first place since she's in a relationship.

And for 3 hours? Isn't there medical warnings against that because of heat stroke and heart conditions?

[PJ581]

we had the tempature a lil below 80 degrees. so it wasn't even hot.