I have been suspecting that my wife has been cheating on me for a while now, in general my wife and I get along great except when she has issues with school or her job. I barely get to see her, and she rarely speaks to me lately. She has been very distant and I have been resentful towards her for that.
Just a few hours ago while she was sleeping I went through her phone, I know this is an invasion of her privacy, but I just had to know. She had sent some very erotic texts toward an old school friend and her and I haven't spent anytime together....It's always, go go go go go.
I woke her up and confronted her.....Then she started to cry, she didn't lie to me, she came right out with it. I asked her how many times.....and she said twice. When I asked why, she just said it sort of happened and she was feeling lonely. She felt that
that I resented her, but she didn't know why. It's just we hardly see each other any more. I want to confront this guy, but my wife demands that I don't....I just want to ask why?
I don't know how to take this....I held her as she cried her eyes out and told her that everything was going to be okay, and that I forgive her...Deep down I don't, although I feel that I contributed to this by not being there for her, but she never gave me the chance.
What should I do next? I want to do the counseling thing, but we are both students and she has a part time job. We both have no time.....Yet she has time to cheat on me...
We have been talking all night about it, but we never even touched the tip of the iceberg. I admit I can be a very selfish person, but i refuse to take the full blame for this. We were very close up until recently when we haven't seen each other. We have been married for a little more than a year and been dating a year before.... I think my marriage is going in to the crapper
What can I do about this?